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AaronM · 02-01-2002, 03:52 PM

Well, here is an update for those of you who are aware of the situation.

Yesterday we removed the feeding tube and stopped all medications. My Grandmother was released from the hospital about an hour and a half ago. She was transported to my parent's house where she has now come out of the drug induced coma that she has been in since last Friday.

The bad news is that by stopping the medication, the problem will continue to spread further and faster. While on the meds, she was comatose and had less than a 1% chance of recovery and a 0% chance of coming out of the coma. If she were to recover, she would basically be in a vegetative state for the rest of her life.

A few years back she wrote out her wishes as to how the family should proceed under these circumstances. Based on her wishes and the latest diagnoses, she has been taken off the only life support she had (the feeding tube) and moved here to be with the family.

Now that she is awake, everything has been explained to her and although she is not able to talk much, she did nod her head in approval and say "Okay" she also said "glad to be home"

The doctors have given her from 3 to 14 days to live without the life support or meds in place. This was a tough decision for my family to make since they could override Grandma's wishes but nobody would feel right about doing that. At least this way we can all see her awake, and have the chance to tell her goodbye. It is also nice to see that she understands what is going on and appears to approve of the way things are being handled.

Peace

rollin2 · 02-01-2002, 03:55 PM

My condolences to you and your family...

spacedog · 02-01-2002, 03:56 PM

Spend as much quality time with her as you can.
My condolences. I know it hurts to lose loved ones, hang in there buddy.

The Truth · 02-01-2002, 03:57 PM

Sorry to hear it bro.....

At least you know she's happier this way.

God bless.

railz · 02-01-2002, 04:04 PM

I'm very sorry to hear that Aaron. Prayers to your grandmother, you and your family.

=^..^= · 02-01-2002, 04:11 PM

Aaron,
It's really hard and I know how you have been feeling the last few weeks

Just want you to knwo that I'm here to talk to whenever you need it - but you already know that.
We all know you around here as the funny man - but even the Jester has his moments of sadness.

The Truth is right - at least she is happier

On the positive (sorry it's a bad term to use but I don't knowhow else to put it) Your Nanna at leat gets a chance to say good bye this way - rather than just fading out wihtout getting to see you all

I am very sure that your Nanna loves you very much and that the last thing she would want is for you to be sad.
I know that it's hard to fel any other way right now - but at least this way you can all say goodbye and try to make you Nanna as comfortable as possible and be sure that her departure is in the presence of those who really love her - as opposed to the cold heartless hospital.

Unfortuanbtely one of the sad facts of life is that sooner or later all things must pass - but we rememeber the good times and people we love always stay with us in our hearts.

Well know that I am am crying I am gonna just finish up say that as always my prayers and thoughts are with you and yours

Just rmemeber ICQ is only a click away

Kitty XXX

AaronM · 02-01-2002, 04:17 PM

Thank you.

Jamdin · 02-01-2002, 04:17 PM

My heart & condolences go out to you & your family. I lost my grandmother several years ago after she had a series of stroke. She wouldn't stay in a hospital but at least we all got to say goodbye since we all knew she wouldn't make it for very long.

Theo · 02-01-2002, 04:19 PM

sad to learn it...

i tried several times in the past to bring my mind in the position of people that know they're gonna die the next day or so.....probably someday this simulation will be my reality.

Cheshire · 02-01-2002, 04:24 PM

This sounds like a beautiful opportunity to celibrate your grandmother.
We will all mourn her passing, but Aaron you and your entire family get the chance to hold her and tell her how much she is loved, and she can feel that ~ I think we'd all like to feel that from those around us at least once in our lives.

On-top · 02-01-2002, 05:02 PM

Hey Aaron, hand in there and make sure she knows that you all care. Be thankful of all your experiences with her, and this final time you get to spend.

Our thoughts are with you man. Losing somebody your close to always sucks.

RaGe · 02-01-2002, 05:05 PM

Sorry to hear that dude

My grandpa died of cancer only about a month ago..

SNOW · 02-01-2002, 05:13 PM

Talked to Aaron last nite and seemed down,but we seemed to laugh a little..Be strong bud...I quote what chesire said..

Health is number 1 ..Without health Money is worthless..

Regards Snow

Pornwolf · 02-01-2002, 05:25 PM

Hey, guys, she's not gone yet! She is happy to be home and around the people she loves.

Aaron, be strong and just know that now and in pasing nothing is more comforting to her than to be around you and the family right now. It might be a little sad, but theres a lot of love going around in that house right now. Hold on to that feeling.

Trust me on this, the same exact thing happened to me.

jimmyf · 02-01-2002, 05:27 PM

AaronM, I truly feel for you.
I was a little kid when my Grandma
passed away. Am 57 now and still remember her
just like it was only yesterday and will until
my last breath. She was one great lady.
She was and still is the love of my life.
Good luck and keep your head high.

