good points! you, two, also look good together, hope you'll have each other for another 7 years and more to that!

You betcha!

Just remember every day, it could be your last...make it a good one.

When problems or fights pop up -- and oh they will -- is it REALLY that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things?

For that have health issues that indicate time is running out it's easier to maintain this perspective...you don't have to wait until you're there to 'get it'

I agree with number 2 completely. If something is bothering you, say it right then and there and don't let it go un said. I also agree with the birth control thing. Best invention EVER.

just say no... then there is no problem.

Says the guy about to get MARRIED. :thumbsup :1orglaugh:1orglaugh




Ananda

nice inputs in here...thanks for sharing.

I've been with my bf for 5 years now and we've been thru a lot. I guess understanding each other's need is also one of the things that couples should look after. not only one sided...

Exactement :)

Haha, no offense, I have a lot of respect for marriage.

In my generation, marriage seems to be tainted. We dealt with the trauma of watching our parents (damn baby boomers) get divorced. Personally, both of my biological parents are still married (30yrs), I stuck out like a sore thumb growing up, I didn't know anyone else who's parents were still together.

I also had a few friends divorced by 22, most married due to teenage pregnancy. There's no good reason to rush into marriage, and plenty of good reasons to wait.

I'm not anti-marriage by any means, and I hope to do so myself one day:winkwink: I do believe it's forever, even if ya have to wait forever to confirm that's correct.

My boyfriend and I have been together since high school too. This August will be our 10th anniversary. We always try to compromise. Even though I don't agree with some of the things he says or does, I still respect the way he feels. Oh, and lots of great sex too, that's always necessary!

:winkwink::winkwink::winkwink:Well said, and congrats!

50 Long relationships....

make more money than she can spend.

I'm noticing an alarming amount of people see money as a key relationship factor... :Oh crap:Oh crap

Yeah... that's the one rule of yours I was like "oh yeah?" on.

My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years now, and we follow the same kinda formula... though I never really considered our shower-time so important, you made me realize it kinda is.

We're both old enough to responsibly have kids, and she really wants them... and I know I want them at some point, and, frankly, I'd prefer my kids growing up inside wedlock... so marriage seems the natural choice in the days ahead.

"Don't marry before you're 27" seems like good advice, though.... I wouldn't even be considering it if I was under 30.

That's so nice! Only one argument? You must have found the treasure or something...now THAT'S UNBELIEVABLE!

I grew up hearing my parents arguing all the time...

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This is my favorite snipe of yours - good work! :pimp

That is awesome, great tips too!

A friend of mine sent me this, most of them appear to be true. It's kind of funny when you think about it:

It's Called "The way we think":

when you catch a girl
glancing at you,
she wants you to look
back and smile

_________________________________________________

When a girl bumps into your arm
while walking with you
she wants
you to hold her hand

_________________________________________________

When she wants a hug
she will just stand there

_________________________________________________

When you break a girls heart
she still feels it when
you run into each other 3 years later

_________________________________________________

When a girl is quiet,
millions of things are running through her
mind

_________________________________________________

When a girl is not arguing,
she is thinking deeply

_________________________________________________

When a girl looks at you with eyes full of
questions,
she is wondering how long you will be
around

______________________ ___________________________

When a girl answers, "I'm fine," after a
few seconds,
she is not at all fine

_________________________________________________

When a girl stares at you,
she is wondering why you are playing these games

_________________________________________________

When a girl lays her head on your chest,
she is wishing for you to be hers forever

_________________________________________________

When a girl says she can't live
without you,
she has made up her mind that you are
her future

_________________________________________________

When a girl says, "I miss you,"
no one in this world can miss you more
than that

_________________________________________________

When a girl is mean to you after a break-up
she wants you back, but shes
scared she'll get hurt and knows
you're gone forever

_________________________________________________


Guy Facts:

