What kind of Lover are You?? - GoFuckYourself.com

ADL Josh · 03-26-2007, 07:36 AM

So what kind of lover are you? Check out these descriptions to find your personal style, and learn how you can keep your relationship healthy and happy.

The romantic:

You love being in love. You may be swept away by your new lover's looks or other appealing physical attributes -- and disappointed when they change over time.

Remember that true love doesn't recede with his hairline, and romance doesn't have to fade as the relationship matures. Plan dates, weekend getaways, or just-the-two-of-you vacations to rekindle the spark that ignited your relationship, suggests Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., a sociology professor at the University of Washington in Seattle.

The list-maker:

"You have criteria that are important, and you won't change them," Schwartz says. Even if you're in a committed relationship, you may put too much pressure on your partner to live up to your standards.

Let go of the list. Schwartz warns that clinging to those must-haves could mean a chafed relationship or a lonely life. "Ultimately, the important things are companionship, love, a capacity for forgiveness," she says. "Not the stuff that may impress outsiders."

The obsessive:

You want to spend all your time with your partner. And you constantly worry about your relationship, even when you've been together for years. Schwartz says this kind of partner can be overbearing or have highs and lows that drive her significant other crazy.

Don't crowd your lover, Schwartz says. "Realize that too much of a good thing can be too much." You may need to talk to a counselor who can help you understand why you feel so insecure and help you find ways to put your relationship in perspective.

The giver:

You may give more than you get. "At some point, you find that it's all going one way," Schwartz says. You're constantly working selflessly to meet your partner's needs, but you're not looking after you.

It's important to have a life outside of your marriage. Develop your own interests, cultivate your own friendships, and reserve time to do things you like to do -- without your partner.

The player:

You love courtship. "For these lovers, the chase is a lot of it," Schwartz says. You're easily bored in long-term relationships, though, and your eye may roam.

First, avoid situations that could lead to affairs. "Don't have a drink with that interesting colleague," Schwartz says. "Take temptation out of your life." Instead of looking for excitement outside your relationship, try doing new things (salsa dancing, anyone?) with your partner, so you can see him or her in a fresh light.

The pal:

Love seems to creep up on you. One day you think, "Wow, I've really been spending a lot of time with Jack," then realize you're in love. In the long term, your relationship may be quiet, but it's strong.

Don't let your thing get too platonic. "You need moments of romance," Schwartz says. Planning a special dinner for two or just planting a passionate kiss on him once in a while shows your partner (and reminds you, too) that you think he's sexy and exciting.

Afi-Odelia E. Scruggs, Ph.D., a writer based near Cleveland, Ohio, tries to keep work from getting in the way of romance with her husband.

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Onixia · 03-26-2007, 07:44 AM

The obsessive

Amadora · 03-26-2007, 08:07 AM

I'm in marriage, so i guess now i'm a pal. But may be this's what only i think.

Th!nk · 03-26-2007, 11:11 AM

based on that, I think Im the obsessive type...yeah I know, not a good thing

ADL Colin · 03-26-2007, 11:15 AM

Which choice is for a guy who likes to donkey punch a girl with the telephone from the night stand?

gornyhuy · 03-26-2007, 12:03 PM

You forgot "the human toilet"

shoeaholicanon · 03-26-2007, 12:07 PM

i wish i were after my own needs some times :S lol

Metalsound · 03-26-2007, 01:18 PM

The Giver for sure . . .

Elli · 03-26-2007, 02:27 PM

I'm a giver/romantic.

shekinah · 03-26-2007, 02:58 PM

The pal.. I think?

VicD · 03-26-2007, 02:59 PM

I'am not a lover i'am a fighter

Voodoo · 03-26-2007, 02:59 PM

I'm "The Magic".

Spunky · 03-26-2007, 04:55 PM

The pal is closest to me

Z · 03-26-2007, 05:12 PM

I'm a giver...I even have a tshirt that an ex lover gave me that says "Giver".

Nodtveidt · 03-26-2007, 05:25 PM

I am none of these.

LittleSassy · 03-26-2007, 05:28 PM

Guess Im between the Pal and the Giver....

sniperwolf · 03-26-2007, 06:09 PM

hhmm...i'm more of a giver...and based on my past and my current relationship, that's proven..

