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50 cheaters!
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51 and she forgets your name
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52 and she wakes us whispering mine!
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I'm with the people wondering why you don't get invited, or invite yourself, along for a visit.
Try it and see what the reaction is. Then you'll know. Good luck. :thumbsup |
Best bet is to hire a Private I and fnd out what they are doing
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Nothing is goin gto kill your relationship faster tehn her hanging with some guy having fun and she knows you are home posting here. |
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ahhh, girls.. had something similar and sure enough after we break up, she dates the guy instantly after.. Then you wonder if they cheated blah blah blah..
Keep this in mind.. Girls are like monkeys, they dont let go of one branch until they have there hands on the next.. She's begining to grab her next branch. |
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Don't feel bad. We all go through it at that young age...believing in crazy shit that we shouldn't be. It's part of life, part of personal growth and something we all experience one time or another. As far as your girl: sounds to me like she's bored and craving some attention....but, not the kind of attention that you're thinking of. She's craving the kind of attention only a "new" person can give her. That feeling you get when discovering someone new, or someone coming back into her life. Just like how most relationships are great for the first few months cause it's new and then slowly sink into a dismal routine or breakup. To put it simply bro, she's tired of repetition. And her being tired of repetition, being 18, and hanging out with this guy is surely just the first step of what's to come. It could be a slow process, or a fast one. Know this though; she will deny it (they ALL deny it) and be completely offended if you asked her about him...until you find out later (sometimes years later as it's been mentioned by a few in this thread) that something did in fact happen, which it will. And as far as her guy friend, that's simple. Either he's gay, or he's trying to get down her pants. |
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Couples get into little ruts of (less friendship & spending lots of time together) but when you start to branch back out to more friends you should do it as a couple. How would she feel if you started to see another girl. And you saw this 'friend' twice a week. Would she accept that. I think not! Good luck with your girl, hope it works out |
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I totally agree with this post. I would take that advice if I were you.... It is the ONLY thing that you can do to fix this situation. PLEASE believe me on that. And by the way, speaking as a 42 year old guy that has been through TONS of this stuff... you may eventually learn the hard way that "she would never cheat on me", is a really dumb statement. STAY STRONG AND GET YOUR OWN LIFE....THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO KEEP A GIRL INTERESTED IN THIS TYPE OF SITUATION. Sitting around with no life is NOT attractive to women, they want a challenge, they want someone that is strong and secure, and they want someone that has a life of their own. Get active, and get a life. Get to it. :2 cents: |
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you are getting owned buddy...sorry :( dump that cun.t |
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Perfect post! Thats wraps it all up. You hit the nail.... :thumbsup |
She's cheating. No question. I think your days are numbered. Go out and find yourself someone new so you have a backdoor as well.
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Women like it when you have other things to do besides being with them.... I had an 18 year old girlfriend that I knew since she was 16 and after living with me only three weeks, she was ALREADY tired of watching me sitting in front of the tv juggling my balls all day....It actually turned her on more when I got off my ass and at least went out to jog. So listen to him. Get your own life and once she sees that you don't NEED her anymore, she'll get more interested. But as long as she knows that you'll be at home with your thumb up her ass waiting for her to get home, she'll keep doing what she's doing...If she knew that when she got home that you MIGHT NOT be there, that's when the fun begins. |
You know... being in this business fucks with your mind in the most bizarre ways... like cheating for example, when we think of cheating.. we dont just think kissing, hugging, maybe a hand job or two... we tend to go straight to the gutter with tripple anal fisting, gangbangs and baseball bats (or maybe its just me)
Dude, you know your girl better than anyone here, and you said in your post that you know she will never cheat on you. If she really does love you there should be no reason why you shouldn't be invited along with them.. show that other tosspot "man" whos the REAL man.. he's in YOUR territory now bro... |
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If it was 50 years ago, no problem. But nowadays people give up way too easy. |
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It does happen and is all the more sweeter when it does :upsidedow |
why dont you go out for a change and meet new friends. :thumbsup
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But it ain't happening with our generation. Sure it happens, but it's very rare. |
From a girls point of view I am going to agree with what someone already said. She is needing attention, bottom line. You are not giving it to her, in the same way you used to anyway, and now she is going to get it somewhere else. I am not saying she is cheating, I don't think she is personally. I just think is probably doing some heay flirting and getting the attention she is craving.
I would suggest you get up and DO SOMETHING about it!!!! Don't be sitting around like a home body, girls want excitement! She is not even 21 yet and has not done the whole bar scene thing. Eventually she will just find you too boring and move on. I think you can pull it together though, but you may have to really re-think some things. The one thing that girls love is a confident and secure man. The whole jealousy thing just does not work. If you want to drive her away then just start questioning her every move, that will do it. Just start paying to attention to her, what she is wearing, how pretty she looks today. Take her OUT!!!! You flirt with her, do you flirt with her anymore? |
Its clear ,she is cheating on you now. Time to get a new girlfriend.
But dont stress, at 21, you enter in a total new meat market for girls ;) You get second hand stuff, but they are setuped already. |
I'm a woman (obviously) and I can tell you right now where that situation is going. I know for a fact that unless a guy is gay, they aren't just friends with a woman without wanting to be with them sexually and/or date them.