Sorry I really can't go on any more.

tekart · 02-01-2002, 05:40 PM

AaronM,

My sincere wishes go out to you and your immediate family. May the love you have for your grandmother provide you with the strength and courage to see yourself through this!

I know it?s tough to go through this situation with anyone that you are close to.

My wife and I had a very similar experience back in the early part of 2000 when my wife?s grandmother passed suddenly!

Spend time with those that you love and let them know how much you love them as one day, you?ll wake up and realize you?re too late!

Tek Art

Machine · 02-01-2002, 06:20 PM

My condolences man

hang in there

Tam · 02-01-2002, 08:11 PM

Aaron, my thuoghts and prayers are with you and yours right now. My grandfather went thru very similar issues. He was dying of cancer and all he wanted to do was go home, so they let him do it. He passed and he did it on his terms so he was at peace with it. The best you can hope for is she hasn't alot of pain to endure now. I know how you feel and you know if you need anything, anything at all, I am here for ya babe........ it's tough I know......... just know you have friends all over the world that are thinking of you at this time in your life.

Tam

B.Diker · 02-02-2002, 08:44 AM

Aaron, my prayers are with you .
2 months ago my grandmother died

last 20-21 day she was medically dead

never spoken , eaten . .

but i know that

with your grandma.

we're always here dude . . .

Trax · 02-02-2002, 08:46 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by B.Diker
Aaron, my prayers are with you .

mine too...
i thank god my grandma is still ok

theWatsonian · 02-02-2002, 09:43 AM

Sorry to hear this, AaronM.

HeadPimp · 02-02-2002, 10:29 AM

Sorry to hear this Aaron! My grandmother passed away a few days after the Christmas before last (I think this was a decision on her part) after nearly recovering from a stroke (then the doctors did her in...) I know how emotionally taxing it can be to be on such uncertain ground. Hang in there man and enjoy your time with her while you can!

02-01-2002, 03:52 PM	#1
AaronM Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: ┌∩┐ ◣_◢ ┌∩┐ Posts: 46,909	My Grandmother Well, here is an update for those of you who are aware of the situation. Yesterday we removed the feeding tube and stopped all medications. My Grandmother was released from the hospital about an hour and a half ago. She was transported to my parent's house where she has now come out of the drug induced coma that she has been in since last Friday. The bad news is that by stopping the medication, the problem will continue to spread further and faster. While on the meds, she was comatose and had less than a 1% chance of recovery and a 0% chance of coming out of the coma. If she were to recover, she would basically be in a vegetative state for the rest of her life. A few years back she wrote out her wishes as to how the family should proceed under these circumstances. Based on her wishes and the latest diagnoses, she has been taken off the only life support she had (the feeding tube) and moved here to be with the family. Now that she is awake, everything has been explained to her and although she is not able to talk much, she did nod her head in approval and say "Okay" she also said "glad to be home" The doctors have given her from 3 to 14 days to live without the life support or meds in place. This was a tough decision for my family to make since they could override Grandma's wishes but nobody would feel right about doing that. At least this way we can all see her awake, and have the chance to tell her goodbye. It is also nice to see that she understands what is going on and appears to approve of the way things are being handled. Peace

02-01-2002, 04:04 PM	#5
railz Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 2,531	I'm very sorry to hear that Aaron. Prayers to your grandmother, you and your family. __________________ This Space for Rent

02-01-2002, 04:11 PM	#6
=^..^= Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: ICQ 380-366 Posts: 6,935	Aaron, It's really hard and I know how you have been feeling the last few weeks Just want you to knwo that I'm here to talk to whenever you need it - but you already know that. We all know you around here as the funny man - but even the Jester has his moments of sadness. The Truth is right - at least she is happier On the positive (sorry it's a bad term to use but I don't knowhow else to put it) Your Nanna at leat gets a chance to say good bye this way - rather than just fading out wihtout getting to see you all I am very sure that your Nanna loves you very much and that the last thing she would want is for you to be sad. I know that it's hard to fel any other way right now - but at least this way you can all say goodbye and try to make you Nanna as comfortable as possible and be sure that her departure is in the presence of those who really love her - as opposed to the cold heartless hospital. Unfortuanbtely one of the sad facts of life is that sooner or later all things must pass - but we rememeber the good times and people we love always stay with us in our hearts. Well know that I am am crying I am gonna just finish up say that as always my prayers and thoughts are with you and yours Just rmemeber ICQ is only a click away Kitty XXX __________________ #RememberYourRoots #AaronMForGFYHOF

02-01-2002, 04:24 PM	#10
Cheshire Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Rosen-Villin Posts: 5,738	This sounds like a beautiful opportunity to celibrate your grandmother. We will all mourn her passing, but Aaron you and your entire family get the chance to hold her and tell her how much she is loved, and she can feel that ~ I think we'd all like to feel that from those around us at least once in our lives. __________________ just a little bit naughty

02-01-2002, 05:25 PM	#14
Pornwolf Drunk and Unruly Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Hollywood Posts: 22,712	Hey, guys, she's not gone yet! She is happy to be home and around the people she loves. Aaron, be strong and just know that now and in pasing nothing is more comforting to her than to be around you and the family right now. It might be a little sad, but theres a lot of love going around in that house right now. Hold on to that feeling. Trust me on this, the same exact thing happened to me. __________________ I've trusted my sites to them for over a decade... Webair, bitches.

