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Fred Quimby · 06-12-2005, 08:00 PM

BURNING UP 9/11 MONEY

June 12, 2005 -- Sept. 11 widow Kathy Trant has turned her Long Island home into a $2 million showcase, traveled from the Vatican to Las Vegas, [censored] $500,000 on shoes, and bought breast jobs for pals and even strangers.
In the 31/2 years since her husband, Dan, died in the World Trade Center attacks, she has burned through nearly all the more than $5 million she received in compensation and donations. She says she treated the millions "like Monopoly money."

The mother of three has become a self-described "shopoholic" - and her compulsive buying has left her with intense guilt, shame and sadness.

After the plane hit the north tower on Sept. 11, Dan called Kathy from the 104th floor, where the 40-year-old worked as a bond trader for Cantor Fitzgerald. He said the smoke was unbearable. "I love you, and I love the kids," were his last words. His remains were never found.

Following the funeral, Kathy's weight zigzagged from 90 pounds to 170 pounds and down again. She numbed herself with booze and antidepressants.

Then she began spending.

With a seemingly bottomless bank account, she threw herself into expanding and renovating her 1,800-square-foot Northport, L.I., home, a project she and Dan, her "soul mate" of 15 years, had discussed doing together.

She didn't stop until she nearly tripled the square footage, and spared no expense in decorating and furnishing her dream house.

"That's what kept me alive," she said. "Staying up late ordering chandeliers from catalogs."

She spent $350,000 installing a full basketball court, also equipped for volleyball, tennis and Rollerblading, and a heated pool and hot tub in the back yard.

The kitchen has white marble countertops lined with gleaming appliances she rarely uses. The floors are rich Brazilian walnut.

A red-white-and-blue den, which includes a shrine of Dan's mementos, features four Peter Max paintings of the Statue of Liberty, which ran her $15,000. There are seven flat-screen TVs around the house. In the finished basement stands a $20,000 cherry-wood pool table.

The walls are decorated with sports memorabilia, including a Boston Celtics ball autographed by players on the team that once drafted her husband, who played professionally in Ireland.

In her master bedroom, she added a glass-enclosed fireplace that also serves the bathroom, with its claw-foot tub.

With the house makeover done, she really started to splurge.

Opening her walk-in closet, Trant said, "This is my addiction."

A floor-to-ceiling shoe rack is filled with $400 to $1,200 pairs: Prada, Marc Jacobs, Manolo Blahnik, Jimmy Choo, Emilio Pucci, Vera Wang. Handbags include Fendi and Judith Leiber, designs priced at $5,000 each. The gowns have labels like Versace, Christian Dior and Roberto Cavalli - each costing her thousands.

"It's disgusting. I'm ashamed of it," she said, adding she hopes that telling her story will help others with the same problem.

"This is my misery. This does not make me happy. When I come home with it, I have guilt, horrible guilt. You know how many starving people I could feed with all these shoes?"

She wears 10 percent of the clothes, she said, and gives armloads away to friends. But she keeps buying more.

"I feel if I look pretty, I'm going to find someone like Danny," she said. "I want him to come home."

Trant's pet Yorkie, Mollie, cost $3,500; her daughter has three others. She paid $60,000 cash for a Chevy Tahoe SUV, and also bought a BMW.

She has traveled to Italy, Jamaica, Asia and Europe; taken friends and relatives on four Caribbean cruises for $50,000; taken 20 to the Bahamas for $30,000; 10 to Las Vegas for $15,000; and six to the Super Bowl for $70,000. The last couple of summers, she's paid $13,000 to rent a 10-room North Carolina beach house for a week for her kids and all their pals.

Trant has showered those around her with obsessive generosity.

She gave one friend $20,000 to pay her bills. She gave her former housecleaner $15,000 to buy a home in El Salvador. She's sent $1,000 checks to a friendly clerk at Bergdorf Goodman, and treated salesgirls at Saks to shoes.

After getting a facial in Las Vegas, she gave the beautician, a single mom, $4,000 for breast implants. She gave a friend $7,000 for a [censored] job because, Trant said, the woman "hated her breasts and didn't want to spend her son's college tuition money."

She buys wrinkle-reducing Botox injections for girlfriends. A plastic surgeon gives her a discount - $600 for three at a time. Trant tattooed an American flag and "9/11" on her back and got a permanent black stripe of "eyeliner" tattooed around her eyes, which never runs when she cries.

She gave one friend a $3,000 watch. "She didn't take it, and I just threw it at her," Trant said.

"My friends say, 'Stop, Kathy, you've got to stop.'"

