Is chatting on-line cheating? - GoFuckYourself.com

Funbrunette · 06-07-2007, 05:30 AM

If you're not meeting the person, but chatting and become "very" friendly?

Your thought?

Jman · 06-07-2007, 05:39 AM

Hun, just because we are both naked and chat on ICQ I don't think it's considered cheating.... OUI OUI!!!!!!

markz08 · 06-07-2007, 05:41 AM

no its not cheating... you're just doing something different. unless you get attached to your chatmate... that's another story. =)

Michaelious · 06-07-2007, 05:42 AM

Not cheating unless there are feelings behind it!

Naughty · 06-07-2007, 05:42 AM

It's only an issue if you feel cheated when your partner does it to you.

2c.

Digipimp · 06-07-2007, 05:43 AM

i dont know, are you up for some phone sex though?

JFK · 06-07-2007, 05:44 AM

well it depends on if you act upon the chats

KimJI · 06-07-2007, 05:46 AM

If you chat, its not cheating. But if you flirt and get personal, I see it as cheating.

TheLegacy · 06-07-2007, 05:55 AM

your cheating in your heart.

its similar to being in a relationship and yearning or not being over a past one - like calling out another persons name when having sex. I know alot of people think that there is a thing called "harmless flirting". yet I have seen relationships and marriages break up after years of being together because of "harmless flirting".

Soon it develops into something stronger, but the worst thing is that the other partner is left always feeling second best - that there is a piece of your heart that he/she can't have. That is the saddest thing of all. When they see and can feel - your not giving 100% into the relationship.

True we all need affection, and there are times that in doing so - we have to admit that a partner (married or otherwise) is 'boring' - sort of like thinking, "ya he's suppose to like me"... but you want more - you want everyone to like you - adore you - worship you. And the feeling of having someone attracted to you - flirting - is tempting for the ego.

The problem is your self worth and lack of communication in your relationship.

Men will understand that love, trust and affection are like oil to a car - you need a certain quantity of it - let it slowly run down to nothing and the engine will burn out. You must continually check your "love stick" and find out where your at - or your going to be tempted with the next cute car that drives by.

If your asking if its right or wrong now - then you already know the answer and are merely seeking confirmation from your friends

GooSearch · 06-07-2007, 05:57 AM

icq me and i will let ya know after about 20 minutes :p

Funbrunette · 06-07-2007, 06:00 AM

Just so were ALL clear this is simply a question it doesn't apply to me (except for my usual lovers on-line..You know WHO you are...lol) I'm just curious to see other people's thoughts on it.

The Duck · 06-07-2007, 06:05 AM

Of course its cheating.

GooSearch · 06-07-2007, 06:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Funbrunette

Just so were ALL clear this is simply a question it doesn't apply to me (except for my usual lovers on-line..You know WHO you are...lol) I'm just curious to see other people's thoughts on it.

ahhh/.. ok then yea your cheating

jasminexxx · 06-07-2007, 06:09 AM

not cheating

Kuolu · 06-07-2007, 06:10 AM

If you beat the monkey while chatting it's cheating ;)

Ssv · 06-07-2007, 06:14 AM

lol
If u asked me few weeks ago, I would definately say it's cheating...But right now, I would have to say Naaaaaah!You go gurl

Nicky · 06-07-2007, 06:18 AM

Id not say that is cheating. If you meet up with him/her and have sex, that would be cheating

justsexxx · 06-07-2007, 06:26 AM

I would say, if you would do it, when your partner is looking as well, it's not cheating. Would you feel uncomfortable when your partner is looking while you are having chats, I would consided it cheating..

Gruntled · 06-07-2007, 06:37 AM

The test for the answer to this(or any question like it) is easy:

If your partner were sitting next to you, would you still be doing the same thing?

If, in you personal situation, your truthful answer is 'yes', then you are not cheating.

Beating the monkey is not a good test. you'd be beating it anyway at some point.

