To summon the assorted Doctors and Physical Therapists and seriously, truthfully ask them "What's next" after being told I would be paralyzed for life without letting depression or despair set in.
physically? probably when i was training really hard to bench 325lbs. a lot harder than i thought to get from 285 to 305, then 4x as hard to get to 325
but probably the hardest thing ive had to do in my life was make the decision to move out of Los Angeles and back to PA about two years ago. i had setup a business there, had friends and a nice apt and LOVED the life, but all of my family and college friends were back in PA and I felt that I was missing out on a lot not being around.
it was really stressful because I just broke up with my gf that we were together for 5 1/2 years as well as having to say by to some really good friends in LA and the life I had there to go settle back in PA with family and knowing it would be a very slim chance that I would ever move back.
I think the toughest part was not just moving out of LA, but knowing that I moved there with nothing out of college, had just enough money to pay the first month and security deposit and struggled for the first few months to have enough money to eat. I would be in Ralphs thinking "i cant wait until i can buy name brand pasta sauce."
So it was more of leaving a life accomplishment behind. when i would pull out my CA license and people would ask about living LA i felt proud that I did it when everyone (family and friends) said it was a bad idea to move there without a job
tell my biological father to eff himself, havent spoke to him in 8 years and then changed my last name to my mothers maiden name
Wow...it's been 13 since I did the same. I dropped my last name so my last name is now what was my middle name. But that was easy...
The hardest thing I ever did I am doing day-in and day-out. I am a single dad of a 7-year old boy with Asperger's Syndrome. It's just me and him 24/7, 10.5 months a year and has been since 2005. When he was first diagnosed back in '06 he was labeled hardcore Autistic with Dyspraxia. That was unacceptable to me. I took a long look at other kids his age and started working with him every spare minute to try and get him up to speed. It started paying off almost immediately as 3 months later his neurologist couldn't believe he was the same kid.
He continues to have struggles and challenges but he is learning to read, is very good at math and his speech is "close" to normal. He still has a long way to go and he is struggling in first grade...but the good news is, this year, he is in a mainstream classroom. He gets pulled 2 hours a day for intervention...and I have a tutor for him on Tuesdays and Thursdays. All-in-all I truly believe he will be normal, fully functioning and capable of living as an adult on his own. Most parents want their kids to be this or that when they grow up. I want my son to be able to hold a job, balance his checkbook and pay his bills without assistance.
I finally had to face the fact that I really wasn't a designer and stop humiliating myself on a webmaster forum every time I tried to get a job designing. Wait...that wasn't me, was it?
Wow...it's been 13 since I did the same. I dropped my last name so my last name is now what was my middle name. But that was easy...
The hardest thing I ever did I am doing day-in and day-out. I am a single dad of a 7-year old boy with Asperger's Syndrome. It's just me and him 24/7, 10.5 months a year and has been since 2005. When he was first diagnosed back in '06 he was labeled hardcore Autistic with Dyspraxia. That was unacceptable to me. I took a long look at other kids his age and started working with him every spare minute to try and get him up to speed. It started paying off almost immediately as 3 months later his neurologist couldn't believe he was the same kid.
He continues to have struggles and challenges but he is learning to read, is very good at math and his speech is "close" to normal. He still has a long way to go and he is struggling in first grade...but the good news is, this year, he is in a mainstream classroom. He gets pulled 2 hours a day for intervention...and I have a tutor for him on Tuesdays and Thursdays. All-in-all I truly believe he will be normal, fully functioning and capable of living as an adult on his own. Most parents want their kids to be this or that when they grow up. I want my son to be able to hold a job, balance his checkbook and pay his bills without assistance.
Put that in your smoke and pipe it.
Great story!
I can only imagine the thing's you have had to set aside.
Wow...it's been 13 since I did the same. I dropped my last name so my last name is now what was my middle name. But that was easy...
The hardest thing I ever did I am doing day-in and day-out. I am a single dad of a 7-year old boy with Asperger's Syndrome. It's just me and him 24/7, 10.5 months a year and has been since 2005. When he was first diagnosed back in '06 he was labeled hardcore Autistic with Dyspraxia. That was unacceptable to me. I took a long look at other kids his age and started working with him every spare minute to try and get him up to speed. It started paying off almost immediately as 3 months later his neurologist couldn't believe he was the same kid.
