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graphicsbytia · 11-25-2004, 07:59 PM

8 years ago, my husband and I got divorced. I moved out of state and let my children decide where they wanted to stay. They wanted to stay where they were, with their dad.

I backed them up all the way, and didn't let it show how devistated I was, and I did understand about not leaving friends, school and grandparents. What was best for them was my main concern.

2 years later my ex husband had what I can only explain as a nervous breakdown. He called me one day and told me he was giving the children up and going on the road full time. I arranged to have them picked up and they flew here to be with me.

4 years passed with no word from him. How can you deal with a father abandoning your children? It tore me apart because I knew what kind of damage it may do to them. We didn't expect to see him ever again

Until....... today

He showed up on our doorstep, crying and apologizing. He was miserable over what he'd done and came to make it right. It was me he was angry with.. and couldn't get over it for the last 8 years.. that's a long time to stay angry.

I've prayed for this day for 4 years, my children needed to know their father loved them.

I am so happy, and so thankful I had to share this with you all.. I love my kids so much.. they're everything to me.

Adult Site Traffic · 11-25-2004, 08:02 PM

That's a really cool story :D

So happy you had a nice day !

Spunky · 11-25-2004, 08:02 PM

My dad left when I was 3 and never came back...

graphicsbytia · 11-25-2004, 08:03 PM

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Originally posted by spunky
My dad left when I was 3 and never came back...

I'm so sorry hon

I'll tell you what I told my kids.. you can still love him even though he's not there.. and forgive him.. for your own sake

ytcracker · 11-25-2004, 08:07 PM

i would never abandon my daughter

i hope my wife and i can work shit out

baddog · 11-25-2004, 08:08 PM

divorce and child custody is never a pretty thing . . . glad it worked out for you . . . although I am not sure how I would react if one of my ex's showed up on my doorstep.

graphicsbytia · 11-25-2004, 08:08 PM

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Originally posted by ytcracker
i would never abandon my daughter

i hope my wife and i can work shit out

even if you can't work things out with your wife.. your daughter will be your daughter forever no matter what

Spunky · 11-25-2004, 08:09 PM

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Originally posted by graphicsbytia

I'm so sorry hon

I'll tell you what I told my kids.. you can still love him even though he's not there.. and forgive him.. for your own sake

No way...I wouldn't even shake his hand if he ever came up to me in the street..That bastard left my mom with 3 kids..she had a real hard time back then and had to give up my twin brother up for adoption because she couldn't handle it..I have a lot of respect for single moms.

graphicsbytia · 11-25-2004, 08:10 PM

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Originally posted by baddog
divorce and child custody is never a pretty thing . . . glad it worked out for you . . . although I am not sure how I would react if one of my ex's showed up on my doorstep.

baddog.. I hugged him and thanked him and welcomed him with open arms.. it doesn't matter how I felt about him as a husband.. but he's my kids dad.. that means something to me

Warden · 11-25-2004, 08:10 PM

That was so nice to hear. I can be a prick to so many people and a hard ass boss, but I always have a soft spot in my heart for kids. Best of luck putting it all back together.

graphicsbytia · 11-25-2004, 08:11 PM

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Originally posted by spunky
No way...I wouldn't even shake his hand if he ever came up to me in the street..That bastard left my mom with 3 kids..she had a real hard time back then and had to give up my twin brother up for adoption because she couldn't handle it..I have a lot of respect for single moms.

people are not basically evil spunky.. only troubled.. you forgive him.. it'll be the best thing you ever did for yourself .. trust me

baddog · 11-25-2004, 08:13 PM

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Originally posted by graphicsbytia
it doesn't matter how I felt about him as a husband.. but he's my kids dad.. that means something to me

that must be a chick thing, there is no way I would welcome her with open arms . . . it is tough enough just being civil for the sake of the kids

RRRED · 11-25-2004, 08:13 PM

That sounds like a great story and all, but I'd have told him to get fucked. Showing up at your doorstep with ZERO contact with your kids for 4 years isn't a beautiful thing. It was emotionally reckless. He should have contacted you first and discussed it.

How does he know your kids haven't been totally fucked up ever since or whatever? And is he going to consistantly be in their lives now?

Just my

but all in all, your kids will love him no matter what and congrats to them for having two parents that care.

Trixxxia · 11-25-2004, 08:14 PM

Wow - I had tears of sadness yesterday & today tears of joy!
God Bless and Happy Thanksgiving!

graphicsbytia · 11-25-2004, 08:16 PM

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Originally posted by RRRED
That sounds like a great story and all, but I'd have told him to get fucked. Showing up at your doorstep with ZERO contact with your kids for 4 years isn't a beautiful thing. It was emotionally reckless. He should have contacted you first and discussed it.

How does he know your kids haven't been totally fucked up ever since or whatever? And is he going to consistantly be in their lives now?

Just my but all in all, your kids will love him no matter what and congrats to them for having two parents that care.

