50 cheaters :pimp

Agreed!

First, I can't believe that I actually read his entire post. lol

Secondly, I honestly don't know how his girlfriend puts up with that, because I know that there's NO WAY I could tolerate it.

blowmyass- no offense, but insecurity is a very unattractive trait. It's obvious that you aren't happy, and there's no way she can be happy having someone checking up and spying on her the way that you are. Life is too short to live it being miserable. Do both you and her a favor and either stop the nonsense, or cut your losses and move on.

geeze

For those that need the cliff notes and dont want to waste 10 minutes of their lives like I did -

Insecure Stalker Dude (ISD) cheats on his baby's mama repeatedly

Because hes a cheater himself he accuses girl of cheating. Most likely she wasnt.

ISD treats girl like shit, goes Mission Impossible on her with spylogger and PI's

Girl starts to realize that ISD is a unstable whack job whos probably cheating on her

Girl fixes herself up and finds a guy with a car and income who doesnt call her 6 times during her lunch break.

ISD feels validated that he was in fact right the entire time and girl was cheating, therefor good thing he cheated too.

Years of therapy follow for child involved.

if you've cheated on her 4 different times, and she knows about it, then yeah.. she's probably cheating on you!

call it quits..

Otherwise, hire a PD for more than a day, or, follow her around yourself.. stalk her at lunch for a week, and see where she goes...

I am in a similiar situation... I suspect my gf is cheating or has cheated, but not *that* much... just some suspicious things like she freaked out when I was messing with her cell phone, and there is some guys that are her *friends* that I suspect like her. so I was thinking of going the spyware route since she most likely chats with them online if she is cheating... otherwise I don't have any real proof of course...

you two are immature idiots to put a child through all of your bullshit. the kids deserves better parents than either one of you are.

:2 cents: :2 cents:

Hope you got a prenup.

This is about the most insecure group of guys I have ever seen posting in one place. If you can't trust your wife then you don't have a good relationship. If you're cheating, you don't have a good relationship.

Btw, she's probably calling you obessively throughout the day because she's tired of you asking her where she is every minute and calling her 10 times a day. That kind of freaky stalker behaviour is enough to make anyone paranoid about being accused of doing something wrong.

WHY ARE YOU TOGETHER?
(Also, how old are you? My bet is 19-20)

Women want men that are confident, solid and can take care of them as a man should. That is what I do for my wife and kids....

What do you offer her to stay there??... lets see: Your being broke, constantly being accused of cheating and being followed???...

Take all your energy you devote into this insane ploy you have in mind and focus it into your business... You'll have more money, more confidence and more to offer as a man to your woman and child.

You wont have time to wonder if she's the company pincushion...

From being in corporate IT mainstream business for 10+ years -- everyone in the office practially has fucked or wants to fuck each other, its the laws of nature...Get used to it.... Most guys there have already sized her up day1.

In the Office You will spend more time with your work crew than you do your significant other....You cry on each others shoulder, you know their lives, their preferences, everything.... and there are no bills to pay, no kids to deal with, no nothing other than just making money and being around each other. Add in the fact that she's dressed up for being at work and probably younger than 30....

My advice to you: Get a FIRM grip on reality, direct your energy into your business and stop fucking around on her.... Be a real man and provide.

fucking bail, its obviously stressing you out, even if you don't catch her it'll still bug you forever.

if you dont trust her, get rid of her. you should never have to question your girl (or man.)

Here is my look on this.

If she is, leave her. You don't need a girl like this.
If she isn't, leave her. She don't need a guy like you.

Murderous

AHAHA.. Brillant. TY!

If she wasn't cheating your behavior would be enough to drive her to do so. Sometimes in life you can't take the easy way out and wait for "proof" of something like infidelity. All the proof you need is evident in your day to day life. The reality is that you both have cheating hearts and a relationship that is obviously not meant to be.

Brad

You have severe mental problems. Congrats.

Dude, if you feel she's cheating, she is.

is it posible she's not cheating at all and you're just paranoid?

I have to agree with some of the posts that state that you really should look in the mirror at a lot of the problems you are having. Hiring private detectives, tracking her online activity, and digging through everything in her life isn't healthy for any relationship. If she hasn't cheated, you are likely pushing her toward it. Have you ever considered that maybe you are just being paranoid?

However, this seems like it is incredibilly stressful on your life. I know you love her and probably the life you have, but if it is making you miserable, I'd say leave regardless. I can't imagine being happy having to sit around and find out if your signifigant other is cheating on you. Here are my 3 suggestions:

1) Keep digging. This will cause you a lot of hassle and time. You may never find anything and your life may be miserable during it.

2) Demand she prove her innocence. She has to take some responsibility in the relationship to make you feel comfortable with her. If she is making jokes, playing games, or whatever, it needs to stop. If she can't make you feel better, you should leave.