ThreeDeviants · 03-26-2007, 07:56 PM

bit of a giver, and a romantic, with player tendancies heh... oh, and I have a list too... so, kinda hard to nail it down to just one category really. lol

Interesting poll though

cybertoons · 03-26-2007, 08:22 PM

I'm between the obsessive and the giver.

ADL Josh · 03-27-2007, 07:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ADL Colin

Which choice is for a guy who likes to donkey punch a girl with the telephone from the night stand?

Oh I forgot to mention:

The Drunken Zookeeper: You are in control of your partner. For these lovers; "Love is not an emotion, it's an uncontrollabe urge to punish your partner in a way that may seem unnecessary. Mostly on a count of the alcohol." Swartz says. You enjoy using inanimate objects in situations where they may deem unsuitable. You spend most of your time behind your partner and enjoy being in tight situations.

You may have spent some time in prison or a light stay in a mental institution, but that has no affect on your love making abilities. In the bedroom you may find yourself using phrases such as "Who's your daddy, Hoe!? or You like that, Bitch!?" all of which enhance your love making experience. To your partner you are viewed as "The Omega." Simply because you are most likely the last partner they will ever have due the physical deformities they received from love-making.

Mr. Romance · 03-27-2007, 07:41 AM

I am

Mr. Romance

Fap · 03-27-2007, 08:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ADL Colin

Which choice is for a guy who likes to donkey punch a girl with the telephone from the night stand?

PS: Im the giver

CherryLipsRosa · 03-27-2007, 09:28 AM

i am a combination of 3 of them lol

PaulB IYP · 03-27-2007, 09:29 AM

all about the romance baby

View Poll Results: What kind of Lover are you??
The Romantic	10	27.03%
The List-Maker	3	8.11%
The Obsessive	4	10.81%
The Giver	9	24.32%
The Player	6	16.22%
The Pal	5	13.51%
Voters: 37. You may not vote on this poll

03-26-2007, 07:36 AM	#1
ADL Josh Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 3,026	What kind of Lover are You?? So what kind of lover are you? Check out these descriptions to find your personal style, and learn how you can keep your relationship healthy and happy. The romantic: You love being in love. You may be swept away by your new lover's looks or other appealing physical attributes -- and disappointed when they change over time. Remember that true love doesn't recede with his hairline, and romance doesn't have to fade as the relationship matures. Plan dates, weekend getaways, or just-the-two-of-you vacations to rekindle the spark that ignited your relationship, suggests Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., a sociology professor at the University of Washington in Seattle. The list-maker: "You have criteria that are important, and you won't change them," Schwartz says. Even if you're in a committed relationship, you may put too much pressure on your partner to live up to your standards. Let go of the list. Schwartz warns that clinging to those must-haves could mean a chafed relationship or a lonely life. "Ultimately, the important things are companionship, love, a capacity for forgiveness," she says. "Not the stuff that may impress outsiders." The obsessive: You want to spend all your time with your partner. And you constantly worry about your relationship, even when you've been together for years. Schwartz says this kind of partner can be overbearing or have highs and lows that drive her significant other crazy. Don't crowd your lover, Schwartz says. "Realize that too much of a good thing can be too much." You may need to talk to a counselor who can help you understand why you feel so insecure and help you find ways to put your relationship in perspective. The giver: You may give more than you get. "At some point, you find that it's all going one way," Schwartz says. You're constantly working selflessly to meet your partner's needs, but you're not looking after you. It's important to have a life outside of your marriage. Develop your own interests, cultivate your own friendships, and reserve time to do things you like to do -- without your partner. The player: You love courtship. "For these lovers, the chase is a lot of it," Schwartz says. You're easily bored in long-term relationships, though, and your eye may roam. First, avoid situations that could lead to affairs. "Don't have a drink with that interesting colleague," Schwartz says. "Take temptation out of your life." Instead of looking for excitement outside your relationship, try doing new things (salsa dancing, anyone?) with your partner, so you can see him or her in a fresh light. The pal: Love seems to creep up on you. One day you think, "Wow, I've really been spending a lot of time with Jack," then realize you're in love. In the long term, your relationship may be quiet, but it's strong. Don't let your thing get too platonic. "You need moments of romance," Schwartz says. Planning a special dinner for two or just planting a passionate kiss on him once in a while shows your partner (and reminds you, too) that you think he's sexy and exciting. Afi-Odelia E. Scruggs, Ph.D., a writer based near Cleveland, Ohio, tries to keep work from getting in the way of romance with her husband. -Article Link- __________________ ICQ: 395-433-632