I was thinking of the kids RRRED not myself.. I know I did the right thing

graphicsbytia · 11-25-2004, 08:17 PM

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Originally posted by graphicsbytia
I was thinking of the kids RRRED not myself.. I know I did the right thing

and he said he'd never leave them again like that.. I have to believe it

Warden · 11-25-2004, 08:18 PM

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Originally posted by TopBucksTrixxxia
Wow - I had tears of sadness yesterday & today tears of joy!
God Bless and Happy Thanksgiving!

Yeah, this has been a pretty emotional place the last couple days.

Spunky · 11-25-2004, 08:20 PM

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Originally posted by graphicsbytia
people are not basically evil spunky.. only troubled.. you forgive him.. it'll be the best thing you ever did for yourself .. trust me

Sure I understand that..maybe it fucked me up not having a dad..I just know I would never abandon my kids because of what my asshole of a dad did...Kids need a father figure and it does fuck them up one way or another.. I'm 43 and that was 40 years ago..you would think I would forget about it.

Screaming · 11-25-2004, 08:29 PM

thats great to hear hun and i hope he walks a straight path from now on

pornguy · 11-25-2004, 08:31 PM

Well I hope that things go the right way, and the wrong feelings dont get in the way. The kids need both parents.

graphicsbytia · 11-25-2004, 08:37 PM

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Originally posted by spunky
Sure I understand that..maybe it fucked me up not having a dad..I just know I would never abandon my kids because of what my asshole of a dad did...Kids need a father figure and it does fuck them up one way or another.. I'm 43 and that was 40 years ago..you would think I would forget about it.

we'll have to chat sometime spunky.. my icq's in my sig

fris · 11-25-2004, 08:42 PM

cool my name is simon and i like to do drawings

graphicsbytia · 11-25-2004, 08:46 PM

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Originally posted by fris
cool my name is simon and i like to do drawings

post one

sickkittens · 11-25-2004, 09:06 PM

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Originally posted by fris
cool my name is simon and i like to do drawings

I just saw your bum in the tub.

BTW, graphics...I'm glad you guys are happy.

sickkittens · 11-25-2004, 09:08 PM

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Originally posted by graphicsbytia
post one

I'll post one for him. I hope he doesn't mind.

It's kind of hard to see.

Lev · 11-25-2004, 09:10 PM

so are you back with your ex-husband now?

Wiggles · 11-25-2004, 09:17 PM

good that there father is back, pretty fucked up what he did though.

graphicsbytia · 11-25-2004, 09:25 PM

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Originally posted by Lev
so are you back with your ex-husband now?

Oh no.. not at all.. although he's made me so happy I find myself thinking of it.. but I don't think so.. I'm going to have to keep my head during all this

if I can : /

graphicsbytia · 11-25-2004, 09:26 PM

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Originally posted by sickkittens
I'll post one for him. I hope he doesn't mind.

It's kind of hard to see.

I like that.. is there more?

fatal attraction · 11-25-2004, 09:32 PM

Nice story to here on Thanksgivng.

11-25-2004, 07:59 PM	#1
graphicsbytia Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tennessee Posts: 2,618	I got the best present for Thanksgiving in the world! 8 years ago, my husband and I got divorced. I moved out of state and let my children decide where they wanted to stay. They wanted to stay where they were, with their dad. I backed them up all the way, and didn't let it show how devistated I was, and I did understand about not leaving friends, school and grandparents. What was best for them was my main concern. 2 years later my ex husband had what I can only explain as a nervous breakdown. He called me one day and told me he was giving the children up and going on the road full time. I arranged to have them picked up and they flew here to be with me. 4 years passed with no word from him. How can you deal with a father abandoning your children? It tore me apart because I knew what kind of damage it may do to them. We didn't expect to see him ever again Until....... today He showed up on our doorstep, crying and apologizing. He was miserable over what he'd done and came to make it right. It was me he was angry with.. and couldn't get over it for the last 8 years.. that's a long time to stay angry. I've prayed for this day for 4 years, my children needed to know their father loved them. I am so happy, and so thankful I had to share this with you all.. I love my kids so much.. they're everything to me.

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baddog So Fucking Banned Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: the beach, SoCal Posts: 107,089	divorce and child custody is never a pretty thing . . . glad it worked out for you . . . although I am not sure how I would react if one of my ex's showed up on my doorstep.

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RRRED Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: WA Posts: 6,754	That sounds like a great story and all, but I'd have told him to get fucked. Showing up at your doorstep with ZERO contact with your kids for 4 years isn't a beautiful thing. It was emotionally reckless. He should have contacted you first and discussed it. How does he know your kids haven't been totally fucked up ever since or whatever? And is he going to consistantly be in their lives now? Just my but all in all, your kids will love him no matter what and congrats to them for having two parents that care.

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Lev Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 3,545	so are you back with your ex-husband now?

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