It all depends o the person. I enjoy my married life. Some people never want to be monogomous and that's their deal. Face it...We're all in the biz of slanging smut. Nobody expects anybody in this biz to be with just 1 person.

I'm an old fashioned guy with old fashioned ideals. A lot of people are jaded and I'd be curious to see how many people come from broken homes themselves. Almost every couple I know has been married 5-60 years, and have always been there for one another. I expect to do the same.

Reasons for marriage?
#1. Children... If you have them, it's a positive thing for the child to see.
#2. Insurance/benefits. By being married, I am insured whereas I was paying for my own insurance at a few hundred a month.
#3. If I pass away, I want my wife to handle my estate.
#4. If I fuck up, my wife is a good enough person that she deserves any compensation that may come her way.
#5. Taking that vow and documenting it wasn't religious for me. It was proof of my devotion to my wife.

There are many other reasons..The point is, I'm happilly married and it's something that was right for me. I'm sure it's not right for the most of you, but I guess that's why you are single. Not 1 thing has changed since marriage... I still go out weekly with my friends who are girls, I still get plenty of time to hang out with the guys and she still enjoys making her own money. Those who know my wife, know I picked a winner.

I agree, there are hardly any benefits...

ad is a visa :thumbsup

if your'e going to get married - get married for you - not for your financee.

simple words - but really - REALLY think about that.

:2 cents:

who are you? are you my ex girlfriend?

Even if she did take off as a Photographer or anything I still wouldnt want her money. Or anyone for that matter I was raised to make my own money. I would feel like a loser if I took someones money because I fucked them for a while and went shoping

Damn you're right. I know I'll get married some day.

And that's how suckers get suckered everyday :2 cents:

If your going off the deep end you need to test drive her thoroughly for 10 years min. A lot of marriages flop in less than 5 :thumbsup

Believe me ... it sucks.

free SEX

Believe me it's never free

I was just busting your balls. I am pretty much anti-gov't as well. The gov't does not do anything well.

doesn't matter how much they make. Those kids are YOUR responsibility. Food, clothes, transportation, school supplies, etc.. those things are not free! I guarantee you she spends way more than $450 on the kids. Now, I do think that she should be saving that money for the college fund. That would be a smart thing to do.

Here's my take... I've never been married or engaged.

You get married if you want to have kids and settle down. Also, you don't want to be that looser 40 or 50yr old at the clubs trying to pick up 18yr old girls. It's good to have someone there to go places with and do things. I wonder how I'll feel once I'm married... same girl for yrs, lol. We'll see how it goes :2 cents:

It's not possible to have kids without getting married?

marriage is the ultimate proof of devotion. By marrying the person you tell them that you want only them and nobody else. Otherwise, there is no point. In my eyes, if you don't want to get married, you don't want to commit yourself fully to the relationship.

Marriage .... ahh.... I gotta take a dump.
 

Marriage, the act or ceremony as we all know it really means nothing .. it is a contract, a ceremony at best. As you stated, a contract on mere paper, and 2 yrs into it you both can get bored and totally sick of each other. Then drift away... it happens all the time. I think I recall hearing that married couples are now the minority in the USA? Can anyone confirm? But then you bever really know because Vida Guerra could e-mail me and propose. That would change things. :thumbsup

I think I'll stay single for a while. ...

First... I don't understand WHY you don't see them.
Another thing... What does the fact that her new husband makes 80k a year and she makes a good living by her self also has to do with you paing what you're SUPOSED to pay to suport YOUR kids. They are YOUR kids not her new husband's kid...
I'm single and I have a baby boy. His father gives me everything I need for him and sees our baby every weekend.

I don't see your point and I think you just can't say something that stupid :ugone2far

Shit, I know this already ... and i haven't missed a beat on paying it. The moneys always on time. It just sucks that i have to pay for their cars and other accessories and the money doesn't actually go where its intended to go.

To be quite frank, she ain't like you, but just the opposite.

You don't know that.

Do you even know how much does ONE kid needs? You have 2 to suport. I don't think that $450 even covers half of what they use.

You better shut up and start making some numbers to see what I mean. :ugone2far

no time for dumb qs on GFY

I spend more than what you are paying per month on 1 kid. You are not paying for their cars....trust me.