02-01-2002, 03:55 PM	#2
rollin2 Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 542	My condolences to you and your family...

02-01-2002, 03:56 PM	#3
spacedog Yes that IS me. Bitch. Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 14,149	Spend as much quality time with her as you can. My condolences. I know it hurts to lose loved ones, hang in there buddy.

02-01-2002, 03:57 PM	#4
The Truth Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: U.S.of A. Posts: 920	Sorry to hear it bro..... At least you know she's happier this way. God bless.

02-01-2002, 04:17 PM	#7
AaronM Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: ┌∩┐ ◣_◢ ┌∩┐ Posts: 46,909	Thank you.

02-01-2002, 04:17 PM	#8
Jamdin Registered User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Kansas Posts: 3,560	My heart & condolences go out to you & your family. I lost my grandmother several years ago after she had a series of stroke. She wouldn't stay in a hospital but at least we all got to say goodbye since we all knew she wouldn't make it for very long.

02-01-2002, 04:19 PM	#9
Theo HAL 9000 Industry Role: Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 34,515	sad to learn it... i tried several times in the past to bring my mind in the position of people that know they're gonna die the next day or so.....probably someday this simulation will be my reality.

02-01-2002, 05:02 PM	#11
On-top Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: IN Posts: 2,283	Hey Aaron, hand in there and make sure she knows that you all care. Be thankful of all your experiences with her, and this final time you get to spend. Our thoughts are with you man. Losing somebody your close to always sucks.

02-01-2002, 05:05 PM	#12
RaGe Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Toronto Posts: 1,158	Sorry to hear that dude My grandpa died of cancer only about a month ago..

02-01-2002, 05:13 PM	#13
SNOW Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 3,963	Talked to Aaron last nite and seemed down,but we seemed to laugh a little..Be strong bud...I quote what chesire said.. Health is number 1 ..Without health Money is worthless.. Regards Snow

02-01-2002, 05:27 PM	#15
jimmyf OU812 Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: California Posts: 12,651	AaronM, I truly feel for you. I was a little kid when my Grandma passed away. Am 57 now and still remember her just like it was only yesterday and will until my last breath. She was one great lady. She was and still is the love of my life. Good luck and keep your head high. Sorry I really can't go on any more. __________________ Epic CashEpic Cash works for me Solar Cash Paysite Plugin Gallery of the day freesites,POTD,Gallery generator with free hosting

02-01-2002, 05:40 PM	#16
tekart Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: somwhere in time... Posts: 368	AaronM, My sincere wishes go out to you and your immediate family. May the love you have for your grandmother provide you with the strength and courage to see yourself through this! I know it?s tough to go through this situation with anyone that you are close to. My wife and I had a very similar experience back in the early part of 2000 when my wife?s grandmother passed suddenly! Spend time with those that you love and let them know how much you love them as one day, you?ll wake up and realize you?re too late! Tek Art

02-01-2002, 06:20 PM	#17
Machine Confirmed User Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Michigan Posts: 660	My condolences man hang in there __________________ Webmastercommerce.com AAC - Adult Amateur Content (coming soon)

02-01-2002, 08:11 PM	#18
Tam Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: In your face Posts: 8,488	Aaron, my thuoghts and prayers are with you and yours right now. My grandfather went thru very similar issues. He was dying of cancer and all he wanted to do was go home, so they let him do it. He passed and he did it on his terms so he was at peace with it. The best you can hope for is she hasn't alot of pain to endure now. I know how you feel and you know if you need anything, anything at all, I am here for ya babe........ it's tough I know......... just know you have friends all over the world that are thinking of you at this time in your life. Tam

02-02-2002, 08:44 AM	#19
B.Diker Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 1,286	Aaron, my prayers are with you . 2 months ago my grandmother died last 20-21 day she was medically dead never spoken , eaten . . but i know that with your grandma. we're always here dude . . .

02-02-2002, 09:43 AM	#21
theWatsonian Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: PB4L HQ Posts: 1,737	Sorry to hear this, AaronM.

02-02-2002, 10:29 AM	#22
HeadPimp Bad Mo-Fo Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 2,772	Sorry to hear this Aaron! My grandmother passed away a few days after the Christmas before last (I think this was a decision on her part) after nearly recovering from a stroke (then the doctors did her in...) I know how emotionally taxing it can be to be on such uncertain ground. Hang in there man and enjoy your time with her while you can!