He continues to have struggles and challenges but he is learning to read, is very good at math and his speech is "close" to normal. He still has a long way to go and he is struggling in first grade...but the good news is, this year, he is in a mainstream classroom. He gets pulled 2 hours a day for intervention...and I have a tutor for him on Tuesdays and Thursdays. All-in-all I truly believe he will be normal, fully functioning and capable of living as an adult on his own. Most parents want their kids to be this or that when they grow up. I want my son to be able to hold a job, balance his checkbook and pay his bills without assistance.
Put that in your smoke and pipe it.
Is Asperger's a fairly new discovery? I've been hearing more and more about it lately.
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Wow got some deep stuff in this thread. I think for me it was being pregnant at 19 alone, then putting my baby up for adoption and leaving the hospital empty handed after 56 hours of labor.
She turns 24 on Dec 20th and I still think about her, especially on her birthday and Mothers day.
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Stopping myself from murdering the guy who gave my mom HIV on purpose...
“If you can convince the lowest white man he’s better than the best colored man, he won’t notice you’re picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he’ll empty his pockets for you.”
Stopping myself from murdering the guy who gave my mom HIV on purpose...
Dude.... if that is true, that really does take some self restraint. I know if I were in your shoes, that mother fucker would, at the least, not be walking on two legs right now.
Wow...it's been 13 since I did the same. I dropped my last name so my last name is now what was my middle name. But that was easy...
The hardest thing I ever did I am doing day-in and day-out. I am a single dad of a 7-year old boy with Asperger's Syndrome. It's just me and him 24/7, 10.5 months a year and has been since 2005. When he was first diagnosed back in '06 he was labeled hardcore Autistic with Dyspraxia. That was unacceptable to me. I took a long look at other kids his age and started working with him every spare minute to try and get him up to speed. It started paying off almost immediately as 3 months later his neurologist couldn't believe he was the same kid.
He continues to have struggles and challenges but he is learning to read, is very good at math and his speech is "close" to normal. He still has a long way to go and he is struggling in first grade...but the good news is, this year, he is in a mainstream classroom. He gets pulled 2 hours a day for intervention...and I have a tutor for him on Tuesdays and Thursdays. All-in-all I truly believe he will be normal, fully functioning and capable of living as an adult on his own. Most parents want their kids to be this or that when they grow up. I want my son to be able to hold a job, balance his checkbook and pay his bills without assistance.
For me it was quitting a good job and moving to LA to take a shot at being a screenwriter. I didn't know anyone in LA and had no job lined up. I flew down and spend 3 days looking for an apartment then once I got a place to live I flew home, gave my 2 weeks noticed then loaded up the car and drove out there.
In the end it didn't work out, but I learned a lot about myself and I made some contacts, friends and learned some things that have really helped me out since then.
Wow...it's been 13 since I did the same. I dropped my last name so my last name is now what was my middle name. But that was easy...
The hardest thing I ever did I am doing day-in and day-out. I am a single dad of a 7-year old boy with Asperger's Syndrome. It's just me and him 24/7, 10.5 months a year and has been since 2005. When he was first diagnosed back in '06 he was labeled hardcore Autistic with Dyspraxia. That was unacceptable to me. I took a long look at other kids his age and started working with him every spare minute to try and get him up to speed. It started paying off almost immediately as 3 months later his neurologist couldn't believe he was the same kid.
He continues to have struggles and challenges but he is learning to read, is very good at math and his speech is "close" to normal. He still has a long way to go and he is struggling in first grade...but the good news is, this year, he is in a mainstream classroom. He gets pulled 2 hours a day for intervention...and I have a tutor for him on Tuesdays and Thursdays. All-in-all I truly believe he will be normal, fully functioning and capable of living as an adult on his own. Most parents want their kids to be this or that when they grow up. I want my son to be able to hold a job, balance his checkbook and pay his bills without assistance.
Put that in your smoke and pipe it.
Damn, kind of puts a lot of things into perspective.
Wow...it's been 13 since I did the same. I dropped my last name so my last name is now what was my middle name. But that was easy...
The hardest thing I ever did I am doing day-in and day-out. I am a single dad of a 7-year old boy with Asperger's Syndrome. It's just me and him 24/7, 10.5 months a year and has been since 2005. When he was first diagnosed back in '06 he was labeled hardcore Autistic with Dyspraxia. That was unacceptable to me. I took a long look at other kids his age and started working with him every spare minute to try and get him up to speed. It started paying off almost immediately as 3 months later his neurologist couldn't believe he was the same kid.