03-26-2007, 07:44 AM	#2
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03-26-2007, 08:07 AM	#3
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03-26-2007, 11:15 AM	#5
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03-26-2007, 11:11 AM	#4
Th!nk Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 6,996	based on that, I think Im the obsessive type...yeah I know, not a good thing

03-26-2007, 12:03 PM	#6
gornyhuy Chafed. Join Date: May 2002 Location: Face Down in Pussy Posts: 18,041	You forgot "the human toilet" __________________ icq:159548293

03-26-2007, 12:07 PM	#7
shoeaholicanon Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,003	i wish i were after my own needs some times :S lol

03-26-2007, 01:18 PM	#8
Metalsound Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Right now . . . Everywhere Posts: 880	The Giver for sure . . . __________________ There are more important things than money . . . BUT THEY COST TOO MUCH

03-26-2007, 02:27 PM	#9
Elli Reach for those stars! Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 17,991	I'm a giver/romantic. __________________ email: [email protected]

03-26-2007, 02:58 PM	#10
shekinah Confirmed User Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 8,452	The pal.. I think? __________________ [Web Design \| Development \| Programming \| Content Writing ] ICQ: 238-890-469

03-26-2007, 02:59 PM	#11
VicD ICQ: 304-611-162 Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Masterdam Posts: 13,245	I'am not a lover i'am a fighter

03-26-2007, 02:59 PM	#12
Voodoo ♥ ♦ ♣ ♠ Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 10,592	I'm "The Magic".

03-26-2007, 04:55 PM	#13
Spunky I need a beer Industry Role: Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: ♠ Toiletville ♠ Posts: 133,949	The pal is closest to me __________________ *YOUR INFORMATION HERE*

03-26-2007, 05:12 PM	#14
Z Vidi Vici Veni Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 6,308	I'm a giver...I even have a tshirt that an ex lover gave me that says "Giver".

03-26-2007, 05:25 PM	#15
Nodtveidt Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Camuy, PR Posts: 573	I am none of these. __________________ ICQ: 11541913

03-26-2007, 05:28 PM	#16
LittleSassy Confirmed User Join Date: May 2005 Location: behind you Posts: 7,402	Guess Im between the Pal and the Giver.... __________________ Proadultoutsourcing.com ~ version 2.0 OFFSHORE SOLUTIONS PROVIDER SINCE 2003 ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE 264-580-554

03-26-2007, 06:09 PM	#17
sniperwolf Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 17,743	hhmm...i'm more of a giver...and based on my past and my current relationship, that's proven.. __________________ ~Accepting design works~

03-26-2007, 07:56 PM	#18
ThreeDeviants Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 248	bit of a giver, and a romantic, with player tendancies heh... oh, and I have a list too... so, kinda hard to nail it down to just one category really. lol Interesting poll though __________________ [email protected]

03-26-2007, 08:22 PM	#19
cybertoons Registered User Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: left of the middle Posts: 35	I'm between the obsessive and the giver.

03-27-2007, 07:41 AM	#21
Mr. Romance The Face of Romance and the Symbol of Freedom Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: The America's Posts: 7,821	I am Mr. Romance __________________ Free Leads Program now paying up to $6 Gerard-Director of Global Sales Sign up Here: CamStarCash Check out: FreeCamStars ICQ: 330 662 299 gerard at freecamstars . com

03-27-2007, 09:28 AM	#23
CherryLipsRosa Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Costa Rica Posts: 3,603	i am a combination of 3 of them lol __________________ Rosalia M. ICQ.12150439 Skype. cherrylipsrosa

03-27-2007, 09:29 AM	#24
PaulB IYP Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: tdot Posts: 2,164	all about the romance baby __________________ paulb@itsyourporn icq 292627919