Well... you know what I mean ... I mean it's damn near perfect :) Sure, we don't see eye to eye on everything ... but as I said before ... we're grown up enough to work shit out without an argument :)

We've been together for almost 5 years. Sorry but everyone we know constantly tells us they think we're perfect together ... and you know what? It's true. And I don't mind saying it. So many cynical guys here. I'm in my 30's ... not exactly a love sick teen. I know life. I've been married before. Had a pretty shitty time of it. So you want cynical? I should be cynical. I got divorced and all the blame heaped on me, and a massive bill ...

But being with a girl like Perrie is a breath of fresh air. Even 5 years into the relationship, I'm still feeling pretty fucking happy about it.

Good stuff if you ask me! :D

Join the club... me and my wife (Smurfette) have been into the lifestyle for 11 years now, but we like it all... she enjoys women and men and I just stick to the women! lol

i'm 100% happy in my relationship with my girl. i just don't feel the need to spout all about it, and we *definitely* aren't perfect :) always a work in progress. all good, i'm glad you have found someone you can be happy with. cheers :glugglug

That's cool. And as mentioned before, doing what you wanna do is awesome. 11 years? And you haven't had a break up over it? Well, whaddya know ... there's hope for us after all! :D hehe.

Good work :)

Spout about it? Hmm. I get a lot of negativity because I am happy and enjoy saying I'm happy with my girlfriend. I'm not spouting. I bet your girl would LIKE you to speak up to others about it occasionally.

Plus, please note that I was only bringing these things up because Sebastian was trying his damnedest to make it look like there were cracks or there would be cracks. Which I didn't personally appreciate. Would you have just sat there and accepted those comments about your 100% happy relationship?

nope no breaks up... but we have seen alot of couples break up over the lifestyle... ground rules and communication is the key!

Absolutely! That is essential. And I definitely never withhold any thoughts I have to Perrie. And she gives the same back. At one point a couple of years ago ... for a few months, Perrie's confidence got low because she'd put on a few pounds while being off after an operation. She felt very insecure about her body ... and she immediately told me. And I immediately said I didn't want threesomes until she was ready again. A few months passed, she got her confidence back, and she said she wanted them. It's hugely important, I agree, to be communicative.

You guys clearly do it right! :)

why are you slowly creeping into being a suitcase pimp?

biz that bad?

Biz is terrible. I'm pimping your mum tommorow :D

lol calm down, dude. it's a message board, and you have no idea of what my girl wants or needs. she certainly isn't into me yapping about her on on gofuckyourself.com. just firing out some bullshit comments, as usual, take it for what it is.

but thanks for the maritial advice lol.

Now you know how I feel ! LOL! I am calm, and I wasn't saying what your girl wants or needs ... in fact, I didn't mention her needs once :) hehe.

Ok, I'm done now :D LOL! It appears that no one listens to me, and gets the wrong end of the stck. I'm also taking those pics down.

Was fun :)

Dave, after reading this, I want an extra discount on my toon, you have it too good...

if you are into public sex why is it only her face in the photos to be immortalized forever on the internet?

why not share the exposure?

"I bet your girl would LIKE you to speak up to others about it occasionally."

not that i give a shit. and we can spin this all evening (it's evenign where i am, and i'm bored waiting to pick someone up from a meeting. it's all good, i can no longer even get remotely worked up about anything on here. gfy is just one huge running joke.

my mom doesn't slum with emo faggots posting pics of naive young girls sucking their cocks on the internet in order to get their e-penis hard.

"I bet your girl would LIKE you to speak up to others about it occasionally."

not that i give a shit. and we can spin this all evening (it's evening where i am, and i'm bored waiting to pick someone up from a meeting. it's all good, i can no longer even get remotely worked up about anything on here. i think it was around 6 years ago i actually cared enough to get pissed (around the time ibill went under). gfy is just one huge running joke.

its all fun and games until you come home to your girl fucking another girl when you were supposed to be gone. although i suppose i say this somewhat out of jealousy but it does seem that most of the time things that are too good to be true often blow up in your face.

No ... she slums with the guys I sell her skanky ass to man :) You should know this ... you always ask for a cut of the cash! :)

appologize for double post. getting old.

