The love of my life left me... what should i do?
 

I was dating the most incredible girl in the world since a year and a half... the most beautiful, intelligent and sweetest girl i ever met and now she left me and im going through the worst time in my life.

To make a long story short... when we met for the first time she had a boyfriend (longtime... 2 years), we liked so much that we started dating each other, with him in the middle. We continued a very passionate relation for 8 months when she left him and committed to me...

Since day one we were ALL day together (and i mean every day) except for a few exceptions... so, our thing was INTENSE. We had great romantic moments and fantastic trips together. We could talk about almost anything and we laugh all the time.

I gave her nice gifts all the time, from expensive watches to my own poetry & flowers. I took her to the best restaurants in town and helped her a lot when she moved to a new house (appliances, papers and stuff).

But recently we were really tired... she study from 8am to 1pm and go to work from there to 8pm. And i have a similar day (although i have my own company). So the last 2-3 weeks were hard... she was always in a bad mood and tired, sex was not as good as always and i said bad things to her when we fought.

So a week ago (after a small fight the day before when i sad bad things to her again) she told me she doesn't feel anything for me anymore and she is indiferent. She told me she doesn't want to see me or hear from me ever again. And she is the kind of girl you can believe when speaking...

Do you think she still has feelings for me but left me cause the relation was exhausting and i also hurt her feelings (she has a BIG pride)?

She's cheating on you, with another guy.

I had a similiar relationship. I was with him for three years.... everything was perfect. But I wasn't ready to get married yet, and moved out West. I pretended that I didn't love him anymore.
And now, after 5 months... I am moving back to Indiana to be with him. Maybe she's like me and needs some time to really sort out her feelings for ya. I wish you the best =)

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Sorry, no. Wasn't enough physical time for her to do that. Besides, for the kind of girl she is and for all i was giving to her, if she choose to cheat me, she will not left me... this was all of the sudden, a month ago we came from a great trip to the mountains and a few days ago she was angry with me cause i couldnt make it 30mins earlier to have more time together... i mean, a girl that sleeps with you 5/6 out of 7 days of the week when she has her own house cant be indiferent to you, right?

8AM to 8PM she's somewhere else and odds are she met someone in class or at work.

Women 99% of the time won't up and leave a relationship until they have another to jump into.

Write it off. Don't chase her. If there is something there in her heart it will find its way back to you.

One of the hardest things in life is learning to let go and realize love isn't permenant. You get many loves in your life. Each serves a particular purpose to teach you something and help your soul to grow.

I know your hurt. It sucks when you think you have something and in reality its really not there.

Move on, there are 3 Billion other women out there to fall in love with.

Wake up to reality dude. You said she was beautiful, sweet and intelligent, and wasn't around from 8AM to 8PM. That's half the day where some other guy has an opportunity to zoom in.

Hello.

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Karma is a bitch . I hope you feel better dude.....

what did you expect?

That what she did to him she cant do to you?

Chances are shes not fucking around with somebody else
but she is well capable of doing so, so whats the difference?

Great post KRL, thanks... those are the conclusions that most of the people told me. I discard one thing though, she is not cheating me. Im sure cause she simply doesnt have the time to do it.

Besides, i REALLY believe i found my soulmate, the person who i want to be the last thing to see in the last moments of my life. How do i let her go away just like that? I can't... and i also dont believe what she is telling me...

I can believe our intense relation annoyed her... so that plus a lot of personal problems she is having, plus my mistakes when i said awful things to her, made her be really angry with me... a pride thing.

Also, i know her a lot... im sure she still has feelings for me (im not saying she is still in love, or the feelings are good, im saying they are there) but she is a girl who doesnt have problems finding guys and i also know she have the ability to hide past relations really quickly and forever if someone 'dissapear' for a long time...

... never show them how much you love them or they will fuck the milkman. the better they are, the more you treat them like shit. once they warship the ground you walk on, pimp them out.

kill her

Yeah, of course i understand that but although someone can be around, specially in the work, you know, you have to move outside those ground to do something... like dinner, movies, etc etc. And in that free time she was with me... not because i was forcing her cause im jelous or something, simple because we wanted and mostly her.

I remember when she was cheating her former bf for 8 months when she was with me... she saw him only on fridays and the relation was a joke. This time is completely different.