Soon after her husband was killed, Trant said, some $3 million in donations flowed in from his admirers and fund-raisers. Dan was beloved as an athlete and coach of youth soccer and basketball teams.

Then, in 2003, the federal Victim Compensation Fund awarded the Trants more than $4.2 million.

The sum was based, in part, on Dan's future earning potential. Before 9/11, the family had lived modestly, but his career at Cantor was skyrocketing. He earned about $130,000 his last year, plus tens of thousands in bonuses.

Kathy, who got half the government payout as her share, gave $100,000 to her mother-in-law, who wasn't legally entitled to any money. The other half was split among her three kids - each gets $800,000 when they reach age 18.

The money has opened some family rifts. While never close to her father, who left Kathy's mother when she was 6, their relationship worsened. She believes he overcharged her for doing some brickwork and installing sprinklers in her yard after she lent him $100,000 to buy a house in the Hamptons.

Also, Kathy lavishes possessions on her sons, Daniel, 16, and Alex, 14, and hosts parties for their friends, trying to compensate for the fact that they've lost their father.

But the money seems to have the same effect on them. Her daughter Jessica was 19 when Dan died and immediately got her $800,000 share. She's already spent most of it on clothes, vacations and friends, she said.

Spending problems are "not uncommon" among 9/11 families who received big cash payments, said psychologist Paula Madrid, director of Columbia University's disaster-related Resiliency Program, which serves many 9/11 families and victims.

"I've seen it very often," Madrid said. "Some spend the money right away on luxuries like cars and furs. They also give it away, out of survivor's guilt and a desire to help others in need."

The compulsion to shop, she believes, stems from anxiety. Spending is a pleasurable "distraction" from unresolved grief, she said.

"People are trying to fill a void which will never be filled by money," Madrid said.

A stay-at-home mom for the past 20 years, Trant is down to her last $500,000 and worried about her future. She has partnered with her best friend, a laser technician, to open a hair-removal and cosmetic tattoo shop in East Norwich, The Dutchess of Dermis.

She agrees she needs counseling.

"I really don't have the will to live," she said.

sniperwolf · 06-12-2005, 08:03 PM

interesting~ help is what she really needs..

oh and I love shopping...damn...

Joe Citizen · 06-12-2005, 08:03 PM

...and meanwhile thousands in the third world die every day from malnutrition.

Stupid whining bitch should be dragged out into the streeet and shot.

Pathetic.

Barefootsies · 06-12-2005, 08:03 PM

I can relate to the situation, and in general the feeling is it's "blood money" and you do not want it, much less put a serious value on it.

Her story sounds about right, and yes. The end result's counseling.

tony286 · 06-12-2005, 08:04 PM

thats so sad

European Lee · 06-12-2005, 08:07 PM

Crazy bitch.

I cant imagine what she must be going through though after losing her partner, maybe she should check in to shopaholics anonymous, such a waste of $$$ but at the same time, her house sounds like it rocks

Regards,

Lee

cyber_ninja · 06-12-2005, 08:10 PM

very sad

xxxdesign-net · 06-12-2005, 08:30 PM

$4.2 millions ? Of tax payer's money? Does the familly of any American dying in an accident or being murder will receive nearly 30 times of guy's yearly salary..!? Or is it just for the 9/11 episode..?

Sylver7 · 06-12-2005, 08:45 PM

Here's Szücs playing the smallest violin for you sweetheart. Im all broken up over you and your daughter blowing through 6 million and then complaining about it. Lots of people are murdered every day in this country and the only thing their families get are the bills.

Matt_WildCash · 06-12-2005, 08:53 PM

I remember a few months after 9/11, some of the windows were up in arms about the govenment ONLY giving them 2 million or so. "Is that what MURDER is worth these days" was one of their lines.

Spankys Teens · 06-12-2005, 09:14 PM

This whole stroy is real sad...after loosing her hubbie on 9/11 and not finding his remains must make any normal person freek out.
I can very much understand her need to spend money on things making her and the kidds be happier. But to spend all of it seems to be a waste of her husbands memory.
I think the US gouvernment should have done something to help these people like giving them each month some of the money and not just dumping 5 mil on their account.
Maybe the US gov did do something, i don't know....but all in all I am most happy to see that the families actually got money from the donators etc...

I'll never forget the day, i still remember what i was doing at that very moment when the first plane hit the tower.

Spunky · 06-12-2005, 09:18 PM

Money changes people and their priorities..her poor kids hopefully have a college fund to look forward to

stev0 · 06-12-2005, 10:41 PM

sounds like it fucked her up pretty bad...