He continues to have struggles and challenges but he is learning to read, is very good at math and his speech is "close" to normal. He still has a long way to go and he is struggling in first grade...but the good news is, this year, he is in a mainstream classroom. He gets pulled 2 hours a day for intervention...and I have a tutor for him on Tuesdays and Thursdays. All-in-all I truly believe he will be normal, fully functioning and capable of living as an adult on his own. Most parents want their kids to be this or that when they grow up. I want my son to be able to hold a job, balance his checkbook and pay his bills without assistance.
Put that in your smoke and pipe it.
I don't mean to "troll" here, and I say this with the best of intentions, but I am intimately familiar with the intricacies and idiosyncrasies of Asperger's and your description of your son does not really resemble Asperger's much. While these diagnoses can cover a broad spectrum of attributes, with some overlap, I suspect the original label was closer to correct. One does not graduate from one to the other by working at it. If you prefer to believe your son is Aspie instead of some other label, it's none of my business, but if your (new?) doctor is calling this Asperger's then I recommend you consult other professionals.
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I don't mean to "troll" here, and I say this with the best of intentions, but I am intimately familiar with the intricacies and idiosyncrasies of Asperger's and your description of your son does not really resemble Asperger's much. While these diagnoses can cover a broad spectrum of attributes, with some overlap, I suspect the original label was closer to correct. One does not graduate from one to the other by working at it. If you prefer to believe your son is Aspie instead of some other label, it's none of my business, but if your (new?) doctor is calling this Asperger's then I recommend you consult other professionals.
I would sooner say his first neurologist (Dr. RobertoTuchman, Dan Marino Center of Weston, FL) was an arrogant prick (IMHO) who got off on telling parents their kids were fucked up. My son's current neurologist here in Charlotte is aces
Likewise, I didn't share my son's personal history here. There is a great debate about what *can* cause disorders under the Autism spectrum, but my son's unique case rather busts out all current theories. There's a reason I have custody...I am not going to bag on his mother but, essentially, my son was born into the actual world just before his third birthday when I divorced his mother and she was removed from his day-to-day existence.
Great story!
I can only imagine the thing's you have had to set aside.
It's never ending...but as he grows older, and his skills (social and academic) develop and mature, it makes me having something more resembling an actual life far easier. Only 18 months ago I couldn't go grocery shopping (for example) with him as I never knew what I was going to have with him once I got to the store. Now, by all appearances, he's just like any other kid in public
Fortunately no family hardships, etc. One of the msot challenging things physically I've done is ride a bicycle from Ulan Bataar (Mongolia) south through the desert for a week.
Wow...it's been 13 since I did the same. I dropped my last name so my last name is now what was my middle name. But that was easy...
The hardest thing I ever did I am doing day-in and day-out. I am a single dad of a 7-year old boy with Asperger's Syndrome. It's just me and him 24/7, 10.5 months a year and has been since 2005. When he was first diagnosed back in '06 he was labeled hardcore Autistic with Dyspraxia. That was unacceptable to me. I took a long look at other kids his age and started working with him every spare minute to try and get him up to speed. It started paying off almost immediately as 3 months later his neurologist couldn't believe he was the same kid.
He continues to have struggles and challenges but he is learning to read, is very good at math and his speech is "close" to normal. He still has a long way to go and he is struggling in first grade...but the good news is, this year, he is in a mainstream classroom. He gets pulled 2 hours a day for intervention...and I have a tutor for him on Tuesdays and Thursdays. All-in-all I truly believe he will be normal, fully functioning and capable of living as an adult on his own. Most parents want their kids to be this or that when they grow up. I want my son to be able to hold a job, balance his checkbook and pay his bills without assistance.
i guess it would be getting myself out of a life that was almost dictated to me from birth. middle income, never leave your town, boring life. it took a lot of determination.
Making my mind to get married, I am still doing it.
Originally posted by JenniDahling
Wow got some deep stuff in this thread. I think for me it was being pregnant at 19 alone, then putting my baby up for adoption and leaving the hospital empty handed after 56 hours of labor.
She turns 24 on Dec 20th and I still think about her, especially on her birthday and Mothers day.
climbing this bad boy was the hardest thing ive ever done...the person i went up with only made it about 30 minutes above the tree line...i left them there and continued to the top.
took us forever to get down as they had over exerted their ankles and couldnt walk down properly, they spent 2 weeks recovering...i was sore for a few days as well..i did another smaller one while out there as well
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