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03-02-2010, 09:22 AM

Ok so I am shopping at my local slightly illegal hippie food market and my wallet falls out of my pocket. It contained all my credit cards, $300 cash, ID, etc. He finds me as I am about to walk out and hands it over to me.

This guy is like 50% black, has dread locks, and spends all day husking coconuts.

I thanked him 2 or 3 times and did not know what else to do so just left. Now I am wondering what if anything else I should do for him. Am I being an stereotyping asshole for wanting to give him a fat bud of chronic? (because he is part black/has dreads/gets paid under the table at a hippie market)

Or should I give him cash next time I see him? Or nothing?

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03-02-2010, 09:25 AM

Shouldn't a heartfelt thank you be enough? If you were returning someone else's would you expect more than that?
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03-02-2010, 09:26 AM

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03-02-2010, 09:27 AM

While I'd love a big fat bud of chronic for returning a lost wallet, I wouldn't want someone to assume that I'd want that big fat bud of chronic.

I'd give him some cash and let him decide what he wants to do with it. Maybe paying his phone bill is higher on his list than getting high.

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03-02-2010, 09:27 AM

I think that you feel more compelled to do something since most people these days are douchebags. In 2010, most people don't think they would get their wallet returned to them, whereas 15 years ago it would have been expected.

I have found that saying "please," "thank you," "have a nice day," go really far. It's like people don't expect it and when you say it, it truly feels genuine.

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03-02-2010, 09:28 AM

yup nothing says thank you like a bj.
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03-02-2010, 09:28 AM

Originally posted by cwd

If you were returning someone else's would you expect more than that?

No, I would never accept a reward for something like that. I would feel cheesy.
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03-02-2010, 09:29 AM

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03-02-2010, 09:35 AM

Originally posted by candyflip

I'd give him some cash and let him decide what he wants to do with it. Maybe paying his phone bill is higher on his list than getting high.

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03-02-2010, 09:38 AM

Of course your thank you's should be enough. People should return things when found, it's the normal thing to do, in every generation.

I wouldnt treat it like he was a hero, or else it sends the message that simply doing the correct thing is somehow extraordinary. The news is constantly guilty of this.

I would thank him profusely which you have done, and probably offered to buy lunch or something and let him accept or decline on the spot as well. It's also the normal, nice thing to do.

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03-02-2010, 09:41 AM

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Of course your thank you's should be enough. People should return things when found, it's the normal thing to do, in every generation.

I wouldnt treat it like he was a hero, or else it sends the message that simply doing the correct thing is somehow extraordinary. The news is constantly guilty of this.

I would thank him profusely which you have done, and probably offered to buy lunch or something and let him accept or decline on the spot as well. It's also the normal, nice thing to do.

Yeah many people are actually offended if someone tries to give them money for doing the right thing.
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03-02-2010, 09:43 AM

If it were me and my finances were cool, I'd drop 50 bucks his way. Escaping the nightmare of cancelling all my credit cards, license replacement, etc. is worth that (and more)

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03-02-2010, 09:51 AM

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Yeah many people are actually offended if someone tries to give them money for doing the right thing.

If it were me and you offered me money I'd just ask you to buy something for your kids or just pass it on.

I remember on one of the many moves my family made when I was a kid, my 4 brothers and I helped my dad and the movers move everything in. My dad handed the movers 100 bucks tip and he insisted that he split it among us kids. Was a cool deal. This was around 1974 or so.

Wasn't until years later that I learned that IBM paid every last cent of the relocation and moving and even meals for the week anyway.

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03-02-2010, 09:58 AM

Buy him a gift. If you aren't comfortable buying him weed, buy him something you're comfortable with buying. It's less offensive than cash in any case.

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03-02-2010, 11:43 AM

Originally posted by lumenus

No, I would never accept a reward for something like that. I would feel cheesy.

Reflect on that... Perhaps he dosnt expect anything either.

if you have the serious need to drop a nug... just ask him the next time youre there if yhe wants to spark a spliff. You might gain a new friend from a simple nice gesture.

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03-02-2010, 11:48 AM

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03-02-2010, 11:52 AM

i think it's always polite and proper to offer a little cash, even just $20, and let them refuse if they don't want it.

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03-02-2010, 07:03 PM

i have to say the blow job is the best way of saying thanks, but if your not down for giving him one yourself send a whore in to blow him and tell him it was the guy that dropped the wallet that sent her. you will be his hero as people never forget a free blow job...

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03-02-2010, 07:09 PM

Geez,didn't it cross your mind at all to atleast offer him a little money? you're damn lucky somebody didn't stiff you for a whole lot of headaches man

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03-02-2010, 07:12 PM

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03-02-2010, 07:13 PM

Originally posted by lumenus

a fat bud of chronic?

This substance could be legal or illegal depending on where you live. I think you should consider that.

Now, if you want to work on your social skills, I think that talking to the person face-to-face is what you want to do. Giving him chronic or money is not neccesarily going to help your social skills.

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03-02-2010, 07:20 PM

This is a common gypsy ploy. They steal your stuff then bring it back hoping for a fat reward, if they get none it's no loss.

but seriously , if you go there again maybe buy him a gift or lunch if you happen to catch him eating , if not no worries , if he is a decent guy he will feel good about the karma he got from returning your wallet.

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03-02-2010, 08:13 PM

Originally posted by lumenus

Ok so I am shopping at my local slightly illegal hippie food market and my wallet falls out of my pocket. It contained all my credit cards, $300 cash, ID, etc. He finds me as I am about to walk out and hands it over to me.

This guy is like 50% black, has dread locks, and spends all day husking coconuts.

I thanked him 2 or 3 times and did not know what else to do so just left. Now I am wondering what if anything else I should do for him. Am I being an stereotyping asshole for wanting to give him a fat bud of chronic? (because he is part black/has dreads/gets paid under the table at a hippie market)

Or should I give him cash next time I see him? Or nothing?

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03-02-2010, 08:18 PM

Just put a nug in a baggie or something not so obvious and when you see him next tell him you found this out on the sidewalk and that maybe he knows who dropped it. Will take away some legal liability if you happen across the one straight-edge hippie who isn't cool with a little bud.

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03-03-2010, 02:53 AM

taking him for lunch or buying him a gift sound right queer.
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03-03-2010, 03:00 AM

I would have fully rolled one up and blazed it with him there. Potheads appreciate that shit. If you got the impression he was a pothead, he was a fucking pothead, and at the hippie market? Fucker probably grows more than his own weight in weed.
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03-03-2010, 03:05 AM

Originally posted by lumenus

Ok so I am shopping at my local slightly illegal hippie food market and my wallet falls out of my pocket. It contained all my credit cards, $300 cash, ID, etc. He finds me as I am about to walk out and hands it over to me.

This guy is like 50% black, has dread locks, and spends all day husking coconuts.

I thanked him 2 or 3 times and did not know what else to do so just left. Now I am wondering what if anything else I should do for him. Am I being an stereotyping asshole for wanting to give him a fat bud of chronic? (because he is part black/has dreads/gets paid under the table at a hippie market)

Or should I give him cash next time I see him? Or nothing?

Of course you should give him some weed, stereotypes are for those that can not transcend bullshit to reach the human animal beneath.

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