MaxxxBeaver · 06-12-2005, 11:08 PM

Even though I despise wasting money on items that aren't needed but are purchased on an impulse, I feel for this woman....She has a sickness caused by being Noveau Rich...

She needs counselling and a swift kick in the ass...

KRL · 06-12-2005, 11:09 PM

Yep, people get fucked in the head when shit like this happens.

Biggy2 · 06-12-2005, 11:09 PM

I know someone who is directly related to her..

He actually told me the story a few weeks ago, in his words "she owned 6 ipod minis, because she liked the colors, and most of them weren't even taken out of the box" - the same goes for prada bags, shoes, the whole works.

he said its very sad, she cant exercise any self control. The one thing I don't understand is why make a serious news piece out of it and put your family thru all that more (i believe she has a few children - all in HS or college), and not just seek real help...

SweetArmo · 06-12-2005, 11:32 PM

that's so very sad

BlackCrayon · 06-12-2005, 11:49 PM

a 38 old man was shot dead in toronto trying to stop a fight between a friend and some strangers, what does he get? nothing. i don't personally think its fair, people are taken without warning from their loved ones every day and because they get a body to bury its not as tragic? don't get me wrong i feel for everyone and their family who needlessly was murdered on 9/11 but their is a story for every lost life and the majority never get heard let alone compensated.

NTSS · 06-13-2005, 12:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sniperwolf

interesting~ help is what she really needs..

oh and I love shopping...damn...

Yeah I agree....very sad

BukkakeBrown · 06-13-2005, 12:17 AM

everyone wants to be rich... but is forgettin that rich ppl are fucked up

ADL Colin · 06-13-2005, 12:23 AM

I read the article before the title. I thought it was about the average pornographer's first year of making good money. Now I just want my money back.

Fred Quimby · 06-13-2005, 03:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Biggy2

I know someone who is directly related to her..

He actually told me the story a few weeks ago, in his words "she owned 6 ipod minis, because she liked the colors, and most of them weren't even taken out of the box" - the same goes for prada bags, shoes, the whole works.

he said its very sad, she cant exercise any self control. The one thing I don't understand is why make a serious news piece out of it and put your family thru all that more (i believe she has a few children - all in HS or college), and not just seek real help...

Thats the NYPOST for ya,,must have been a slow news day.

