My wife and I spend most time in bed talking total bollocks and laughing. We have always had a great time with each other as the main aspect of our relationship. Sex is not even as important as taking the kids to the park.

We still have great sex though!

From a girl’s point of view I think it is important to have balance in your relationship. Yes communication and consideration to one another is way up there but sex is also a mean to connect with your partner and show them how you feel towards them. I totally agree that with time the energy of having sex often decreases especially if you have kids but the desire will always be there.

sex : 30%
laughing together: 30%
having each others back : 30%
"I'm right......she's right spats: 10%


Putting any and all of the above aside to make sure our kids have everything they need, a loving home, great education, security if we go, and a real belief that mom and dad are there for them no matter what...........100%

(sorry, sappy dad)

Sex is very important in a strong, well-rounded relationship.. It's a way for a couple to help strengthen their bonds, connect on an intimate level and share mutual pleasure. Those who don't think sex is important in a relationship either are fooling themselves or they're getting it somewhere else.

Its important, but sometimes it needs to be just sexual time. Not always just sex.

Spend time every day touching the other in some sort of sexual way, and you will have a much better relationship.

Sex = 70%

Pretending to listen to her talk about her day = 30%

not married or in a relationship, but when i was, sex isnt everything, but plays a major role in a healthy relationship, same with communication, trust, being honest.

hehehe my wife would divorce me if we didnt have the "I'm right.........she's right spats"

it's honestly not that big of a deal to me. i would much rather have an awesome relationship with minimal sex as opposed to a shitty relationship with lots of it. besides, why would i want to sleep with someone who i secretly think is an asshole in an on-going relationship (fine for a one night stand but to have to spend time with them outside of the bedroom would drive me up the wall)? :) as a result, the most important things (to me) in a relationship are: loyalty, faith, kindness, empathy, sensitivity, trust, etc. the more intimate parts of a relationship are definitely enjoyable and desirable but not so much without awesome non-intimate aspects.

Truth alert.

Good sex is probably overrated but sex is very important for the above reason and that guys want it a lot.

a relationship has to have good sex.. that changes i guess.. but i would always assume that must be the case

I am not sure if this has alraedy been said or not but....

Of course sex is important in a relationship, probably 50% in some instances. However, it is all the other qualities in a person that make for good sex.... attraction, honesty, communication, respect, comfort... etc.

This is a really old thread not sure why it got bumped. But I remember me asking because I had some friends tell me its not that important. Had to prove them wrong at the time.

Thanks.

It's very important.
At some points in the marriage more important than others.
Times of high stress can kill a sex life. Lack of sex life can cause marital stress. Being able to set it all aside and take care of one anothers physical and emotional needs is key to a healthy relationship.