She is bored and curious. She wants attention. I understand her not relating to other women... I'm pretty much the same way. Her intentions might be completely innocent and she might want just a friend to hang out with and talk, but let me tell you what that friendship will be like. This guy will prey on her vulnerabilities. He will plant seeds of doubt in your relationship with her. She will tell him about little things that bother her about you and the problems you 2 have. You might think you have a perfect relationship, but I'm sure there's things that bother her and she will confide in this guy. He will of course be on her side and make you seem completely wrong about everything. He will pretend to be the caring "friend" and listen to her etc.... he will give her the attention she craves from someone else and they will spend more and more time together. You can cheat on a person emotionally as well as physically. What she is doing is borderline cheating. At least to me it is. How would she feel if you went out with a female friend a few times a week? What does it say about your relationship if both of you are going out with members of the opposite sex all the time? This is the beginning of the end my friend... I hate to say it. You're in denial right now. Even if this "friendship" she has with this guy ends, there will just be another "friend" in his place somewhere down the line. You can defend her and what she will do/say... but if you don't see the signs now, they will hit you a lot more when you realize what is happening. Good luck. |
There is no such thing as male friends.
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There's a pretty big chance of her cheating on you, and it's almost certain she's "cheating on you emotionally".
What that means? If she isn't fucking him yet, she's starting to have feelings for the other guy, and is building up to either cheat on you or break up with you and start a relationship with him. Unless the other guy fucks up, you're pretty much screwed. And even if he does screw up, you're still probably pretty much screwed. |
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react: i'd ask her to stop seeing him or atleast invite you when they get together ! if she doesn't..time to move on....tell yourself this it's her loss not yours. :2 cents: |
She's cheating on you.... Believe me.... The same thing happened to me 2 months ago....
I'm still hurt.... :( |
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You are so right, it's scary. This is one of the few times I can say that a blanket statement is true. |
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It's done, move on. She's 18 dude. There is almost no chance you will stay together without her wanting to try something else. |
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Yeah there is. My close friend, Julie, and I are friends and don't fuck around. I dated her for 3 years already. Also, she is friends with this black cop I know and they haven't fucked or anything. Females can have male friends. :) |
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It's not her he should worry about, it's that other guy he should be worried about. A smile leads to a touch, a touch leads to a quick kiss nearly touching the lips when saying goodbye, a quick kiss leads to a small soft kiss on the lips when they're both having wine, a small soft kiss leads to a frenchy and so on and so on. We've all been there before and we all know how easy temptation is, especially for men. :winkwink: |
go kick his ass... :error
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if you cant trust her around another guy, you shouldnt be with her (and vice versa).
you say you "know" shes not cheating on you, but you're worried that she *is* cheaing on you... ..you're 21 yrs old, go out every weekend & get fucked up at clubs, have some 1 night stands, live life! And if shes 18 yrs old, you will NOT be the only person she sleeps with, guarenteed! |
Loss of interest in you "routine" usually signals that she cheated on you. Sorry dude...its only a matter of weeks before its officially over. Your better off anyways...your too young.
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As a female who has had strictly platonic male friendships in the past (and still do) I have one piece of advice for you. Find yourself one specific female friend (preferably an old friend) and start hanging out with her a couple of times a week. If your girlfriend gets upset about the idea of you hanging out with this girl, most likely it's because she's questioning her own motives. If she sees no problem with you hanging out with a member of the opposite sex on a regular basis, most likely it's because her intentions with this guyfriend of hers are strictly based on friendship, and you have nothing to worry about.
Oh, and I'd also have to agree that the fact that she has not invited you to hang out with her and her guyfriend is a little suspicious. My boyfriend/husband was/is ALWAYS invited to come along whenever I would go see my guyfriends. Sometimes he would decline, but the invitation was always open. |
You can't make sense out of 18yr old's... move on. It's over, sorry man... I've also been there.
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So I guess you are 100% correct :winkwink: |
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Start dating a stripper, her tune will change.
But you are too young to understand such things....I know I was at 21 haha |
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what he said^^^^ sit her down and tell her how you are feeling. If she's as stand up as u sy she is then she'll agree with you and understand. If she gets offended then you have a problem. I was the same way growing up as a kid. It is harder to relate to women when you're surrounded by men all the time but it's not impossible. Don't you have mutual friends or couples that you can hang out with that way you get to spend time together but have a change in the environment? :upsidedow good luck with you relationship. |
Tell her to defend herself on GFY. We'll get to the bottom of it or at least let her know she's fucking up.
What it all boils down to is that she is obviously causing you stress. Whether or not she's actually cheated on you yet she shouldn't be doing things that get you wound up like that. Let her know. |
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he really is her only friend outside of me because she was homeschooled and always moved places -- and the "relationship" they had was very brief when they were 13 (she broke up w/ him because he wanted to have sex w/ her lol) and they were able to remain good friends even after that. so i'm not worried in the slightest, she doesn't see herself hangin out more than once, at the most twice a week when she gets bored during the summer and im working. i see it like this, we've had a really great relationship with no problems for 3 years, i have no reason to get worried over something like this now that we've talked about it. i WOULD be worried if it seemed like she was drifting away from me, but she isn't at all - we're stronger than ever. |
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