The wife walked out

Before you use a form you found online, call the local law schools tomorrow. I think you'll be much better off.

not in my experience.

Sorry to hear of this sad situation. As a mom, all I can say is she is a worthless piece of shit, and you and your children deserve better. File papers soon, and file them as abandonement papers. Good luck to you and your kids.

Hey guys I found this online:

________________________________________ ("Custodian") shall have custody of ________________________________________ ("Child"), and control and supervision of _________ [his or her] upbringing, subject to the following:

1. ________________________________________ ("Non-Custodial Parent") shall have the right to visit the Child once each week, on either of the following days, between the following hours, respectively: (A) on ______________ [day of the week] between _________________ [starting hour] and ______________ [ending hour] or ______________ [alternate starting hour] and ______________ [alternate ending hour]; or (B) on ______________ [day of the week] between _________________ [starting hour] and ______________ [ending hour] or ______________ [alternate starting hour] and ______________ [alternate ending hour].

It is agreed that the Non-Custodial Parent will notify the Custodian on or before ___________________________ [day of the week and time of day] whether the Non-Custodial Parent intends to visit the Child and on which of the designated days and times. If the day or hour selected is inconvenient, the Custodian will notify the Non-Custodial Parent no later than ___________________________ [day of the week and time of day], and the Non-Custodial Parent shall be permitted to visit the Child the alternate day or during the alternate hours.

2. Nothing contained in this agreement shall be construed as an obligation or a duty on the part of the Non-Custodial Parent to accept custody of the Child at the time or for the periods indicated. The intention of the parties is that the Non-Custodial Parent's right of visitation shall be entirely optional to Non-Custodial Parent, and should the Non-Custodial Parent so desire, Non-Custodial Parent may waive the privilege of visitation on any occasion and for any reason, without waiving Non-Custodial Parent's right to future visits.

3. _____ Not applicable, or _____ Due to the present immaturity of the Child, the Non-Custodial Parent shall not at the present time be entitled to take the Child away from the Custodian's home for any period of time. However, if at a later date, when the Child becomes older, the Child personally expresses a wish or desire to accompany his/her Non-Custodial Parent and spend with that parent a period of time other than the periods set forth in this agreement, the Custodian will consent to such partial custody at that time and for such period.

4. The Custodian shall promptly notify the Non-Custodial Parent in the event of illness of the Child. The word "illness" shall be deemed to mean any illness, other than any illness from which the Child is now suffering, which shall confine the Child to bed for more than two days.

5. On all matters of importance relating to the Child's health and education, the Custodian shall consult and confer with the Non-Custodial Parent, with a view to adopting and following a harmonious policy.

6. Neither party shall do anything which may estrange the Child from the other.


________________________________________ Date: ______________
Signature of Non-Custodial Parent

________________________________________
Non-Custodial Parent's Printed or Typed Name


________________________________________ Date: ______________
Signature of Custodian

________________________________________
Custodian's Printed or Typed Name

have alawyer draw t his up for you..now is not the time to be taking chances and hoping things get done right....get a lawyer...write her out...im sorry to say it..but any woman that abondons her kids has some serious problems....it may not seem like it, but you and y our kids are better off without her.
best wishes to you and your kids

Hey I now how you feel. My wife left for another guy too, he is junkie and bum. She must be crazy

She'll be back for the kids as soon as she finishes fucking and her conscience nags at her

4. Never ever talk bad about your childrens Mother to them.
She may be the scummiest piece of shit on the planet, but you don't need to be the one to enlighten them. They will know these things in time, and possibly be able to handle it better. The kids will take your negative comments personally as she is still their Momma,to them. This could drive a wedge between you and your kids, and again, right now, your kids need you more than ever.

Sounds somewhat familiar.

Might I make a few suggestions, a grain of salt might be a good side dish.

1. Make yourself more available to the kids.
You have stated that you work AND go to school full time. Right now your children need you more than ever. Cut back where you can and understand that you cannot get this time with your kids back, so don't spend it away from them when the need you most.
Whatever your reasoning for being away, right now your kids probably won't see it the same way. It will be really easy for them to feel abandoned by both parents if you do. Your kids need your strength, and a stabile environment.

