Its her life, she can do whatever the fuck she wants.

:party-smi

That's fine, no one is saying you should run out and jump in the sack with someone else to get over it...I think what most of us mean is that what works for you may not work for me, and what works for me may not work for her; and is it our place to judge her actions?
If it is anyone's "place" other than her own, to judge, I would say it would be the man in question, and considering their lifestyle, if there is an afterlife, which I believe the is, then I doubt he has the lest bit of a problem with her continuing to live as she sees fit.

Maybe you should go out a little bit more :ticking

no, this has turned into a mr. thumbs thread now.

Were all gonna discuss your ignorance, lack of respect for people and your board skills.

talking about her life on the board is ...

When you leave somebody you really loved, and fuck somebody the next day, is it wrong ?

Whenever there is a donation thing going on these type of things come up during or after the fact. That is why I stopped participating in things such as this when I was doing radio. Too much drama involved.

Depends on the person's own morals and values. Which none of us should really judge.

You are a true idiot.. now your statements arent even related but just plain
stupid and weak.

Its not about me thats very obvious.. even to most of the people that disagree with my questioning.

Jason,

you gotta admit though in the old days - we all gave alot to the kids and charities.

Remember with Dokk and everyone, raising over 250k in 1 night :)

"Webmasters with heart and class"

Bingo. :weihnacht

That was the good ol days Todd. We all knew each other and the adult web was much smaller.

Yanno what I mean?

No it's about you Boy, not showing and learning respect the first time I commented on it.

I am an idiot and stupid and weak, hahahaha - them's tough words there boy.

I think in the over 10 yrs I have been working online in our industry that is the first time someone has called me that. Alot of other names come to mind, but not stupid, weak or an idiot.

The stupid, weak one is the person who started this thread :)

Touche

Ok, you are right!!

Hey bro, I know exactly what you mean. It was a bit smaller, closer tight group of people.

Things have changed though, you know? We have to move with the times.

There still are tons of good, gracious people out there but more cactus to deal with..

Happy Holidays

i think if a person doesnt want their life to be public discussion then dont report it on a board. very simple.

ive been playing with chopsticks in my mouth for the last two and a half hours

There must be two mrthumbs then?

If you choose to take a long break between sexual relationships, that's fine, if that's what does it for you. She's alone in London, her closest relationship is with a boyfriend she had while her husband was alive & with his consent. Do you expect her to not see him? Do you expect her to wait, say...3 months? Will that bring him back? She is not disrespecting his memory or mourning him less by having sex with her boyfriend.

Mr. Thumbs,

I am not out to win or whatever on this thread.

My point only ----- Who are we to judge.. I learned this lesson many many years ago..

Exactly.

Here's to 2005! May it be better for all of us!

exactly what I meant

What a lot of very dumb people. Read and understand Tala's original post. Sarah never made any secret of the fact that they had a fairly open relationship and that would in all probability mean FRIENDS that they fuck outside of the marriage. That being the case what better way to help in a time of huge loss than a good shag from someone you in all probability know and care about (even if not as much as your spouse). Given their lifestyle even were it a stranger it'd be perfectly understandable.

Good grief. How people in porn can be so judgemental on a regular basis amazes me. How people in business can be so dumb amazes me even more.

And as it keeps being stated - it has fuck all to do with donations. If you feel 'cheated' read the above and try to understand it. It really is very, very simple.

Exactly.

If you paid a little attention you would have noticed im not JUDGING
otherwise i would have started this thread and first post with different content.

Im just questioning the behaviour because it surprised me.. and i made a post about it instantly.. not really thinking about stuff just my first reaction on a message board and closed the first post with the line "or am i missing something".

The way you replied wasnt constructive so how do you expect me to respond? You should have learned how to deal with idiots like me during those 10 years!?

Anyway.. its not personal and im not judging im ASKING a question colored a bit by my personal feelings and opinion. Thats all.

my god are some of you so bored with your own lives that you have to question the intentions of someone else's life which, i might add, is none of your business?

just when i thought nothing else could amaze me. :disgust

While I am supporting Sarah on this issue, I have to say that was a pretty good post on your position.