06-12-2005, 08:00 PM	#1
Fred Quimby Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Long Island, NY Posts: 5,430	OMG,,,,Read this about 9/11 widow BURNING UP 9/11 MONEY June 12, 2005 -- Sept. 11 widow Kathy Trant has turned her Long Island home into a $2 million showcase, traveled from the Vatican to Las Vegas, [censored] $500,000 on shoes, and bought breast jobs for pals and even strangers. In the 31/2 years since her husband, Dan, died in the World Trade Center attacks, she has burned through nearly all the more than $5 million she received in compensation and donations. She says she treated the millions "like Monopoly money." The mother of three has become a self-described "shopoholic" - and her compulsive buying has left her with intense guilt, shame and sadness. After the plane hit the north tower on Sept. 11, Dan called Kathy from the 104th floor, where the 40-year-old worked as a bond trader for Cantor Fitzgerald. He said the smoke was unbearable. "I love you, and I love the kids," were his last words. His remains were never found. Following the funeral, Kathy's weight zigzagged from 90 pounds to 170 pounds and down again. She numbed herself with booze and antidepressants. Then she began spending. With a seemingly bottomless bank account, she threw herself into expanding and renovating her 1,800-square-foot Northport, L.I., home, a project she and Dan, her "soul mate" of 15 years, had discussed doing together. She didn't stop until she nearly tripled the square footage, and spared no expense in decorating and furnishing her dream house. "That's what kept me alive," she said. "Staying up late ordering chandeliers from catalogs." She spent $350,000 installing a full basketball court, also equipped for volleyball, tennis and Rollerblading, and a heated pool and hot tub in the back yard. The kitchen has white marble countertops lined with gleaming appliances she rarely uses. The floors are rich Brazilian walnut. A red-white-and-blue den, which includes a shrine of Dan's mementos, features four Peter Max paintings of the Statue of Liberty, which ran her $15,000. There are seven flat-screen TVs around the house. In the finished basement stands a $20,000 cherry-wood pool table. The walls are decorated with sports memorabilia, including a Boston Celtics ball autographed by players on the team that once drafted her husband, who played professionally in Ireland. In her master bedroom, she added a glass-enclosed fireplace that also serves the bathroom, with its claw-foot tub. With the house makeover done, she really started to splurge. Opening her walk-in closet, Trant said, "This is my addiction." A floor-to-ceiling shoe rack is filled with $400 to $1,200 pairs: Prada, Marc Jacobs, Manolo Blahnik, Jimmy Choo, Emilio Pucci, Vera Wang. Handbags include Fendi and Judith Leiber, designs priced at $5,000 each. The gowns have labels like Versace, Christian Dior and Roberto Cavalli - each costing her thousands. "It's disgusting. I'm ashamed of it," she said, adding she hopes that telling her story will help others with the same problem. "This is my misery. This does not make me happy. When I come home with it, I have guilt, horrible guilt. You know how many starving people I could feed with all these shoes?" She wears 10 percent of the clothes, she said, and gives armloads away to friends. But she keeps buying more. "I feel if I look pretty, I'm going to find someone like Danny," she said. "I want him to come home." Trant's pet Yorkie, Mollie, cost $3,500; her daughter has three others. She paid $60,000 cash for a Chevy Tahoe SUV, and also bought a BMW. She has traveled to Italy, Jamaica, Asia and Europe; taken friends and relatives on four Caribbean cruises for $50,000; taken 20 to the Bahamas for $30,000; 10 to Las Vegas for $15,000; and six to the Super Bowl for $70,000. The last couple of summers, she's paid $13,000 to rent a 10-room North Carolina beach house for a week for her kids and all their pals. Trant has showered those around her with obsessive generosity. She gave one friend $20,000 to pay her bills. She gave her former housecleaner $15,000 to buy a home in El Salvador. She's sent $1,000 checks to a friendly clerk at Bergdorf Goodman, and treated salesgirls at Saks to shoes. After getting a facial in Las Vegas, she gave the beautician, a single mom, $4,000 for breast implants. She gave a friend $7,000 for a [censored] job because, Trant said, the woman "hated her breasts and didn't want to spend her son's college tuition money." She buys wrinkle-reducing Botox injections for girlfriends. A plastic surgeon gives her a discount - $600 for three at a time. Trant tattooed an American flag and "9/11" on her back and got a permanent black stripe of "eyeliner" tattooed around her eyes, which never runs when she cries. She gave one friend a $3,000 watch. "She didn't take it, and I just threw it at her," Trant said. "My friends say, 'Stop, Kathy, you've got to stop.'" Soon after her husband was killed, Trant said, some $3 million in donations flowed in from his admirers and fund-raisers. Dan was beloved as an athlete and coach of youth soccer and basketball teams. Then, in 2003, the federal Victim Compensation Fund awarded the Trants more than $4.2 million. The sum was based, in part, on Dan's future earning potential. Before 9/11, the family had lived modestly, but his career at Cantor was skyrocketing. He earned about $130,000 his last year, plus tens of thousands in bonuses. Kathy, who got half the government payout as her share, gave $100,000 to her mother-in-law, who wasn't legally entitled to any money. The other half was split among her three kids - each gets $800,000 when they reach age 18. The money has opened some family rifts. While never close to her father, who left Kathy's mother when she was 6, their relationship worsened. She believes he overcharged her for doing some brickwork and installing sprinklers in her yard after she lent him $100,000 to buy a house in the Hamptons. Also, Kathy lavishes possessions on her sons, Daniel, 16, and Alex, 14, and hosts parties for their friends, trying to compensate for the fact that they've lost their father. But the money seems to have the same effect on them. Her daughter Jessica was 19 when Dan died and immediately got her $800,000 share. She's already spent most of it on clothes, vacations and friends, she said. Spending problems are "not uncommon" among 9/11 families who received big cash payments, said psychologist Paula Madrid, director of Columbia University's disaster-related Resiliency Program, which serves many 9/11 families and victims. "I've seen it very often," Madrid said. "Some spend the money right away on luxuries like cars and furs. They also give it away, out of survivor's guilt and a desire to help others in need." The compulsion to shop, she believes, stems from anxiety. Spending is a pleasurable "distraction" from unresolved grief, she said. "People are trying to fill a void which will never be filled by money," Madrid said. A stay-at-home mom for the past 20 years, Trant is down to her last $500,000 and worried about her future. She has partnered with her best friend, a laser technician, to open a hair-removal and cosmetic tattoo shop in East Norwich, The Dutchess of Dermis. She agrees she needs counseling. "I really don't have the will to live," she said. __________________

06-12-2005, 08:03 PM	#2
sniperwolf Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 17,743	interesting~ help is what she really needs.. oh and I love shopping...damn... __________________ ~Accepting design works~

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Barefootsies Choice is an Illusion Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Land of Obama Posts: 42,635	I can relate to the situation, and in general the feeling is it's "blood money" and you do not want it, much less put a serious value on it. Her story sounds about right, and yes. The end result's counseling. __________________ Should You Email Your Members? Link1 \| Link2 \| Link3 Enough Said. "Would you rather live like a king for a year or like a prince forever?"