When a guy calls you,
he wants to be with you

_________________________________________________

When a guy is quiet,
He's listening to you

_________________________________________________

When a guy is not arguing,
He realizes he's wrong

_________________________________________________

When a guy says, "I'm fine." after a few
minutes
he means it

_________________________________________________

When a guy stares at you,
he wishes you really care about him

_________________________________________________

When your laying your head on a guy's
chest,
he has the world

_________________________________________________

When a guy calls/texts/comments you everyday,
he is in love

_________________________________________________

When a (good) guy tells you he loves you,
he means it

_________________________________________________
When a guy says he can't live without you,
he's with you till youre done

_________________________________________________

When a guy says, "I miss you,"
he misses you more than you could have
ever missed him or anything else

AAAWWWW... Naughty, that was nice:liebe028:

Do you and your man only talk of GFY?

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Sadly it comes up prolly way more often than it should... :thumbsup:thumbsup
:Oh crap:Oh crap

if she is not in the mood. Try again after she goes to sleep .

We work near each other and are usually both on GFY. Inevitably, yes it comes up a lot:helpme

Good attitude. :thumbsup

Napolean and I have been together for 2.5 years, married for just over a year and I agree with everything you said, except for the marriage part!

I do think rushing into marriage with the wrong person is a bad idea for anyone but when you know you have found the right one, marriage is just the final step in your commitment to each other. It should never change anything about your relationship, I know it hasn't for us.

We have small arguments once in a while but we get over them pretty quickly. We never argue about 'each other', just small things that come up (usually with work). We live and work together 24 hours a day. We haven't been apart for more than a few hours in almost 2 years and we love it :) We genuinely enjoy each other's company, which is very important. Liking your partner is just as important as loving them.

Honesty, trust, loyalty, respect, etc are the fundamentals of any successful long term relationship BUT it's so important to keep having fun. Laugh, go places, be goofy. I think the mistake that a lot of people make is thinking they HAVE to be an "adult" when they get married. They think they have to do X Y and Z. Like working 9 to 5 and having kids shortly after and totally abandoning their sense of adventure.

My husband and I love to try new things. We love toys (not just in the bedroom :winkwink:)... we love going places, eating out, playing chess, computer games etc and we also love being hermits. We can go either way! Having a lot in common is important. Men and women will never be total equals, its not physically possible... but you can still share a lot of the same things.

We're major nerds, we love learning and being square. I could write a novel about everything that's great about our relationship but can't think of one thing I don't like about it... other than wishing I met him much sooner. :)

one of the secret : make her laugh..have fun with your GF

Good community service folks. ;)

7 years since high school it's not a long relationship. The hard times start at 30+, so enjoy it while you still can:thumbsup :2cents

Munki's Girl?

Come on sweetie... this isn't high school. Get your own identity.

fuck all your spouse's friends and reletives and tell no one. that way there's a wonderful uncomfortable silence every time you're around the people closest to you!

This is good advice!! :thumbsup

wow ..I really needed to read all that..so does my bf..lol

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:1orglaugh:1orglaugh:1orglaughYeah I considered that when making the username. Not only am I his girlfriend, but I'm also his assistant, we work closely together and I'm his right-hand girl for everything, therefore I thought it'd be cute.

Besides that (and I'm probably just asking for it:error), not one person has asked me to show my tits:love-boob

Show me your tits... :thumbsup





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Is 3 months considered long term?

There's always a sliding scale to be applied :thumbsup

Never take each other for granted no matter how long you are together.

Aww i read it ..and yes it makes me warm ..happy and a bit jealous .. truthfully .. I love my girl with all my heart .. miss her when she is away .. believe her when she tells me something ...and still get goose bumps when she comes close ....she is my world ..we have a child together and he is amazing .. every one of those suggestions and "the way we think" have to be seriously looked at from BOTH sides.. truth is I am a romantic .. I enjoy every second with my girl .. it is my sorted past and retardedness that has and probably will cause me and her grief forever or until she can believe in me .....but i work at it daily and believe me she is worth it ..

If you ride a bike and are married and she doesnt ride with you, remove the passenger seat and footpegs. Keeps you from getting caught with bitch on the back of your bike.

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