I'm sick of porn being called a "Marriage Wrecker"

[Slick]

I was flipping through the tv and found MTV has "True Life - Addicted To Porn" and they showed one guy that porn "destroyed his marriage". It really gets me is when they say porn wrecks marriages, which I always think is total fucking bullshit. The thing is for most men, we whack off as a substitute for sex, I'll admit it, I do it myself when the wifey doesn't give it to me often enough.

If a woman has such a fucking problem with her man looking at porn and whacking off, pull down your pants and spread your legs and let him fuck you, he IS you're husband, so there shouldn't be any problems with it, right ??

I think of porn/masturbation as a snack, and fucking your wife is dinner, if dinner isn't gonna be ready for a while, us guys are gonna want a snack, ha ha. Give us dinner on time and we won't have to snack and all will be happy.

What are your thoughts on this ??

[Iron Fist]

If I ended up spending my honeymoon money on subscriptions and pay per minute cams, then I can see it... sure.

[CaptainHowdy]

It's too easy to blame it on porn... or anything else when it comes to failure.

[TheLegacy]

Going to church makes you as much of a Christian as going to the movies makes you an actor.

Porn is merely an outlet an as I am sure some marriage's have broken down, porn is merely an excuse for something much deeper - mostly a failure to communicate to your partner honestly.

[alias]

Bitchy wives are a marriage wrecker.

[The Demon]

Funny shit...

Please list the positive attributes of Porn:






I'll wait.

[strobi]

Going to church makes you as much of a Christian as going to the movies makes you an actor.

Porn is merely an outlet an as I am sure some marriage's have broken down, porn is merely an excuse for something much deeper - mostly a failure to communicate to your partner honestly.

Damn spot on!

[Babaganoosh]

Funny shit...

Please list the positive attributes of Porn:






I'll wait.

If you can't see the positive attributes of midget porn, tranny porn and rim jobs then you're just dense.

[Mutt]

porn is a convenient scapegoat - it would be like blaming the legal profession or the medical profession if a husband was a workaholic and his marriage fell apart, or blaming golf if the husband was addicted to it. the real issue is why the husband prefers porn/golf/work/whatever to his marriage.

i think in a small minority of cases porn can be blamed - a 40 something wife can't usually compare to the sex these guys see in porn movies or the girls whether they be 18 or 40. if that leads to him alienating his wife because she no longer turns him on then yeah, porn definitely fucked the marriage. most men with their heads screwed on right understand this - that porn is a fantasy and for the sake of his personal and family life he doesn't let himself get carried away.

[Babaganoosh]

People get fat. Let's not blame them. Let's blame the fast food restaurants.

People get shot. Let's not blame the shooter. Let's blame the gun manufacturer.

Kids are killing each other. It's clearly the video games they play. It couldn't be a parenting problem.

Sometimes married people are unfaithful. It MUST be the fault of PORN! I never hear these Christian retards say jack shit about WOMEN who cheat on their husbands. What causes THEM to do it? Women generally don't watch porn. What's their excuse?

[Mutt]

Funny shit...

Please list the positive attributes of Porn:






I'll wait.

there are studies that conclude that availability of pornography cuts down on sex crimes.
porn is a release for frustrated men and some women, making them happier and more productive people. porn can also stimulate couples who are bored with sex, leading to a better relationship.

and lastly, porn is entertainment, it brings pleasure to hundreds of millions of people - whacking off is healthy and fun - unless you're a religious kook who believes in words written in a fairy tale starting with Adam and Eve.

[MaDalton]

Funny shit...

Please list the positive attributes of Porn:






I'll wait.

so what are you doing here? shouldn't you be rather at some Sarah Palin fanboard then?

[The Demon]

there are studies that conclude that availability of pornography cuts down on sex crimes.
porn is a release for frustrated men and some women, making them happier and more productive people. porn can also stimulate couples who are bored with sex, leading to a better relationship.