Thats why you dont let the bitch leave the house.

If you met the girl and dated while she had a boyfriend you can see what kind a skank she is already.

and then blow myself in a crowed mall so i can take with me as many people i can? Yeah, i thought about that in the initial moments but i declined the idea due to lack of resources.

Just get a new piece of ass and you will forget the bitches name :2 cents:

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well I know how you feel... lately i been with a hottest girl i've ever been with, everything was going very nice for 5 months and I thought she's the one, then she started to work almost everyday, and looks like it's going to end because she never has time (and i know she's not cheating 100%)... I just want to tell her that if she sticks with me she won't need to work for the rest of her life and have it all, but I can't do that because I want her to like me for who I am not what I got... we'll see what happens, wish you luck man, I know it fucking sux when it happens, hard to get it off your mind.

Thanks Mandy... i need a woman advice now! What should i do now? I called her a few times this week... most of the time she sound really upset and always hung on me. Yesterday we finally could have a decent phone conversation but today i went to her house and left her a photo of us kissing in a trip... you know, to bring memories again but i called her and she was upset again...

Real simple you broke rule 1

don't date a girl who is willing to leave someone else to go to you or you will find she will leave you for someone else.

Sorry but thats the reality of life and karma :sadcrying

she cheated to be with you, and cheated while with you, now she's with her new boyfriend

Thanks man, if you are sure and feel like her is the one dont be like me and screw everything, not even for a short period like a month or weeks like i did. Spice the relation again... short trips, unexpected gifts, brake the rutine from time to time. I wish you luck there!

i know that after reading my story thats the usual conclusion but its not the case. When she cheated before she really was indiferent to the other... only saw him a day in the week, always to do the same thing, etc etc.

With me, she was 6 out of 7 days of the week in my bed at night... see the difference?

well, chasing her won't do any good, if she wants me she'll call (she does call once in a while). I ain't ganna run around like idiot, I got too much to offer, it's her lose :glugglug

Time heals all wounds...go after her now if you love her.

Move on with life without her, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?

DH

Obviously she does not feel appreciated.
You are here sitting and writing to people you dont know on a messageboard.
Try explaining your feelings to her instead.

Thats what im doing... i dont have plans to let her go. Believe me, i have been with other girls and no one get even close to this one... and the possibility of never found someone like this again scares the shit out of me.

ALL people i spoke with told me not to 'chase' her everyday with calls, unexpected meetings, things like that. Im doing my best... i call her 1 or 2 times every 2 days with mixed results.

She'll just need time and space... my ex called me 70 times while i was at the gym one day... went completely psycho for a few months. then i promised him i would be back by my 21st bday, Aug 9th. I ended up going to Miami instead. It's only now that I realize how much I love him. I'll be back in Indiana on Oct 13th for good =)

fuck as many girls as possible...

Right, thats what im doing. Today it was a photo of us kissing in her doorstep (which she got upset about)... tomorrow a sincere letter and im making what im giving the most hopes... an oil painting of her alone, made by a good artist which i plan to send to her work. Do you think that will have any effect?

No offence at all.. but if she cheated on her last man with you.. what makes you think she would not cheat on you?? Once a cheater ... always a cheater.
Find yourself a good woman that is not married or involved hon.. You will have a much better chance of her being loyal to you.. :2 cents:

No

WOMEN ARE EVIL

Yes, true... she is capable of cheating me, i give you that. But she didn't. Try my shoes... you find the love of your life the way i did (cheating her bf), would you just forget her just because she is capable of cheating you but she never did it?

She probably just wants to know how you feel about her. How sad you feel now she is not around anymore. Money cant buy love. Did you start taking her for granted after all that time you spent together maybe?
Opening your wallet will only help if she is a bad girl. Open you heart instead. Tell her how you feel dude...Be open and honest. Show her that you are vulnerable.

Right, the painting is not about money... is about the most inmortal gift i can think about. Every girl dreams about being inmortalized in a good painting... ill paint it myself if i could but i cant. I can only draw and when i first gave her a draw of her when she was a little girl (from a photo), which i did... she went crazy with me (in the good way)

But you are true, i think i took her for granted in the last time together.

Yep...she did it before and is probably doing it again on you

karma is a bitch isnt it