i can assure you John has passed on.

Then hopefully she'll pass the info on to you soon. Seems like a really quick and simple thing for her to do.

i'll let you know.

Jayeff's passing
 

My name is Sheri, and I was with Jayeff for nearly 10 years. I'm told there is some suspicion as to whether he is truly gone. I would give nearly anything to be able to say it is untrue, but sadly, he died of a heart attack and we didn't find him for some time. We were unsure of the date he died, as the coroner could not determine it due to the...well...you understand.

He was cremated and spread in the garden of rest in Parsons, KS, where we lived. I am planting a rose and a plaque in his memory there, and would appreciate any thoughts on what the plaque should say. It seems that I learned more of him after his passing than I knew during our long time together, so it is only fitting that you, who knew him best, should eulogize him with a few words for his memorial.

Thank you all for your kind thoughts. I'm sure Jayeff is looking down and smiling that he was so loved here with you all.
Thank you as well for the generous donations you have made to help clear John's estate. He never would have wanted you to know his situation, but I am so grateful that you have all been so kind.

Thank you especially to Lex, without whom I would have been lost.


I have his PC, so if you have any questions, feel free to ICQ his ID and I will try to get back to you as soon as I can.


Sincerely,

Sheri

Hi, Sheri. Let me tell you personally how sorry I am for your loss. Not everyone has doubted it, but self protection kicks in as soon as people think of donations and such. Please dont take it personally.

Having recently had a heart attack myself, let me just say that in the midst of it my thoughts were with my remaining family and friends. No doubt at all this was true for him as well. Be well and be good :)

Sheri, there are no words do describe how unbelievably welcome you are.

This is Sheri. I'm sorry, there was no obituary in Parsons. It didn't even make the newspaper despite the circumstances. I didn't think an obit in Parsons was necessary, since nobody new him there. His family was on this board and others, and he eschewed public places and towards the end only went to town for groceries and such. John's father and brother in England took care of the arrangements since John and I never married and so, despite 10 years together, I had no legal right to sign for his cremation. His brother told me that they would send his ashes to England, but later said he was scattered in the garden of rest in Parsons. If there was an obituary in England, I don't know about it. Perhaps we could search the net for English Obits?

As I said before, I and so many of you would give anything to change the awful truth. But the truth is final.

Whoever posted that post from Jayeff on the day he died, thank you. I never would have seen it otherwise, and although it made me cry, it was beautiful nonetheless.

He deserved an Obit either way, regardless of who knew him or from where. Can you contact his brother or father and see if they had one published for him? Such a simple thing to do but important enough to have done in an example like this where people have grown to be skeptical, and with good reason unfortunately.

Jayeff was my favorite poster on GFY.

RIP John

:(

Holly - I can assure you that the epass account is/was John's - it's the one I used to pay him for work he did for me. I can also confirm that the woman whom he called his wife was named Sheri. **I have all my ICQ chat history** I knew of his financial situation because we discussed those issues many times & how extra work kept him sane but did nothing to help him financially because the med costs by the month of february had doubled due to tests he needed.

Anal Hobbit - you said he sounds familiar - some of you gallery submitters from back from 1999-2003, he owned StiffyTGP.com which was pretty big at the time.

May he rest in peace...

sorry on the double posting. :(

i know how you feel Brujah, but i'm not sure it really matters. John's peers were here online and far more detailed information and sentiment has been expressed on the boards than could ever be done in a newspaper obit. i'm sure Sheri will encourage his family to write an obit anyhow as she has been in contact with jayeff's father - she's actually sent him a collection of some of the posts from here and over at damagex's forum.

as for the skeptics, i personally couldn't care less about them as i know that not a single soul who mattered a damn to jayeff has had any doubts about his passing, or the info that Sheri and i have shared with them. and if they did have any doubts they must have had enough class to do their homework and verify the information that has been shared instead of soiling the sentiment of this otherwise beautiful and heart-felt thread.

i made installment 2&3 of 5 of my pledge last night - please let this be a reminder to those of you who have made pledges and are still yet to honor them. you know who you are. :)

i miss jayeff so much. REST IN PEACE good man!

I do hope he's way happy wherever he is.

I will add some more to the fund.

thanks Paul! though i wasn't referring to you! lol... now stop! you've sent enough already! :)

hey man, are you Manca? :)

Another bump for jayeff. We miss your intelligence on this board.

a ghost maybe?