I'd love to see these studies.

and lastly, porn is entertainment, it brings pleasure to hundreds of millions of people - whacking off is healthy and fun - unless you're a religious kook who believes in words written in a fairy tale starting with Adam and Eve.

Ah yes, religious people are cooks but people who put up pornographic galleries, or film porn for a living, are as sane as they come. ROFL

[The Demon]

so what are you doing here? shouldn't you be rather at some Sarah Palin fanboard then?

Notice how this forum is an "Adult" Webmaster forum, not a "Porn" Webmaster Forum. But what am I talking about, you know the difference......Right????

[The Porn Nerd]

When a hubby stops putting it to wifey it's because HE HAS LOST INTEREST, no longer feels the excitement or romance of those first few months of intense infatuation and desire, or he needs new conquests, SOMETHING. But blmaing that 'lost interest' on PORN?

Yeah right - and my dick just accidently found its' way into that whore's mouth, honey, I swear!

[The Porn Nerd]

Ah yes, religious people are cooks but people who put up pornographic galleries, or film porn for a living, are as sane as they come. ROFL

What do they cook, the body of Jesus? Isn't that cannibalism?

OH - you meant 'KOOKS'. Right, sorry - as annoying as when people spell 'loose' when they mean 'lose'.

Sorry, carry on..........

[Deej]

Notice how this forum is an "Adult" Webmaster forum, not a "Porn" Webmaster Forum. But what am I talking about, you know the difference......Right????

idiot

[MaDalton]

Notice how this forum is an "Adult" Webmaster forum, not a "Porn" Webmaster Forum. But what am I talking about, you know the difference......Right????

really? i didn't notice that. well, i am selling porn, i must be in the wrong place all the time

[Babaganoosh]

Notice how this forum is an "Adult" Webmaster forum, not a "Porn" Webmaster Forum. But what am I talking about, you know the difference......Right????

Troll porn just for you, baby girl! LOVE YA <3

[GregE]

Ah yes, religious people are cooks but people who put up pornographic galleries, or film porn for a living, are as sane as they come...

Precisely.

ROFL

Tell me, do you make a habit of rolling around on floors laughing for no discernible reason?

Best be careful or the men in white coats will come and drag you off to Jesus Camp.

[Slick]

I'd love to see these studies.

Hell, common knowledge will tell you that it would.

One thing I always say, imagine a world without porn, no magazines, no stripclubs, no internet porn. Can you honestly tell me that there'd be absolutely NO increase in sexual crimes ?? Imagine all of the 18+ year old virgins out there that have never seen a pair of actual real tits in their lives, the ones that are different or just plain ugly (not to be mean). I know everyone here can think of a handful of those people off the tops of their head. You don't think that those people wouldn't try something if they NEVER saw a naked woman before ??

[adultpro]

Porn doesn't cause marriages to fail.

If one spouse is thinking of using porn as a replacement for the other, the marriage has already failed.

Porn has nothing to do with it, but makes a great scapegoat for religious conservatives.

[MrMaxwell]

I've heard that alot of men have women who think sex is a favor?
And from what I gather, most married women think blowjobs are for birthdays?
Please,
They're lucky their man doesn't do the maid..

[The Demon]

idiot

Too bad I've just proved my case It's always hilarious to find the dumbest human beings in this business.

[The Demon]

Precisely.



Tell me, do you make a habit of rolling around on floors laughing for no discernible reason?

Best be careful or the men in white coats will come and drag you off to Jesus Camp.

No, only when hilarious logic like that comes around. Religious people are nuts, but porn peddlers aren't. Once again. ROFL

[BlackCrayon]

everyone wants to escape personal responsibility. its so much easier to blame an inatimate object than themselves.

[The Demon]

Hell, common knowledge will tell you that it would.

No no, YOU said there were studies. Don't back peddle now.