BTW...are they boys/girls...how old?

Why don't you see them? She doesn't let you? There are legal ways to deal with this... so I just don't get it

First off, you have "NO IDEA" what "I KNOW".
Secondly, i know exactly how much money it takes to raise 2 children.
Third ... $450 a month is a little cheap but i didnt set the cost, the judge did.
Fourth, i dont really care to see what you mean so stfu :thumbsup

One of each :) My girl is 13 and my boy is 14. I miss seeing them :)

I am sure you do...it is very sad not too. I will promise you though that unless your kids are naked and malnourished, she spends all of your money on your children. Mine are 12 and 15 and it adds up VERY quick. Maybe you should fight to see your children....good luck.

Shut the fuck up...Have YOU ever dealt with the courts when you're trying to see your own kid? Have YOU spent unnecessary money on a lawyer just because a woman wants to be a bitch? Have YOU ever spent a DIME on your children just to see them sitting in another woman's lap calling them mommy? If not, shut your dumb cvnt ass up.

Your probably right, thanks for the advice.

Amen! Allelujah! Priase the Lord! and Mohammed too! (Can you say his name here?)

First: WHAT'S YOUR PROBLEM????? :disgust

Sorry, but things like that don't happend in my country. If you're a GOOD PARENT you can see your kids, and noone even the mother can do anything to stop you. If you pay what you have to, then you have the legal right to see them :) .

Keep in mind that my comments were ONLY about the money. I think if you are a good father (actually, as long as you aren't a bad father) then she is an absolute fucking bitch for keeping your children from you. Fight her any way you can....it will be worth it. Good luck:thumbsup

Ummm, ever heard of a prenup? If I get divorced, my wife won't get ANYTHING from me..

I also did NOT get married in a church, and my wife isn't even a christian, so I don't have ANY religious reason. Getting married is a commitment to YOUR significant other, nobody else.

Theory and Reality are two different things...

Marriage is primarily for women. Women want security, and that gives them a sense of it. She can't take half if you have the proper documents. If you want children, it gives the child a sense of security as well, IMO. I like being Married, and I liked being single. The benefits to a man being married are that if you want to live with the woman you love, you best make her feel safe and secure, or you should get rid of her and try different girls on like hats.

Exactly :thumbsup
You hit the nail square on the head.

You couldn't be more right.

If you don't mind me asking, what is the relationship like between you and your children? I know my girls would be pissed if they were your kids. My ex had an ex-wife like yours. Total bitch. His son is now grown and hates his mom. If you can keep a decent relationship with your kids (hard to do with teens) then you should "get them back" when they are old enough to make their own decisions. If she is fucking with them, she will pay for it eventually. Unfortunately, your children are
paying for it now. I hate selfish fucking bitch mothers:disgust :mad: :mad: :mad:

prenup for sure with your kind of money and assets

there are benefits to marriage???

My relationship with them is real good. We dont talk to much about what goes on in their (current) home life and i never ask cause i dont want to be the one to stir shit up. I only get to see them every other Saturday and Sunday. Im hoping within the next 2 yrs. things might change.

Ohh you have alot to learn if you think its free :winkwink: It will cost you everything you own if she ever leaves

Hooker are PPS

Wives are on the Rev-share program 50/50

Not in the US I paid over 50k and still only got 4 days every other month and I pay over $1000 for child support for one child. The system is built so that men are only the financial support

:1orglaugh :thumbsup

I don't understand this crap about an oath to god
THERE IS NO GOD
love is all it is
no god crap

Not sure if anyone mentioned this but I did finally think of a great reason to get married... When ya need a half dozen toasters.

:1orglaugh

I got married a couple of weeks ago. some advice: get a very good lawyer to work out a pre-nup that is both fair and takes into consideration all possibilities.

Yeah I know.

My reasoning though is so I do not fuck the one I love. I have severe medical issues that could screw someone up. If I ever really needed to I could fall back on medicare due to meeting social security disability guidelines, that I would not qualify for if I had a state recognized wife.
I do not see that happening, yet I would never want it to screw her if for some slim chance it did. This would protect not only her but any children I would have from loosing most or all of their assets.

I don't think i'll get married but if i do, i'd love to be with a guy like you. Your wife is a lucky girl. ;)