KimJI · 06-07-2007, 06:38 AM

ohh, its not you but "a friend" - glad you pointed that out

PunkRockXXX · 06-07-2007, 06:38 AM

chatting, nah?

exchanging pictures, yea

TBrown · 06-07-2007, 06:49 AM

I'm doing it right now ;)

Tom_PM · 06-07-2007, 06:51 AM

The cheater will know when it's cheating. It's not something imposed on them, it's a boundary they are aware of (or else they dont know their partner very well).

Big_D · 06-07-2007, 06:52 AM

nahhhh, its cool

sirkakashi08 · 06-07-2007, 06:53 AM

nope! you're just being friendly, man!

Ravage · 06-07-2007, 07:14 AM

I swear, Evil Chris and I are not having lustful chats Funbrunette! Please call off the P.I.

AZSarah · 06-07-2007, 07:20 AM

Good topic FB

Tough call, but I'd say, if your partner found the chat history later & would feel hurt or betrayed by the context of the conversation then yes, it is a form of cheating...

Chef86 · 06-07-2007, 07:29 AM

Anything online really isn't cheating wether its chatting or being naked on a web cam together. Even though your still having fun with the other person your still not there with them. Also if you've never met the person in person before then it definatly wouldn't be considered cheating as even though you might like them its likely that you don't really have the same feelings for them as if you would know them in person. lol

Tom_PM · 06-07-2007, 07:36 AM

I think it's wrong to assume that because theres no physical contact that it cannot therefore be "cheating".

To me, a mechanical emotionless sexual indescretion is FAR LESS important than a secret emotional affair.

aybecker · 06-07-2007, 07:37 AM

the answer is no, it's not cheating.

martinsc · 06-07-2007, 07:38 AM

if there are feelings involved it's cheating... if it's only a fun game it's not.

quantum-x · 06-07-2007, 08:05 AM

If it feels wrong, then it is ;)

selena · 06-07-2007, 08:05 AM

If your partner were watching over your shoulder, and would be cool with what was going on, then it is not cheating.

Danny_C · 06-07-2007, 08:10 AM

I think dishonesty is cheating. If you're swingers, then having sex right in front of your significant other can't be called cheating. On the other hand, even chatting could be cheating if you're hiding it and lying about it. The important thing in any relationship is trust... and that comes by being honest and forthcoming.

montrealpornking · 06-07-2007, 08:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Funbrunette

If you're not meeting the person, but chatting and become "very" friendly?

Your thought?

actually the answer is very simple. how would you feel if Chris did it behind your back. There is your answer on what it is or is not

AK · 06-07-2007, 08:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Naughty

It's only an issue if you feel cheated when your partner does it to you.

2c.

I can't agree more on this.

Funbrunette · 06-07-2007, 08:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by montrealpornking

actually the answer is very simple. how would you feel if Chris did it behind your back. There is your answer on what it is or is not

Do people know how to read?

I'm not questioning this for myself...lol I want other people's opinion. Do you really think I need to ask on GFY is something that am doing is wrong?!? Hello...lol I'd keep my mouth shut and wouldn't bring any attention to the issue!

darksoul · 06-07-2007, 08:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Funbrunette

Do people know how to read?

I'm not questioning this for myself...lol I want other people's opinion. Do you really think I need to ask on GFY is something that am doing is wrong?!? Hello...lol I'd keep my mouth shut and wouldn't bring any attention to the issue!

phewww
for a moment I thought you're gonna tell Chris about us.

Th!nk · 06-07-2007, 09:21 AM

I consider this cheating.

madawgz · 06-07-2007, 09:53 AM

if there arnt any feelings then no

Jarmusch · 06-07-2007, 09:56 AM

If your partner gets jealous, then it's cheating.

stickyfingerz · 06-07-2007, 10:23 AM

Well either way Icq in sig, and so is skype, and yahoo I have to if needed.... and I have a webcam too so.. hehe.

coiotu · 06-07-2007, 10:27 AM

if there are feelings involved it's cheating

polle54 · 06-07-2007, 10:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Funbrunette

If you're not meeting the person, but chatting and become "very" friendly?