I for one...judge everybody based upon their morals...values...and strength of character. I suspect that you do to. If you do not...you must have a strange group of friends...ranging from pedophiles...to rapists...thieves etc.

I think, perhaps, you may want to go back and read your original post. I'm sure you didn't mean it the way it came out..

Comfort sex has been around for a long time...and it's a viable way to deal with death, as sex is usually associated with life...

So much to learn from this.

Such as:

Bdjuf is apparently cheating on Persius.

Yup with life but also with love. And thats where the conflict in this situation is for me. Just as much as you statement makes sense to you my silly 'love' statement makes sense to me.

Just trying to understand so i appreciate replies like yours as what this thread
was intended for :)

for those of you that have been watching sarah post over the last year you would have known she had an open relationship with her husband

I didnt follow the thread were money was being raised. But why did she accept the money if she had a man on the side. I guess a lot of people werent aware of that when money was being raised for her. mrthumbs probably didnt either. And then when she posts that she's with someone else then that does sound a bit weird since she just accepted lots of money, money from probably a lot of people who thought she was all on her own now without any money.

With or without a man on her side.. she needed the money.. no doubt about that. Thats not the issue here.

What business is it of you people? Although I think Sarah was always pretty open that she and her husband "shared", and that she had a male lover whom her husband was confortable with and whom she had had a long liason with. Just because her husband died doesn't make her less human, and sometimes that closeness with someone can be more comfort for loss than all the crying in the world. Get off your fucking high horses.

How do you figure ? If she has some guy paying the bills , why does she need gfy money ?? Dudes prob buying champagne with the extra cash. :repuke jk but seriously , a little shady..

I can see you are conflicted....and I think you are confusing love, the emotion, with sex..the physical act.

If my husband died, I doubt if I would ever love another man again.
That's on an emotional level...

But, sex with a friend or a buddy....that's the bandaid.

Not a cure, mind you....but a temporary relief from the madness of grief....

Was she broke? Is that why she needed money? If she had a boyfriend/boyfriends...even if she personally was broke...would they not take care of her money needs...after all she is fucking him/them?

To repeat..."I for one...judge everybody based upon their morals...values...and strength of character. I suspect that you do to. If you do not...you must have a strange group of friends...ranging from pedophiles...to rapists...thieves etc."

That is kinda wrong.

It does seem that she wasnt that 'all alone far away from home'
as stated but that doesnt make anyone else responsible for her financial situation.

Even if that was the case it was our choice to donate and it wasnt because
she was needy and begging for cash. Once again: not the reason for this thread.

Just morals and values.

This is the first time i ever agree with a post of yours.

I mean how do you know she isn't insuranced for that. Also, it's just weird she posts a statement like that thinking everyone who gave her money knew about 'the other guy'. Like the bear said, kinda shady.

Shitty deal :Hollering
I wont say anymore on this.
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I didnt know that, that makes it a bit different if he was already her lover. :smilie_we

With statements like this, I can now see why Sarah was so reluctant about accepting a collective gift...which is what it was...a gift.

Once the gift leaves my bank or hands, it's out of my judgmental jurisdiction, as I am the one who chose to give, in the first place...Sarah never asked for anything.

She never claimed to need gfy money.....that was something we who sent money decided to do...so, it's irrelevant whether or not anyone is paying her bills...

Yeah if all that is true it's all good i guess. :P.

Jesus Christ.

The replies in this thread so far are simple astounding.

Fact of the matter is, nobody here knows Sarah other than the persona we see of her on the boards, nobody knows anything about her past, present and future relations she may have or had with anyone.

Its her life, her body let her run it how she see's fit without everyone butting in to it.

I personally dont care one way or another who she fucks, the reason she fucks them or how often she fucks them, its non of my business, just as it isnt any of yours.

Regards,

Lee

Damn if I died and could see the bitch fucking someone else right away I'd fuckin kill her.. What a slut.

You would have sex with another man a week later?

Money was donated out of the good of everyones heart. I can understand why many feel as if she did everyone including her husband an injustice by having sex with another man so shortly after. It is her life, but it was brought on the boards and it will stay on the boards ... that's just the way it works.

Everyone lives different lives, but I share that feeling with you. :xmas-smil

Just as it isn't any of your business who posts on a message board Christmas Day.