Heres convo with her?? is she a gold digger?
 

ME (3:54:30 PM): ive been talking to this dude
HER (3:54:34 PM): ?
ME (3:54:34 PM): wanna invest in some shit, but
ME (3:54:44 PM): it means like all my $$ will be tied away for sometime.lol
ME (3:54:47 PM): so i'll be broke
ME (3:54:48 PM): haha
HER (3:54:48 PM): whoaa
HER (3:54:55 PM): are u gonna do it>?
ME (3:54:57 PM): yup
HER (3:55:04 PM): what?
ME (3:55:07 PM): yea
HER (3:55:09 PM): thats sooo werid
ME (3:55:11 PM): yea
HER (3:55:18 PM): do u know if its gonna work?
ME (3:55:29 PM): yup 100% sure
ME (3:55:32 PM): only downside is
ME (3:55:38 PM): u have no money for sometime
HER (3:56:04 PM): how long/
HER (3:56:09 PM): couple of months?
ME (3:57:01 PM): maybe more.hehe i mean i can still afford to pay bills like car/phone
ME (3:57:06 PM): just wont have $$ to do other shit
HER (3:57:12 PM): like eat?
ME (3:57:27 PM): lol i can eat, just not expensive places..
HER (3:57:37 PM): lol
ME (3:57:46 PM): BK here i come :-)
ME (3:57:48 PM): mcdonalds too
HER (3:58:03 PM): awww
HER (3:58:05 PM): bum bum
HER (3:58:46 PM): bum bum, come on a train
ME (3:58:50 PM): oh
ME (3:58:51 PM): when
HER (3:59:10 PM): um
HER (3:59:18 PM): whenever u can
ME (3:59:35 PM): when do u want me to come
HER (3:59:42 PM): today!
HER (4:02:10 PM): um...
HER (4:02:14 PM): today?
ME (4:04:09 PM): naw
ME (4:04:12 PM): not today
HER (4:04:26 PM): oh
HER (4:04:56 PM): ok
HER (4:08:28 PM): ok..since ive been put on hold
HER (4:08:31 PM): by you
HER (4:08:40 PM): ill tell you some stuff that i like about you
HER (4:08:44 PM): um....lets see
HER (4:09:02 PM): first of all, you're sweet and nice and oh! so lovable
HER (4:09:08 PM): ur like my bum bum for life
HER (4:09:11 PM): and beyond
HER (4:09:38 PM): and
HER (4:09:42 PM): i miss you
HER (4:09:48 PM): everday second that ur not with me
HER (4:09:55 PM): and i think about you everyday
HER (4:09:58 PM): every minute
HER (4:10:00 PM): every hour

COMMENTS?

can you not see it youself?

ME (3:55:38 PM): u have no money for sometime
HER (3:56:04 PM): how long/

Doesn't sound like a gold digger to me. You said you'd be broke for a few months and she still had nice things to say about you. :thumbsup

from that i would say no shes not a gold digger but hun they all can play the role if they want to or suspect you think they are and dont want them to be, some men dont care if they are there for the money or not just want them there

how old is she?

18, 19 in 2 weeks

I've got one of those now too. Just turned 19, but just UNDER my 10 year limit. Thank God I'm only 28 :Graucho

I seen worse.

Yeah right! She looks okay to me!

She's young...only 19. If she's anything like my little yummy, she's more high maintainence than she is gold digger.

what is with bum bum ?

pic? :)

yeah shes high maintenance... and she calls me bum bum as her special name for me.lol


Is high maintenance bad??

is that a question you really need to ask?

don't get attached, she is still young and dumb dumb :)

:1orglaugh Indeed. First thing I noticed.

why didn't you respond when she said to see you today? you just sat there making her feel uncomfortable.

lol some say she is, some say she isnt, what do i go with

It's obvious that this thread requires a pic before any other decision can be made :Graucho

gold digger - no

Annyoing and immature - yes

:1orglaugh

at least she says nice things about you....Ill just get a nice slap in the face after a $120 dinner.

Who cares? make up your own mind

I'll just pretend you asked for my opinion. :)

She has golddigger tendencies, even if she's not conciously aware of them.

She's young. She thinks investing in a business is "weird". She thinks a month without money is a long time.

She's rather clingy.

She seems nice at heart, and playful.

It's up to you, but I'd treat her casually, as a fun girl to take out on the town now and then, but not as a long term committment. But that's just my 1.347 cents.

Pics please.

Sounds like concern to me, not for your ability to buy her stuff. If you told me you were putting every last penny into something, I'd probably ask if you're sure and for how long as well. Just seems like a dumb move.

Anyway... that's just my opinion. She just has concern for your well being. Doesn't sound much like a gold digger at all.

Just stop trying to "find a reason" that she'd be with you instead of those other "better looking" guys. The reason is you... not your money. Just accept it, and enjoy it.

All these games and trying to find that "reason" will only end up pushing her away in the end, no matter what the reason ultimately is.

She wants to be with you, accept it.

no she's not! c'mon now .. how many threads do you need to see the obvious

Sounds very sweet to me. :)

This is the route that I'm taking at the moment. But she's beginning to grow on me. We'll have to revisit this thread a few months from now and see where things stand :winkwink:

The best way to see if someone is "using" you is this.

Next time you go for dinner, does she buy the movie tickets? When she goes shopping, does she ever pick you up anything? Or if she doesn't have a job, does she do something nice for you -cleanup, cook etc?


She doesnt sound like one, I know if my bf was going through a deal, I would ask him too how long his money would be tied up.


BD

good combination, train her well :Graucho

poor bum bum

"bum bum" kinda reminds me of that Saved By The Bell episode where Screech makes a ton of money by selling spaghetti sauce and gets that gold digger girlfriend... "awww screechie poo". Not saying she's a gold digger. Just don't spend any money on her for a while and see what happens. If she leaves you, be happy that she did before things got serious. I've been where you are before dude, don't worry about it, eventually you'll see the light hehe.

Hmm ok..

She's a keeper!:thumbsup

I concur.
But there is really no way to tell until you're unemployed and move in with her for a few years :1orglaugh

shes gonna be SO happy when she read this here

Sounds like a nice girl :thumbsup

doesnt sound gold diggerish to me. I think she is interested in your money situation because you have to go visit her and now she doesnt know when the next time she will get a good meal.