2. Don't worry about dating for awhile.
Any time spent away from your children right now could be a mistake. Bringing new women in and out of their lives will confuse them(and possibly yourself) further.
You have already stated you have a full schedule, adding a new mate too soon will only distance yourself from your kids further, while taking away from their stability.
It is very important that your kids understand that THEY are YOUR priority.

Think you want sex though? Study STD/HIV on the web for awhile, your drive will go down some..

3. One day at a time.
Sure plan ahead for things that matter, but focusing on what needs to be done now might give you a little sanity. Don't let the possiblities of the future bog you down today, you have too much to do.

4. Never ever talk bad about your childrens Mother to them.
She may be the scummiest piece of shit on the planet, but you don't need to be the one to enlighten them. They will know these things in time, and possibly be able to handle it better. The kids will take your negative comments personally as she is still their Momma,to them. This could drive a wedge between you and your kids, and again, right now, your kids need you more than ever.

Anyway, these things were just at the top of my head. You probably understand alot or disagree with some. I hope a little of it is helpful.

About the divorce, do it right, especially since you plan on moving out of state soon.. too many details can go wrong if you just throw something together.

Stay strong, your work has just begun.

RainMailer,
You sound like a very good human. The person who needs to remember this most- is you.
I (like most) have had experience in the heartbreak department, however i have never walked a mile in your shoes and have no idea what it would be like to go thru such a time with children to look out and care for as well.
When i am feeling down i find that it helps me to help others. In doing so i always manage to feel uplifted. For you this will apply to your children. Use all your positive energy to stay focused on them. As each new day passes the smiles will come more regularly and before you know it you will be hearing laughter. At this point you will realize that it has been hard, but you and your children are indeed getting thru it.

Keep your chin up and do not let the disrepectful act of your ex to allow You to fall from grace.

My

What you do now is of paramount importance.

I'd prolly drop the night classes for now.

Find a way to hire an attorney that will take the legal steps required and in your interest (and childrens). You need to document the abandonment of the children ASAP IMO. Ask family for money or sell something. Most attorneys will talk to ya for atleast a few minuets for free. Tell them the situation and see if a course of action doesn't fallout of a conversation. If one attorney isn't in or plain won't help, call another and another until you have something to go on. If they can't help, ask if they know a local organization that can.

Just on principle, she needs to pay child support.

Wish you the best

If you are coming to Oregon, hit me up if you plan on consulting with a domestic relations attorney. The firm I work for has some of the top guys in the Portland Metro area.

Hopefully it will work out in the end..it only hurts for a little while

she will come back

what a trick
sleep with her sister/mom/dad whoever lives closer

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Oh yeah once I get custody I will be giving Mr. Man the option of dropping my wife in her tracks or BE SUED. But only after I get what I want.

RM, glad you have an attorney. I'd suggest you do anything to have a professional deal with things now...sell many possessions, dip into retirement savings, borrow from parents or whatever you have to. In a couple years, when she's making $0 and you're making $100k, it will probably occur to her that she could get custody of the kids and get $30k a year in child support. You think you're unhappy now, think about that prospect. The ensuing legal battle could cost you $50k each. Better legal preparation now will reduce her future chance of success, and hopefully reduce your future legal expenses. From what I've seen, no matter what you do, she can always come back and sue for custody later on; right now all you can do in is change the odds of her success.

As for suing the new boyfriend for alienation of affection, I hope you soon come to realize that this is pointless revenge. A natural desire at this point, but rationally, it makes no sense. It will just cost you money you don't have to spare. And you're better off with your wife with this guy, even though it hurts, because without him, she'd want alimony, or would fight harder for a larger divorce settlement, or would fight for the kids to get child support. Look at it objectively, particularly with what would help your kids the most at this point.

I sent the kids to school today but I am so damn affraid to get too far away in fear that she may take them even though she says she wouldnt.

Yeah I havent spit no game in 11 yrs I was a faithful husband. My game is so old its probably lame. But once a mac always a mac.