No need to apologize :) And it's all good man :) You're right. This is just shooting crap around. Means nothing :)

Couples in the lifestyle have the strongest bonds

.... the highest level of communication and the most

The ultimate sense of security and dedication

and the hottest sex lives.

In fact, I would venture to say that of all the friends we had that were couples 10 years ago... the swingers are the only ones still together. The vanilla couples have since broke up divorced you name it.

@ Twisted and his pretty wife.. I will say that most couples do in fact start out as you guys have in seeking females only.

But don't worry pierrie you guys will be full swap in no time and you will likely end up being a hot wife or cuckin Dave for a while

then back to full to full swappin with select friends

but you guys will share a bond throughout all of this that most could never imagine...... and you will be happy the whole time and afterward.


I mean I dunno ... im just guessin that's how it goes

I don't see any pictures, hehe

Raf1, that's cuz jsut a few posts up, Dave said he pulled them down.

Dave and Perrie, don't let anyone try to rain on your parade. You two seem overall pleased with each other, and with the way I just read 78 posts to see what this was about, I noticed a few people came in and tried to ruin it, so to speak.

I sit here with a smug face thinking, damn these guys are jealous. What the hell is wrong with a couple of happy people shooting the shit on GFY?

I'm 100% happy with my fiance that I have been with for a little over 4 years, and as far as the swinging goes, we had talked about it about 3 years ago but it never went anywhere. We've had our squabbles and disagreements, but at the end of the day we still sleep in the same bed and wake up together (almost, LOL... I work way different hours than hers.)I may not be the best guy on the face of the earth but I treat my woman with respect and I try my best to keep her happy.

Long story short, if you don't like what these guys have to say, then don't try bringing them off their high horse., If they're happy, leave them be. Sheesh.

Join the crowd! The only way anyone can tell me what I am thinking or feeling is by being in my skin, and if that's possible, then there's some problems...

LOL! Never full swapping. The idea of being with another woman on my own makes me sick. And Perrie doesn't want to go with another guy. This is not me talking either ... from day one all the girl action we do was Perrie's idea. But what you say about the swingers etc is great. One day we'll stop doing what we do. We're not into the hard swinging ... but we just like a little bit of extra fun now and again. It satisfies Perrie's appetite for pussy, and gives me that little bit of two girl fun. Btw, any guys who think threesomes are better for the guys are wrong. Think about it ... two pussy's? Or a cock and a pussy? Seems like Perrie gets the most out of it !!! She gets more variety :D

Great post man ... I'm glad you're happy and life's good :)

thats what they want you to think but it goes bad more often than you think. you just don't hear about it. one couple i knew, the guys wife decided she wanted to leave her husband for one of the guys they'd been fooling around with so hubby decided to kill himself. he wasn't successful but definitly was not a happy ending.

I'm afraid that has nothing to do with the scene, and everything to do with moronic fuck heads like your friend's wife. Also him killing himself says more about how unstable his own mind is than anything else.

I'm just saying that it doesn't always work out like a fairytale. I'm sure these two were not the only fuck-ups who tried swining and failed. I think in a lot of cases one person wants it more than the other and the other feels obligated to go along with it because if they don't, well more than likely if they can't swing sooner or later they will cheat.

It seems to me that every single person who has tried to tell us that this is going to happen or that... is JEALOUS!

We have a fucking amazing relationship and we will be together for the rest of our lives... We know this and am happy... All you guys who are trying to bring us down and ruin what could have been a nice thread, obviously don't have or have never had it as good as we have it.

Dave and I talk to each other about EVERYTHING! Communication is the key to any relationship. We know how to work together in every aspect of our lives.

There is nothing anyone here can say that will make us think or feel any differently.

Jealousy will get you nowhere!

Have you got any real experience of your own or are you just going by things you've heard? I can honestly say you're wrong. MOST would NOT go along with it. Which is why, while three in a bed is the top fantasy for most men, MOST men will never get a chance. Because most girlfriends will say no. I'm basing my facts on first hand knowledge and experience :)

You can't use other people's history to think 'that's the way it's gonna be' with someone else. Every single person is different.

Neither of us ever need to cheat... We both get all we want out of what we're doing!