One thing I always say, imagine a world without porn, no magazines, no stripclubs, no internet porn. Can you honestly tell me that there'd be absolutely NO increase in sexual crimes ?? Imagine all of the 18+ year old virgins out there that have never seen a pair of actual real tits in their lives, the ones that are different or just plain ugly (not to be mean). I know everyone here can think of a handful of those people off the tops of their head. You don't think that those people wouldn't try something if they NEVER saw a naked woman before ??

Even if there IS a correlation(you'd have to prove it), correlation doesn't imply causation.

[The Demon]

everyone wants to escape personal responsibility. its so much easier to blame an inatimate object than themselves.

Nobody is blaming porn. Porn doesn't come along without the porn peddlers.

[Slick]

No no, YOU said there were studies. Don't back peddle now.

Boy, you'd better read the fucking thread, it wasn't ME that said that, it was someone else.

[After Shock Media]

ahh nevermind.

[chemicaleyes]

Notice how this forum is an "Adult" Webmaster forum, not a "Porn" Webmaster Forum. But what am I talking about, you know the difference......Right????

[Slick]

I'd love to see these studies.

I think you need to do the backpeddling ;)

http://www.slate.com/id/2152487
How the Web Prevents Rape
All that Internet porn reduces sex crimes. Really.
By Steven E. LandsburgPosted Monday, Oct. 30, 2006, at 2:22 PM ET

Does pornography breed rape? Do violent movies breed violent crime? Quite the opposite, it seems.

First, porn. What happens when more people view more of it? The rise of the Internet offers a gigantic natural experiment. Better yet, because Internet usage caught on at different times in different states, it offers 50 natural experiments.

The bottom line on these experiments is, "More Net access, less rape." A 10 percent increase in Net access yields about a 7.3 percent decrease in reported rapes. States that adopted the Internet quickly saw the biggest declines. And, according to Clemson professor Todd Kendall, the effects remain even after you control for all of the obvious confounding variables, such as alcohol consumption, police presence, poverty and unemployment rates, population density, and so forth.

[slapass]

Not sure about you guys but porn has been hard on my sex life. Watching too much porn is not a good thing imo. So i can see how it could effect a marriage.

[JamesK]

Porn doesn't cause marriages to fail.

If one spouse is thinking of using porn as a replacement for the other, the marriage has already failed.

Porn has nothing to do with it, but makes a great scapegoat for religious conservatives.

well said

[Stacks Banned for Life]

It's very hard to find good studies that highlight the beneficence of pornography because there exists a great body of misinformation as created by political groups (of course with religio-conservative inspiration). Case in point, the Meese Commission and it's body of non-experts that only solicited information from groups and individuals that would parrot the traditional sentiments about sex that have survived in word and spirit from the Victorian age. Essentially, the idea that exposure to sex leads to criminal sexual acts.

However, with little bit of elbow grease and Google, you'll be able to find numerous reports, peer-reviewed and fairly recent, that present evidence completely contrary to the fallacious conclusions of the aforementioned committee (and many others like it). The common thread of this recent research is that an increased availability of graphic materials carries an inverse relationship with the amount of sexual crimes. Simply put: more porn, less rape. Whether this is through the demystification of sex, or the exorcism of sexual frustration using visual aid, or something different altogether, that's for further research.

And of course, blaming a failing marriage on pornography is pretty dumb. I'm afraid the crux of the problem is much deeper than finding a scapegoat: it lies in the arrangement and expectations of marriage itself.

Men are biologically capable of reproduction well into mid-life and even old age, while women have a relatively limited span of time to reproduce. This falls in line with the proposed distinctive reproductive strategies of men and women. Men sort of spray their genetic material all over the place, both metaphorically when choosing mates and literally when fucking them. It's a quantity thing for guys. On the other hand, women are all about quality. They have to be because of their limited capability for reproduction caused by their limited period of fertility and the amount of time it takes to have a child.

With that little bit of evolution out of the way, you can see why a 40-something year old male will have the propensity to view pornography. He's whacking it to all the 18-something teens that stimulate his primeval, evolutionary proclivities. Combined with the fact that his wife is dried up (sorry ladies), this may lead to infidelity, a ruined marriage, or at the very least, some very hurt feelings.

If a couple were to be more liberal and comprehended these ideas, they would come to the conclusion that sex is not love and they can be mutually exclusive. Though, this would undermine the traditional institution of marriage, and as such religio-conservatives can't fathom the idea (until, of course, they're holding a press release to apologize to their family and constituents for their recent, torrid affair).

[Libertine]

No, only when hilarious logic like that comes around. Religious people are nuts, but porn peddlers aren't. Once again. ROFL

Religious people have an imaginary friend who lives in the sky, knows about everything they do and think, and will punish them if they do or think the wrong things - but only after they die, which is possible because religious people believe they are actually immortal.

Porn peddlers like making money.

[raven1083]

precisely bullshit!

[LouisianaGuys]

eh..

those blaming porn obviously have not found their niche and still do missionary!

[CDSmith]

Porn is adult entertainment, nothing more. Certain rather weak-spirited people with addictive natures can certainly overindulge in it to the point of it becoming a huge problem in their lives, but so to can people do the same with drugs, alchohol, gambling, video games and a host of other things. I'm sure there are people out there addicted to TV in an extreme way. Junk food is as we speak ruining millions of lives.

What I find odd is that some people would (as others have said here) blame the thing being obsessed upon rather than to go after the real culprit which is the inner weaknesses inside of these addicts. I mean really, should everyone be denied access to something just because a small percentage lack the self control to keep from letting it ruin their marriage, life, etc?

As for the "merits" of porn one could argue what are the merits of any visual media? Really, do we need movies and TV shows rife with murder and horrific violence? Let's cut out all gaming and gambling because what are the "merits" of that?

Merit is subjective, people's right to view what they want to view (including legal adult content) is not.

And if none of that makes any sense then just do what I do when all else fails.... blame Canada.

[incredibleworkethic]

My wife and I watch porn together sometimes. Sometimes she's not in the mood and tells me to go watch porn. Works for me!

We don't have kids yet nor plan on it. Must be porn's fault!

[JD]

ADDICTION is a marriage wrecker not porn. I know of people that lost their jobs/wives/etc to world of warcraft. Meth, crack, porn, etc all addictive things that people love to use as a crutch.

Imo... "god" is more dangerous that porn could ever be

[raunchypass]

Better Porn occupying your mate than another person.

[NikKay]

It's just another thing to get addicted to.

Here is the short list of what often ruins marriages: alcohol, drugs, sex, work, children, and money.

So either we get rid of all of these things within a marriage or we help people learn to be moderate about them if they care about their marriages.

I definitely think there are negative effects when a partner uses porn a little too often, but it's not going to destroy the relationship unless one or both of those partners want to destroy the relationship.

On a side note: some of the best relationships I've ever seen were with people who were swingers. Sex is important.

[Fletch XXX]

whats funny is a tv channel whos audience is 13-16 having shows about porn LOL

[smax]

I'd love to see these studies.

1 study was already provided but here you go

Ah yes, religious people are cooks but people who put up pornographic galleries, or film porn for a living, are as sane as they come. ROFL

Last I checked is wasn't people in porn who are insisting that the world is only 6000 years, dinosaurs never lived on the Earth and believe that its possible for a man to live in a whales belly for 3 days. Now that is just the tip of the proverbial iceberg, I can continue with many more ludicrous beliefs of religious people if you would like

[96ukssob]

personally, I think a lot of men marry women for some of the wrong reasons which is why "porn" is always to blame.

most guys are unconformable with talking about fetishes and desires to their wife, so they just go on their usual schedule of "vanilla" sex, while they fantasize about whatever else it is that gets their rocks off.

whether its 18 year old girls or chicks peeing on each other, you can find your fantasy very easily. while a lot of women like to read romance novels, they don't get that a lot of men like to see the "real shit happen."

even in my case if my gf put out everyday i would still probably rub one off here or there... actually i know I would. sometimes when i can't fall asleep, or if i wake up 15 minutes before my alarm clock goes off and I had a good dream, etc.

either case, i think these women are misunderstanding the point... its better to pay $30/mo to jerkoff to some webcam porn then sit in AOL chat rooms and go bang chicks in the area and bring home a VD or worse.

[MetaMan]

People are losers and weak minded people. i thank god for these kind of people because they are willing to spend money on just about anything to fill a void.

heres a try, hit the fucking gym and bring your fat ass wife with you. i dont care if she just popped out a baby get fit again and stop acting like a lazy mule.

porn rules and most females i know watch it just about as much as me and love it just about as much as me. most of me being open sexually has come from working in porn for so long and it has really boosted up my confidence and helped me to get over my shyness.

again the problem is people are losers instead of looking at themselves to try to solve problems they are always looking at external factors.

anyway the divorce rate is so high because people dont want to be alone, they will change their entire peronality for someone thinking it is the right thing to do (ie banner designer from GFY i wont mention his name). if you cant be open sexually with your partner you should not be with them in the firstplace.

[The Porn Nerd]

Because of the Baby Boom Generation, everyone's a victim, nothing is ever 'their' fault. Boomers have been blaming everyone and everything except themselves and their own actions since their plague infected this planet starting around 1942-ish. The Earth will not survive until all those selfish, self-oriented, self-serving egomaniacal/megolomaniacal selfists (did I mention Baby Boomers are selfish?) FINALLY DIE so we can all get on with living reasonable lives where people take responsibility for their own actions and no longer blame others, God, the Universe, porn or anything else for their 'problems'.

This assumes, of course, perhaps wrongly, that the Baby Boomer's offspring will be anything better then their hideously inward-focused parents. I actually doubt this, even tho I used to believe such generational behaviors 'skipped' a generation. I WAS hoping the Baby Boomer's children would be more like 'the Greatest Generation' - you know, taking responsibility, overcoming hardships, fighting the good fights, yada yada. But it's looking like the YouTube Generation will turn out to be mini-Boomers ('Echo Boomers'?) who will, in the end, be worse than the Boomers themselves, and less prepared to do anything that requires maturity, intelligence, forethought and a sense of global responsibility. Shit, they're too busy being distracted by their Blackberrys, Playstations, the aforementioned YouTube, this gadget and that reality show and this toy and that false 'outrage' manipulated by the Corporate Propogandists that rule our Land.

Ergo: we're fucked. So yes, let's blame porn, shall we all?

[stoner529]

Porn is just gross. i cant even look at my wife naked with out having to barf. I don't even know how i manage to take a shower. I have to wash myself with my eyes closed for fear of having to fast for more then a day during Yom Kippur.

[The Demon]

I think you need to do the backpeddling ;)

http://www.slate.com/id/2152487
How the Web Prevents Rape
All that Internet porn reduces sex crimes. Really.
By Steven E. LandsburgPosted Monday, Oct. 30, 2006, at 2:22 PM ET

Does pornography breed rape? Do violent movies breed violent crime? Quite the opposite, it seems.

First, porn. What happens when more people view more of it? The rise of the Internet offers a gigantic natural experiment. Better yet, because Internet usage caught on at different times in different states, it offers 50 natural experiments.

The bottom line on these experiments is, "More Net access, less rape." A 10 percent increase in Net access yields about a 7.3 percent decrease in reported rapes. States that adopted the Internet quickly saw the biggest declines. And, according to Clemson professor Todd Kendall, the effects remain even after you control for all of the obvious confounding variables, such as alcohol consumption, police presence, poverty and unemployment rates, population density, and so forth.

This is one of the dumbest things I've ever read. At best there is a minor correlation, and that's giving his study the benefit of the doubt. In reality, he's looking for someone to blame. Next time find a credible article. This is like sending me someone's blog and telling me "its true!"