Meeting for lunch is too "nice" - the only people you should go to lunch with is co-workers and grandparents. If you want to take someone out on a date id at least recommend making sure there was enough chance to get into some trouble and have a laugh.

Which of course you did with the recommendation of going to Swig, but by then its two options and sounds a bit like youre grasping.

I've got no idea what your first impression was like though, you could have suggested anything and it would have been "no" whatever you said.

I am going to have to say she just simply lives too far away to make plans for lunch with you. She didn't say No Thanks! she said.. I Live too far... And she actually said when she's in the area she'd give you a call..

Now she didn't ask for your number.. so.. heh.. *shrug*

You also came off very strong / demanding / eager right away.

Instead of trying to read too into it and get all insecure.. You *COULD* send a casual message back mentioning where you live...

You met the girl once and you are already pushing her for lunch that week and drinks at a bar.

You really shoulda made more communication with her before straight up asking her out and telling her you want to get to know her.

I dunno the details on how you met or where etc.. so it's impossible for us to really say..

Not to mention you messaged her through MySpace you may have had a better chance going through the friend.

Personally I never would have done what you did.. But after that response i'd just drop it completely until the next time i see her in person and i'd try to make more of an impression on her..

it's a game.. and you have to go against everything your mother told you..

I agree :thumbsup

Prolly 1/2 of the girls i've dated were not into me right away and even some girls i've dated I was not into right away.

Just cause she didn't make plans to drive an hour to go to lunch with this guy doesn't mean he is 100% out of luck.

He can still keep communication open to plant a seed for later.

yeah, they're correct -- it's a soft let down. she's just being nice to you. :(

Bro what the fuck are you trying to read into, she tells you exactly what she meant, it was nice meeting you and next time she's around there she'll call you.

Why are you being such a bitch dude ;) Just take it at face value that way you can't be wrong!

spot on!

I'm confused...She's from Tracy and you guys met in Tracy but you both live in the city??

Anyway, I'm a girl from CA, and CA guys are wacko!!! Californians are obsessed with having their cake and eating it too. Sure, let's have sex and hang out and watch movies but I am NOT your boyfriend because I am committment shy. I mean, there are freaking people dying from starvation and random bombs all over the world and you're scared of a freaking committment...For the love of God!

I live in Panama now and guys here actually tell you if they like you and don't try to play games...Pretty crazy! If you like someone, ask them out on a date. I know, forward thinking stuff...

Very simple and easy solution - write her back letting her know you are from her area and that you would like to take her out for lunch. See what she says. Her response to that will be more revealing.

Nice way of saying no.

Haha, that's true, first you become a friend, then a good friend, then fuck her and dump :thumbsup