06-12-2005, 08:07 PM	#6
European Lee Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Daytona Beach Posts: 7,133	Crazy bitch. I cant imagine what she must be going through though after losing her partner, maybe she should check in to shopaholics anonymous, such a waste of $$$ but at the same time, her house sounds like it rocks Regards, Lee __________________ YOUR TRAFFIC IS SAFE WITH US - CONDOM CASH PUTTING THE GAY ADULT INDUSTRY ON YOUR PC!! AFFORDABLE 2257 COMPLIANT GAY + BI CONTENT

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Spankys Teens Confirmed User Join Date: May 2005 Location: The Porn Land Posts: 1,414	This whole stroy is real sad...after loosing her hubbie on 9/11 and not finding his remains must make any normal person freek out. I can very much understand her need to spend money on things making her and the kidds be happier. But to spend all of it seems to be a waste of her husbands memory. I think the US gouvernment should have done something to help these people like giving them each month some of the money and not just dumping 5 mil on their account. Maybe the US gov did do something, i don't know....but all in all I am most happy to see that the families actually got money from the donators etc... I'll never forget the day, i still remember what i was doing at that very moment when the first plane hit the tower. __________________ Banners - Design - TGP & more Trade: Teenies In Action icq: 256664696

06-12-2005, 08:03 PM	#3
Joe Citizen Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 4,552	...and meanwhile thousands in the third world die every day from malnutrition. Stupid whining bitch should be dragged out into the streeet and shot. Pathetic.

06-12-2005, 08:04 PM	#5
tony286 lurker Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: atlanta Posts: 57,021	thats so sad

06-12-2005, 08:10 PM	#7
cyber_ninja Twerk That Ass Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Lincoln, California Posts: 2,197	very sad

06-12-2005, 08:30 PM	#8
xxxdesign-net My hips don't lie Industry Role: Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 10,129	$4.2 millions ? Of tax payer's money? Does the familly of any American dying in an accident or being murder will receive nearly 30 times of guy's yearly salary..!? Or is it just for the 9/11 episode..?

06-12-2005, 08:45 PM	#9
Sylver7 Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: [206] Posts: 489	Here's Szücs playing the smallest violin for you sweetheart. Im all broken up over you and your daughter blowing through 6 million and then complaining about it. Lots of people are murdered every day in this country and the only thing their families get are the bills.

06-12-2005, 08:53 PM	#10
Matt_WildCash Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,699	I remember a few months after 9/11, some of the windows were up in arms about the govenment ONLY giving them 2 million or so. "Is that what MURDER is worth these days" was one of their lines.

06-12-2005, 09:18 PM	#12
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06-12-2005, 10:41 PM	#13
stev0 Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Calgary, Alberta Posts: 6,801	sounds like it fucked her up pretty bad...

06-12-2005, 11:08 PM	#14
MaxxxBeaver Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Canada Posts: 117	Even though I despise wasting money on items that aren't needed but are purchased on an impulse, I feel for this woman....She has a sickness caused by being Noveau Rich... She needs counselling and a swift kick in the ass... __________________ SIG TOO BIG! Maximum 120x60 button and no more than 3 text lines of DEFAULT SIZE and COLOR. Unless your sig is for a GFY top banner sponsor, then you may use a 624x80 instead of a 120x60.

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Biggy2 Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2002 Posts: 1,821	I know someone who is directly related to her.. He actually told me the story a few weeks ago, in his words "she owned 6 ipod minis, because she liked the colors, and most of them weren't even taken out of the box" - the same goes for prada bags, shoes, the whole works. he said its very sad, she cant exercise any self control. The one thing I don't understand is why make a serious news piece out of it and put your family thru all that more (i believe she has a few children - all in HS or college), and not just seek real help...

06-12-2005, 11:32 PM	#17
SweetArmo Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 112	that's so very sad

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BlackCrayon Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Ottawa Posts: 19,631	a 38 old man was shot dead in toronto trying to stop a fight between a friend and some strangers, what does he get? nothing. i don't personally think its fair, people are taken without warning from their loved ones every day and because they get a body to bury its not as tragic? don't get me wrong i feel for everyone and their family who needlessly was murdered on 9/11 but their is a story for every lost life and the majority never get heard let alone compensated. __________________ you don't know you're wearing a leash if you sit by the peg all day..

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