if you do bust her cheating, go OJ on her ass

Never trust a woman...dump her right away...dirty whores

This is very accurate.

In my experience the best thing to do is have an open/swinger relationship. No one is "tied down" and there is no reason to be secretive. You share each others adventures...s ex is sex but love will always trump that so why not share some sexcapades together?

What you dont know cant hurt you. Man be confident that she aint fucking aroud if you never find out she is. who cares. If your getting all twisted up because she is going out with her friends get a new girlfriend

Yes, but those type of relationships ONLY work with 2 people that are open, honest, and communicate well. anyone who is the least bit insecure or lacks trust and the relationship is no better than his current situation. Everytime your girl or guy walks out the door you'll be wondering who or what they are fucking, they do it in front of you, what would stop them from doing it behind your back... see where I'm coming from. I offered an open/swing/swap situation to the guy I was just dating, BIG mistake, it wasn't like I wanted to cheat on him, I just wanted to add some girls to the situation. COMPLETELY, ruined the relationship, from that point on he was convinced I wanted to cheat and sleep with other people. Sometimes when you date someone who's insecure & lacks trust, even just discussing a subject can add just enough doudt to ruin any future. The only solution is a Poly Marriage ;) I'm kidding... I could never live in a compound, but I wouldn't mind visiting and checking it out ;) Might make for a nice cam site. lol

ain't no motherfucker fuckin my bitch

True enough indeed. I was open about my beliefs and willingness to share from the get go which eventually led me to a person of like mind so it's worked out better. I'm not saying jealousy issues don't come up but we don't stew on them and then see them manifest as seemingly unrelated arguments. If one of us feels jealousy we spit it out and why and move past it. After enough times of sharing and things coming up that attack your ego, it starts to die out. Your mate continues to love you even after she (or in your case he right?) took on another partner for sex and you stop worrying that anyone is going to offer something you don't. Like I said... love is love and sex is sex. They're great together but don't always have to go together.

Sorry for not giving you guys an update. Right after I posted this she came over wanting me to go and I eventually did. I didnt want to make her feel bad etc but she said I didnt and that she really wanted to to go. The party was ok but she got really fuckin drunk and sick and all night I had to take care of her and next day she didnt remmeber a whole lot and that shit worries me

oh and I do have some trust issues due to my past etc which I should never bring into this relationship. We fell in love really fast and never planned it. She says she will only party once a week on the weekends pretty much compared to her partying every day at her last school.

Im just torn between feeling like an obessesive jealous boyfriend and a big loser for allowing her to go to these frat parties alone with her new friends who she doesnt even know that much when only 2 things can happen, she cheats on me or doesnt.....

Trust her and let her drink. Give her condoms just in case.

I was thinkin of finding some1 who goes to the school and getting him to hit on her while shes drunk to see what she would do but I dunno that may backfire

I wouldnt do that, that will make a bigger mess, especially if she finds out what you put your friend up to...sounds like she may have her priorites mixed up right now, but if you are gonna be in the relationship you have to trust her and if you dont, get out. :2 cents:

or next time she says she is going to frat party, tell her you are going to a tity bar, see how that goes over... lol

I have cause Im turning 21 tommorow and she said he will never ever want to me go because a strip club and a frat party is a huge difference, how the fuck is that??