Your thought?

it's a stupid question

you are the only one who can decide whether it's cheating or not when you are doing it.

so consider the following:

would you consider it cheating if it was the other way around?
have you told your husband that you do this?
would you be okay with telling your husband that you do this?
would it be okay if he was hiding it?

if the questions don't cause any issues, you can do as you please.

if not then you have to make up with yourself where you stand on this subject.

just remember, no one can tell whether it's cheating or not, don't push your responsibility away.
That's very immature.

bobby666 · 06-07-2007, 11:45 AM

i hope not ..............

XXXTony · 06-07-2007, 11:46 AM

chatting online but not meeting the person is like working on your game. if you say something dumb and they block you then you learn what not to say but if they keep on talking to you then you're officially an e-pimp.

thats just my two cents. you should probably get off myspace before your girlfriend see's your comments then all the talking in the world won't save you.

Cassie · 06-07-2007, 11:59 AM

it depends on the context and direction the conversation end up taking.

carol.prime · 06-07-2007, 12:04 PM

for me its cheating...you can always tell wrong info to that person because you're not seeing each other personally..telling a lie is a number 1 rules in there specially if you only want a past time...

Jimmy Rock · 06-07-2007, 12:19 PM

it's cheating!

D · 06-07-2007, 12:21 PM

If you're getting sexually aroused while chatting - or know that the other person is, and continue down the path of arousal - and your mate doesn't have a clue about what's going down, then yeah - I think it's cheating.

06-07-2007, 05:30 AM	#1
Funbrunette Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Location: Montreal, Canada Posts: 4,834	Is chatting on-line cheating? If you're not meeting the person, but chatting and become "very" friendly? Your thought? __________________ Stephanie (Funbrunette) [email protected] ICQ: 155-713-409

06-07-2007, 05:39 AM	#2
Jman Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Canuckstikan Posts: 22,768	Hun, just because we are both naked and chat on ICQ I don't think it's considered cheating.... OUI OUI!!!!!! __________________ email: [email protected] Best AI Affiliate Program We also do WL at $0.00 upfront costs FantasyXXX.AI Teams: jean.francois.laverdiere TG: @jman1216

06-07-2007, 05:41 AM	#3
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06-07-2007, 05:42 AM	#4
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06-07-2007, 05:42 AM	#5
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06-07-2007, 05:44 AM	#7
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TheLegacy SEO Connoisseur Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Brantford, Ontario Posts: 17,111	your cheating in your heart. its similar to being in a relationship and yearning or not being over a past one - like calling out another persons name when having sex. I know alot of people think that there is a thing called "harmless flirting". yet I have seen relationships and marriages break up after years of being together because of "harmless flirting". Soon it develops into something stronger, but the worst thing is that the other partner is left always feeling second best - that there is a piece of your heart that he/she can't have. That is the saddest thing of all. When they see and can feel - your not giving 100% into the relationship. True we all need affection, and there are times that in doing so - we have to admit that a partner (married or otherwise) is 'boring' - sort of like thinking, "ya he's suppose to like me"... but you want more - you want everyone to like you - adore you - worship you. And the feeling of having someone attracted to you - flirting - is tempting for the ego. The problem is your self worth and lack of communication in your relationship. Men will understand that love, trust and affection are like oil to a car - you need a certain quantity of it - let it slowly run down to nothing and the engine will burn out. You must continually check your "love stick" and find out where your at - or your going to be tempted with the next cute car that drives by. If your asking if its right or wrong now - then you already know the answer and are merely seeking confirmation from your friends __________________ SEO Connoisseur Microsoft Teams: Robert Warren SEO Telegram: @TheLegacy54 RobertWarrenSEO.com Last edited by TheLegacy; 06-07-2007 at 05:56 AM..