People predicting the future of random people's relationships or experiences based on people in the past, may as well use the past lottery results to predict the jackpot for the coming week! :D It's utterly unrelated. :) Statistics are soooo flawed in that sense :)

Agreeeeeeeeeeeed! :D

Going to go have a shower now! x

well im glad you guys are happy.. you are living the dream man.. id kill for a gf/wife who lets us fuck other girls.. all the girls ive met so far are too insecure for this shit..

but the problem is i get bored/tired of fucking the same gf.. she doesnt understand that by INVITING other girls, i'll never get tired, cuz its like i get to keep my gf, but fuck other girls.. win win for me.lol

My husband and I have been in the "swinging scene" together for over a decade... we have an open relationship as well.. and we are happy as all get out, it certainly doesn't cause problems for us. Communication, honesty, trust, self-confidence. When you have those things, it's much more possible to have this kind of relationship and be successful. Goodness knows it hasn't negatively impacted our sexual life together... we still skronk like bunnies.. probably moreso with the extra influx of sexual energy from our encounters with others.

Well all relationships are work. It's when people STOP working on relationships that they fall apart and turn to shit. I think most people just get lazy after a few years and comfortable and forget that there's effort involved. A true committment requires some work though. Nice to hear you're doing well, quiet :)

Excellent and although we're not in an open relationship in the same way ... it's the same principal.

I don't think just because you have an open relationship that you're gonna split or argue over it ... and I don't think just because we're in just softswing style situation that we're going to want to move to open. People have to judge and assign some kind of rule to these things. Those people don't get it because they're not lucky enough to GET IT! lol

Well I think a lot of lifestyle relationships break up because the people are in it for the wrong reasons. I call them "seekers".... they aren't fufilled in their relationship so they are seeking more to make them complete. If they are already complete in their relationship, and the rest is just fun and gravy with the focus being on their relationship as #1, it helps them stay together and stay focused. It's when people get carried away and lose sight of their prioroties that it causes major trouble.

First time I read the title I read it as sewing and was trying to figure out why they had a scene at all

For sure.. Well see for us it works out because it's harder to find chemistry between couples than it is singles.. but that doesn't mean we don't rock the couples. You gotta do what you're comfortable with together, and there has to be a dialogue. As long as the communication is open and honest, and nobody is playing games, hiding secrets, or whatever, anything can be worked out. If the focus is on the relationship with your mate, that's when things go well. If I were to ask hubby not to see someone or vice versa, that would be the end of it, no questions asked, no arguing.... The mate always comes FIRST!

That's assuming that the girl in question is that dishonest. There ARE some truthful women out there, as hard as that is to believe :P

You're right. And that's the same with us. There's been girls Perrie liked and wanted and I've said no to ... and vice versa. And it's not a "No you can't have her" ... it's a "Hmm, she's not my type" or "I'm not feeling like I wanna do it tonight"

Easy enough to say "ok, no worries!" It really isn't that big a deal to either of us. It's also not a life ruling choice. it's a lifestyle choice. In other words, if you decide not to do it for a while, like we did two years ago ... you don't. If you wanna pick back up, you do! I personally only enjoy it because I'm doing it with Perrie. I've slept with enough women to know that she's by far the best I've ever had. So many people here seem to have shitty relationships or none at all and don't like the idea that some people are happy and will be forever! lol.

:1orglaugh:1orglaugh

here is the million dollar question, where do you find that 3rd girl? my girl and i have talked about his for a long time, but thats the hitch, how do you find a girl thats willing to participate in a 3some?

We found a few through MySpace... Facebook threesome groups... Also swinging sites like swingingheaven etc! :)

I have found plentlyoffish.com to be a useful tool ;)

As long as you approach with a very clear and polite message, you'll be surprised how many girls are actually into the idea ...

We had tons of responses the first time we tried ... and we had much funtimes from them too.

You can do it once, or many times. One girl we just couldnt' stop going back to we ended up having fun with probably in the region of 50 times. We literally fucked her 5 or 6 times a week and she ended up staying round our house SOOOO much of the time ... pretty much live in fuck buddy. lol

That's over with now but dayam ... it was good ... we hung out and stuff inbetween fucking too ... Some girls you just fuck. Some you have fun with outside of the sex too.