is there an optimum time to wait before marrying someone?
 

one year...three years?

Just how long should you wait before tying the knot?

im at the one year stage and it seems my mother and my girl are conspiring together now..is this the end of carefree brad???

i waited 7 years.

I was about a year, I just knew that she was the one for me though.. Happily married 5 years now.

i think it depends on your age and your amount of experience in dating.. like if you've been through 3 or so long term relationships and can differentiate between love and lust, and you know what kind of person you would be compatible with then go ahead and make the move.

but never make the move to marriage because you feel obligated, or feel rushed to do it..

Eternity.

hmm one year and seven years

might be time to jump in the deep end

depends on how old you are
if you're 20 I'd suggest 5 years
if you're 50, 1 year can be a lot ;)

hehe well im 31..i have dated many and been with many girls, so that is out of my system(not bragging)....and i think this might be the one....although i am told i get attracted to anything doing dishes..or making dinner..lol

she takes great care of me, and we share many of the same goals, we speak about business...overall good girl

Dated for 4 yrs got engaged for 1 year and broke it off (thank god)

Have a friend that moved in with a girl after 1 month, engaged after 3 months, just got married this past May 05. They are pregnant now too :Oh crap They seem to be happy.

Have another friend that moved in with a girl and her 3 yr old kid, got engaged after 6 months, married 5 months later (she had the wedding planned 2 days after they got engaged :Oh crap ) They had a kid together 6 months afterwards... and things just get worse...he's in hell!!!


Bottom Line:

It's anybodys game! There is no method to the madness of relationships. :error

I'd say 2-3 years ...

After 25, I say 2 years of dating and one year of being engaged. Anything longer than that is a waste of time.

6 months - and we've been married 20 years. It's more important to be best friends than sex partners.

I woul wait atleast 3 years, after 1 year you still don't even know the real person imo

Dude.. Getting Married? I guess if you love her bro...

yeah...i think it is a done deal...i certainly love her....we are good friends as well

Either you know or you don't. If you have to ask for advice on how long you should wait you're not ready or she's not right. Most people know right away, even if it is the lust talking. Think of your biggest fight to date, amplify that by a factor of 3 and ask yourself if you're ready for that on a regular basis.

Remember, no matter how long you're dating you're still in the "Test Drive" phase. Once you take the car off of the lot. It loses half of it's value.

Buy the car under market value and fix it up and you'll have it around a long time.

Right on Brad. :thumbsup

hah yeah...i have said the same to myself...if i dont know im nt ready..but i also find it convienient...to get out of the situation

20 years sounds about right - if you still like each other after 20 years, go ahead and get married :)

its been 6 yrs with me & the boyfriend, up till this year, i kept tellin him i didnt wanna get married. some people never get married and are comfy with just being boy/girlfriends. just look at Goldie Hawn & Kurt Russel. They've been together for like 20 yrs & have kids, but they're not married.

I'd say once she learns to "SHut The Fuck Up" is a good time to tie the knot!

dude..she is korean..she came pre taguht ;)

22.75 months.

Why ruin a good relationship by getting married? And it does make a difference.

korean women are raised to be totaly respectful of thier man and they value family above all else. Funny thing about them though, is they look young forever then one day you wake up and they look old as shit. Never seems to be an in-between with them.

Don"t Fucking Do It

I think it depends on age and where you're at in your life.

My dad got married last year. They became engaged after knowing each other for just a couple months, probably 4. I thought he was crazy, but after thinking about it he is 43 and would like to have another kid. Maybe it isn't so crazy after all.

I have a friend that has been dating someone for about 4 months. They're already making life plans. Talking about marriage, kids, etc. I think she's crazy. Someone my age should probably have at least 2 years of knowing the other person. Hell just over the past 2 years I see a lot of changes in myself, I'm sure other people see even more. People my age are still learning, growing, etc.

For your age, 1 year I think could be perfectly fine if everything else seems to match up. You probably shouldn't rush into the actual marriage, but I think 12-15 months is enough to warrant a proposal.

Good luck dude.

only if you get her pregnant

There is no time ... and where have I been and why don't I know about this girl?!?

I've been with my guy for 8 years (met him just after my 20th birthday) and we had plans to marry in 3+ years. But we recently (last week) decided to up our wedding date to next summer. My guy said that he was always ready to get married to me, but he was suddenly "really ready" after we experienced a minor situation and came together to talk.

You're ready to commit when being married is about sharing your daily lives with each other instead of about telling stories of your wedding day.

Until you know you want to spend the rest of your life with her that is when you are ready.

"Congratulations Frank, you're one vagina for the rest of your life. Way to think things through".

- Old School

:pimp :pimp :pimp :pimp

i did a ctrl-f for this answer to see if someone was as smart as me.

Bingo.

wait til you're alteast 30!

Wait at least 8 hours. Don't do what I did.

I just met my new girl a few months ago. We're moving in together in 3 weeks and getting married July 29th 2006. When you know she's the one, you just know. I've never felt this way about a girl in my entire life and the feeling is mutual. You just know.

when you get tired of the dating game I think its about time to settle down.

enough time to get the blood test results in Vegas. :winkwink: