That is what I am waiting for. The 330am conversation. I have my book open for you and that time! :thumbsup :1orglaugh

At this point, password protecting your stuff creates this:
1) animosity both ways - you feeling/fearing you have to 'hide' yourself and her thinking you are hiding stuff from her
2) more distrust
3) the end of your relationship

If you're entertaining the idea of a PlanB, then you are also giving off those vibes and women see it. The girl that you were texting 'sensed it' or she wouldn't have mentioned you being pussywhipped or that you used to bang her. Your girlfriend is sensing you're different - those vibes are very noticeable during the first year of a relationship.

If you're serious about the relationship, you don't put yourself in a position that can become 'indiscrete'. You don't leave the conversation open for a 'hint' of flirtation that doesn't include your GF being there. The girls will stop hitting on you and calm will return to your household, without the need for your everyday items to be stored in Fort Knox.

Just being the devil's advocate here - been on both ends of jealousy and learnt my lesson.

herein lies your answers. it's very obvious to me that you are in love with this girl or would not be taking this to the masses to help you deliberate on it (you would have dumped her immediately) nor let her live with you. "she made something out of nothing", it was not nothing to her and that is what you are seeking to better understand. a real relationship is about compromise and seeing through your loves eyes to relate and work through issues, hence "i guess if i saw....." you are on the right track with the bit that i quoted from your own type. "the diff between me and her" no two people can think or understand or rationalize in exactly the same way. that is why we argue so much with the one we love the most. we want desperately for them to see situations identically to the way we do but it's not possible and we would tire of them if they were that boring and predictable. i too, find things hysterical when i joke in a personal way with someone of the opposite sex only to learn that i really hurt my favorite person's, your pals, feelings and disrespected him. we all have different breaking points and lines in the sand as to respect issues. be open, quiet voiced, coming from a position of love and understanding and beat this issue dead once and for all with her and move forward. you love the spanish flame, dont put it out, accept the spice :winkwink:

it is an invasion of privacy to actually do it but if you like her then no need for plan B. Just take the time to talk to her and let her know how you feel, maybe this will give you the opportunity to find out how she feels about it all...

Hey Jay - I know your girl ;o) Fairly well, I might add, though we don't talk much anymore. She is definitely, as Eric said, a fiery Latina, jealous streak and all. I know you have some true feelings for her and, as you said, she's a rare find... Looks, brains, understanding of the business - all that. I would sit down and have an honest conversation with her about how this is making you feel, etc. I think she would appreciate your honesty and maybe will prompt her to stop.

I have to say though, since she is from the biz, she should know better. We all flirt here and most of it is harmless. Re-assurance goes a looooooooooong way with women.

Good luck. And if you want to send her my way so I can knock some sense into her - lemme know :o)

If she doesnt trust you and feels like she needs to look through your shit to catch you cheating, the relationship probably isnt too stable anyway.

That being said...if you dont do things that would make her uneasy, who cares if she fucks with your phone?

Hell no!

no generalization or anything??

Jay...
that is total bullshit IMO, ur entitled to your privacy 150%
i had an ex (or 2) do that to me, and it was the WORST feeling ever.
total invasion on privacy

:2 cents:

Latinos rock!

Never ever been in a relationship with one of them, muy emocional!

Privacy is privacy though.

but she rocks... so u should work thru it

Ohhhhhhh Jody, you just admitted a little something about yourself... hehe, Miss You

No Chance Lance should she have carte blanche to look through all your stuff.

She will read something and take it the wrong way and get all Cubana Agro with you.

I think its time you start looking for the A, B and C team rotation.

I just don't get this way of thinking and I know that Jay's girl is not like this. I noticed that most of the women in this thread are saying or agreeing with the theory of, "If you didn't do things that made her uncomfortable then she wouldn't go through your shit" Seriously, are there that many insecure unstable women in this industry? Never mind I answered my own question! :1orglaugh

I don’t think you are truly seeing what this type of thinking and behavior is about. It’s like saying to someone, if you didn’t behave the way you did, then I wouldn’t have acted the way I did. That is totally unstable and out of control. That is allowing yourself to be controlled by someone and when you are being controlled by someone, whether by force or by you allowing it, you become very unhappy and angry. Then comes the scorn and then fucking forget it. Once a woman becomes scorned she is the most evil creature on earth and will fuck you up, and fuck herself up at the same time, but she won’t see it that way and that makes her even more dangerous because her thinking already blames others for her own actions, ie "I am going through your phone because of what you did. I know it’s wrong but you made me do it because of what you did." Eek eek eek!!! haha

I am in no way saying that everyone that is agreeing with this statement is like that, as a general young logical statement it is just saying that maybe he is doing something wrong and that is why she is checking it out, but to me to even think any where close to that or agree to that is a little scary and weak, with yourself not towards others.

I think we should just say that sentence the way it should be stated: "You did something that made me feel uneasy so I can do something fuckin' wrong and untrusting, and go through your shit." :1orglaugh :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

I am 100% Ho!

So you arent fucking anything :winkwink: and I will not comment about the thread as Jay already knows what I think. :thumbsup

Nobody should ever go through your stuff, ever, unless you've given them a reason to in the past.

My ex-girlfriend never looked through any of my stuff until I cheated on her while drunk (oops) and she found out about it. After that, she'd take any chance she could to root through my phone, e-mails, you name it. That was my fault though, and under the circumstances, I don't blame her.

But, no, if you've always been faithful to your girl and treated her right, she shouldn't have any need to go through your things. If she does, she's crazy, and she needs to go.

Oh, and I definitely agree with the "Plan B" thing. Most people with half a brain have a Plan B. A girl lined-up "just in case" things don't work out. It's fairly common. Saves you having to be alone if your relationship shits out.

LOL...Carlos it's "latinas" and not "latinos" - a "latino" is a guy. I'm sure it's all good for some people but I don't swing that way.

LOL...I know, it takes A LOT to make me settle with one girl...A LOT. I've enjoyed a single life that most would envy. I know she's a catch, that's why I stayed with her.

Please don't even let her know I posted this thread. :-)

Exactly, and women do this even more than guys. I seem it happen time and time again. Hell, I've even been Plan B more than once. It's just part of life and dating. I'm sure she has one too.

Women ALWAYS have a plan b. Chris Rock has a good segment in his stand up about it. In case of emergency, break glass, dick in a glass.

You're case is a little different, mine are mostly friendships that get too close. Yours was kind of planned from what I remember.

All I want you to do is be happy. If that is happening then fine. If not, and you are doubting it, then summer is coming and both of you may be better off.

I don't think they should go through, neither should a guy go through his womans phone. I never once did. Phone bill was even in my name at one point and I NEVER checked to see who she was calling.

The only time she read stuff was when I let her use my computer (she hadn't moved her computer in yet and was going to check her bank account online). I let her use my computer to check it and I had a trillian window open with a co-worker which we were just laughing about something but she took offense to it. Now I agree that was my fault and don't blame her for reading the couple sentences since it was RIGHT there.

But if she went through my phone I'd cause all hell.

LOL, simply never.... ever ever ever.....

cover your tracks better dude! if she's worth keeping around just keep in your head that she'll be looking so simply delete naughty txt messages and those long phone calls (I sure do)

You should have 'FUCK NO' as a poll option.

i hate when my girlfriend looks through my shit
i have my computer password protected, so that stops her from turning on my computer, but everytime i leave the house or room or something she will try to look around if i dont turn the damn thing off

i have absolutely nothing to hide on here... but its just a matter of privacy and personal space. we live together, so there is very little that is "just mine". let me at least have my own computer!!!!!!!!!

Well! Not to sound too deep and meaningful, but a relationship should be based on trust and if she knows you don't want her to look through your stuff then she should respect that and stop doing it. If she continues doing it then it can only go downhill. She sounds very insecure - I'm sure you're a nice guy, but does she have good reason to feel this way I wonder?!

what the fuck are u talking about .. they only have the right to get fucked ;)

Marry me :liebe028:

Shit, that's a BAD typo..

I mean it had to be the recent latina girl, who made me talk almost openly about my experience. I guess I was in euphoria. I never do that. I am not that kind of guy who would walk around and talk shit like "Ah that was a damn sodomy, balls up the ceiling, cock swinging all around the place, she was moaning like a mowing machine!" and all kind of shit..

To me, it's ridiculous and it's basically like saying "OH I love my dick, listen what the dick has to say .." so I just don't do it, I keep it discrete and the only ones entitled to SEE what's going on are ladies.

Anyway, I owe you a steak and a bottle of precious booze, I am sure you're gonna do the right thing and deal with the latina romance in style.

I am going to stick my 2 cents in to raise my post count.

This is not an issue about "rights" It doesn't matter if your girlfriend has the right to look thru your stuff.

She should trust you enough to not feel any need to and you shouldn't give her any reason to not trust you.

This relationship should just end.

Without trust you can't have a relationship it will just turn into insane madness sooner or later when the jealous paranoid untrusting person in the relationship snaps... like they ALWAYS do...

I would never do that :) Seriously. Good luck - I think you will figure it out :winkwink:

lol.... reminds me of a crappy dutch pop singer broad (pretty hot chick) who probably tries to break through internationally with her english spoken ' j-lo' kind of music. She released this song where she the hook is 'NOooo, Im no Latinooo' it just fucking cracked me up... NO SHIT, BITCH! hahahaha

do what u gotta do playa

If everyone ended their relationship because of one of the people feeling a little distrust at some point in their relationship, than everyone would have to break up. Nothing is perfect, there is no Utopia. I don't know how many times I have to explain this! haha

If you can tell me that you NEVER EVER felt a little distrust towards someone you loved then you better finish that sentence with either, I AM NOT HUMAN, or I DO NOT UNDERSTAND OR REMEMBER MY OWN FEELINGS!