Yes, I have. Love and sex are two different things. Got time for a story?
I met a young lady in October of 1994 while we were both working at the Dayton Airport for an overnight freight carrier. We fell in love a few months later...she was 20 and I was 29 at the time. She had danced off and on since the age of 17...I, at that time, had never stepped foot inside a strip club.
In 1997, at her request, we took a bunch of photos of her at a topless beach on a lake near Dayton, and we sent them out to various men's magazines and their amateur contests. She won five or six thousand dollars and several of the magazines contacted her for pro layouts. During one of those shoots Peter Wall, then a freelance photographer who was shooting her for SCORE in Florida, took her to see her first feature dancer (Darrien Vain or Rio Rivers, I think). She adopted the name "Felicia Fox" not long after, in August of 1998.
In the summer of 1999, I left my job (building semi trucks on an assembly line) and we took our first feature dance booking through Ken Shinkle at Continental. I also began DJing in strip clubs in between our bookings. In the spring of 2000 we saw Jenna Jameson perform for the first time at Diamonds Cabaret in Dayton, and during the show Felicia turned to me (breathless, stars in her eyes) and said "I want to do porn. I want an audience like this."
I was, to put it mildly, shocked...we weren't swingers. Like every other feature dancer who DOESN'T do porn, we had played the game and allowed clubs and agents to make it seem like she was a porn actress -- without every having done the work. I thought about it for a few minutes and told her "Okay, as long as you treat it like a job and don't get caught up in the lifestyle." At the time, being young and stupid, we thought she would be able to just work with me.
We posted some photos of her on geneross.com, and we were contacted not long after by Dirty Bob and Den from
www.cavr.com (both Dayton residents with ties to the industry). Dirty Bob suggested we call -- drum roll, please -- Mike South down in Atlanta, who we talked with several times before he agreed to shoot Felicia in Sept. 2000 down in Tampa between two feature bookings. (Before we shot with Mike, Sin City flew us out to Los Angeles for a weekend and we met with Michael Raven, who discussed a possible contract offer for her. She would have signed, but he was insistent that she agree to do interracial and work non-condom, and she refused, claiming she wasn't quite ready to do either. She eventually did both, but on her own terms.)
We met Mike in September, and her first scene was a BBG with Mike and me -- it later appeared in Mike South's Confederate Cuties #4, and is now available for download on his
www.ezmadedvd.com site. It was, to put it mildly, disconcerting...obviously, she would be working with people other than me...duh...but we talked about it on the way back to Miami for her show, and we were both okay with everything, so we made plans to go to Los Angeles and try more films. Since the purpose of shooting porn in the first place was to build her name and audience on the feature circuit (to make her a "porn star", in other words) we knew we needed to -- as agent Ken Shinkle put it -- "do a lot more fucking".
[Her next film she worked with Ron Jeremy. More Than a Handful #9. First Mike South, then the Hedgehog -- Jesus, was someone up there trying to tell me something?]
Long story short -- she wound up shooting over 100 films, won several awards, and made alot of money on the feature circuit. Got her coveted boxcovers. She became a "porn star", though not on Jenna's level, but she kept her real boobs, small town charm, and sanity intact, which was way more important to me. She got to go out on tour with Tool and A Perfect Circle, got to dance onstage with Kid Rock, and we got to hang out with Korn and Zakk Wylde and Danny Lohner. We moved to the Valley for a few years, had the time of our lives, made a few enemies along the way, and made some great friends who we still see whenever we can.
She never did an anal scene. She never caught an STD. She never got hurt or taken advantage of and she never did one single thing on film that she didn't want to do.
We wound up with a lifetime of great memories, and it was worth it, for us. We're still together, now monogamous (again). We live happily in Dayton with our ten-month-old son, Hendrix. And, to come full circle, now Mike South is going to be the best man at our wedding in September, with Dirty Bob taking the wedding photos. We've been together for going on 14 years now.
Yes, I've let me wife get fucked by other men. I may even be a suitcase pimp, like they say. But, goddammit, I sure am a happy one these days.