3) Bluff. Act like you caught her. Pretend to be really mad and when she asks, just say "you'll see". If she thinks you caught her, she'll admit it most likely. It's risky, but it works.

Seriously wish you the best of luck in your situation.

Today she told me she would be working late due to a screw up when she was out of town.. I got a rental car this morning and caught her driving from the office to a hotel.. She pulled in and went in the building. I waited a half hour and she hadn't left.

Now THAT is enough proof for me ...

I'm sure she will try to explain her way out of it but I'm not even going to tell her htis weekend, I am just going to go out and have my own fund and pretty much flaunt it. In a couple weeks my new job starts up and I will leave her.

So.. to everyone who called me crazy ?

Don't hire a PI; just make a few more post on GFY about this. Someone will figure out a solution shortly.

Damn that sucks man. I guess sometimes when you have a suspision your gut is right.

I'd dump her ass today if I were you.

Find out what room it is then...... :BangBang: :ak47:

She will explain her way out of this.... and I bet you believe her too :1orglaugh

Maybe she was at a business conference.

That's just childish. Confront her and end it. You're just going to end up looking like an asshole if you play games like that. Also, hotels have meeting/conference rooms. Call the hotel and ask if her company has a room reserved before you jump to conclusions.

I meant to ask before...does she know you cheated before? What makes it ok for you to do it, but it's a deal-breaker if she does it?

I have a solution for you. Hit me up on ICQ.

Jesus Christ getting paranoid much? Buddy, if you gotta start watching her to that extent, she's not in a relationship with you, she's serving a sentence.


And why the hell would you suscribe to an adult webmaster board and ask us such questions? We're mostly hornly lonely men here... not the best people to give you advice about your problem

I'm sorry to say that you are slowly turning into the "asshole boyfriend that other people don't like"... everyone has had a friend who dated a guy like you... too damn insecure to just TRUST his partner, making her life a living hell for no good reason... I'd say break it off, go see a shrink and move on.

Relationships are about, TRUST. If you don't have that, you don't have a relationship.

The trust between you is shot... there is no satisfying sex life between you... there is no "relationship" anymore. You are now roommates with the mom of your child.

If you don't want to leave, the two of you should get a bigger place and each get your own bedroom. There's nothing wrong with both of you living under the same roof to support your child as they grow up, but it's time to realize that the two of you are definitely no longer "an item".

How long do you have to give CPR to a dead relationship before you realize it's dead?

You can always get an inexpensive voice activated recorder and tuck it away.. If somethin's goin on, I'm sure she'd be on the phone with him sometime through the day..

It's fun to say, "What's up with this?" then play it back and watch the expressions.. :)

I read all your posts and I'm very sorry :(
That sucks bad. If you ever think about doing stupid stuff like the "Cheaters" idea posted on the 1st page, think in your daughter.

Good luck, man.

blowmyass -- I'd suggest you spend your money on some counseling. Whether or not it's your own guilty conscience (from your cheating) niggling at you, or whether you've got the real idea, you are acting like a nutjob.

I've only had to get one restraining order in my life for an ex, but I'm guessing you'd be the second.

your girlfriends sucking other guys cocks....end of story

Now either kill her, take your daughter, and start a new life.

Or leave her Tonight and deal with it.

Either way stop airing your dirty laundry on a messageboard. :thumbsup

hahahaha.. too late to edit that. funny.

dam that's a long ass post :1orglaugh you got issuses i thought i was a nutcase until i read or scaned your post let her go and seek help

I think you're about tlo lose her, better start impressing her like the first time you met or she's OUTTA THERE

Dont need a PI , buy a GPS bug install it in her purse or something, and follow her via the web, not really hard to do

She prolly dont fuck the other guy in the office but guy home/hotel or something

You can find this litle device for 10$

I have the same shit in my kid watch.

You have severe mental problems and since it was you who originally cheated on her so it is all YOUR fault!

Guys, stop feeling sorry for this moron. He just admitted that he cheated on her so that's why he's so paranoid about her cheating on him.

You are also seriously paranoid and need to seek mental health. If I had to live with someone as paranoid as you I would seriously kill myself.

Maybe your paranoia is the reason she's shutting you out, not the other way around. You need to hire a private investigator. If she's cheating, you can make a rational decision. If she's NOT you need therapy.

If you can't afford a PI, rent some binoculars, take some sick leave and do surveillance yourself.

Oh, I missed the part where HE was cheating on HER.

Stop wasting my time, dude. You reap what you sow. Do her and yourself a favor and get out and pay child support; I'm sure she can do better.

"Boo hoo she cheated on me lots and I only cheated 4 times"... OH god I can't believe I wasted time on this thread.