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06-07-2007, 06:00 AM	#11
Funbrunette Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Location: Montreal, Canada Posts: 4,834	Just so were ALL clear this is simply a question it doesn't apply to me (except for my usual lovers on-line..You know WHO you are...lol) I'm just curious to see other people's thoughts on it. __________________ Stephanie (Funbrunette) [email protected] ICQ: 155-713-409

06-07-2007, 06:05 AM	#12
The Duck Adult Content Provider Industry Role: Join Date: May 2005 Location: Europe Posts: 18,243	Of course its cheating. __________________ Skype Horusmaia ICQ 41555245 Email [email protected]

06-07-2007, 06:09 AM	#14
jasminexxx Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 13,816	not cheating

06-07-2007, 06:10 AM	#15
Kuolu Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 4	If you beat the monkey while chatting it's cheating ;)

06-07-2007, 06:14 AM	#16
Ssv Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 402	lol If u asked me few weeks ago, I would definately say it's cheating...But right now, I would have to say Naaaaaah!You go gurl

06-07-2007, 06:18 AM	#17
Nicky Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Sweden Posts: 30,069	Id not say that is cheating. If you meet up with him/her and have sex, that would be cheating __________________ gfynicky @ gmail.com

06-07-2007, 06:26 AM	#18
justsexxx Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 13,723	I would say, if you would do it, when your partner is looking as well, it's not cheating. Would you feel uncomfortable when your partner is looking while you are having chats, I would consided it cheating.. __________________ Questions? ICQ: 125184542

06-07-2007, 06:37 AM	#19
Gruntled Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Atlanta, GA Posts: 358	The test for the answer to this(or any question like it) is easy: If your partner were sitting next to you, would you still be doing the same thing? If, in you personal situation, your truthful answer is 'yes', then you are not cheating. Beating the monkey is not a good test. you'd be beating it anyway at some point. __________________

06-07-2007, 06:38 AM	#20
KimJI Confirmed User Join Date: May 2007 Location: So fucking gone Posts: 1,839	ohh, its not you but "a friend" - glad you pointed that out __________________ Trafficadept \| Best traffic I have ever tested \| web "@t" cuul.org

06-07-2007, 06:38 AM	#21
PunkRockXXX So Fucking Banned Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: the south Posts: 486	chatting, nah? exchanging pictures, yea

06-07-2007, 06:49 AM	#22
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06-07-2007, 06:51 AM	#23
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06-07-2007, 06:52 AM	#24
Big_D CRAZY MOFUKKA Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 3,296	nahhhh, its cool

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06-07-2007, 07:14 AM	#26
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06-07-2007, 07:20 AM	#27
AZSarah Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: The Bird, AZ Posts: 1,651	Good topic FB Tough call, but I'd say, if your partner found the chat history later & would feel hurt or betrayed by the context of the conversation then yes, it is a form of cheating... __________________ Icq- 470-936-598

06-07-2007, 07:29 AM	#28
Chef86 Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 2,930	Anything online really isn't cheating wether its chatting or being naked on a web cam together. Even though your still having fun with the other person your still not there with them. Also if you've never met the person in person before then it definatly wouldn't be considered cheating as even though you might like them its likely that you don't really have the same feelings for them as if you would know them in person. lol __________________ I have my sites hosted with Phat Servers why don't you? ICQ: 541885

06-07-2007, 07:36 AM	#29
Tom_PM Porn Meister Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 16,443	I think it's wrong to assume that because theres no physical contact that it cannot therefore be "cheating". To me, a mechanical emotionless sexual indescretion is FAR LESS important than a secret emotional affair. __________________ 43-922-863 Shut up and play your guitar.

06-07-2007, 07:37 AM	#30
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06-07-2007, 07:38 AM	#31
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06-07-2007, 08:05 AM	#32
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06-07-2007, 08:10 AM	#34
Danny_C Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Philadelphia, PA Posts: 2,160	I think dishonesty is cheating. If you're swingers, then having sex right in front of your significant other can't be called cheating. On the other hand, even chatting could be cheating if you're hiding it and lying about it. The important thing in any relationship is trust... and that comes by being honest and forthcoming.

06-07-2007, 09:21 AM	#39
Th!nk Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 6,996	I consider this cheating.

06-07-2007, 09:53 AM	#40
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