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Drake · 10-24-2004, 09:39 PM

or is the concept outdated?

Drake · 10-24-2004, 10:40 PM

ok, is common law living the best precursor to marriage. Some people say that living with somebody before you get married will give you an idea of what it will be like. Others say it's only superficial and things change drastically, so it's best to live apart before you're married.

Tam · 10-24-2004, 10:40 PM

well I didn't used to, but after almost 21 years, the fact he still makes me laugh til my sides hurt, still holds my hand, and still challenges me like no other can...... yeah Ikind of believe in it.

Drake · 10-24-2004, 10:43 PM

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Originally posted by Tam
well I didn't used to, but after almost 21 years, the fact he still makes me laugh til my sides hurt, still holds my hand, and still challenges me like no other can...... yeah Ikind of believe in it.

But is it necessary to officially be married rather than simply being in the exact same committed relationship without the marriage paper and going to the alter?

Tam · 10-24-2004, 10:44 PM

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Originally posted by Mike33
ok, is common law living the best precursor to marriage. Some people say that living with somebody before you get married will give you an idea of what it will be like. Others say it's only superficial and things change drastically, so it's best to live apart before you're married.

BY ALL MEANS live with them first. My oldest daught is about to get married and I told her to live with him first. I lived with my husband for over a year before we got married and I told her to do the same thing. You just NEVER can know someone until you live with them and why put yourself thru it. They have been living together for nearly 2 years and her fiance came to my husband on July 25th (My husband's birthday) and that kid asked for my daughter's hand in marriage... we nearly died. But I did and will continue to say even to my own kids, live with them FIRST!!

Spunky · 10-24-2004, 10:45 PM

One word that my pappy always said that sticks to mind.....Half!

BRISK · 10-24-2004, 10:45 PM

I don't think there is anything wrong with marriage, but I do think there is something wrong with the way many people seem to go about entering into it.

Personally, I wouldn't marry someone unless we had been together for at least 2 years, preferrably more.

Tam · 10-24-2004, 10:46 PM

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Originally posted by Mike33
But is it necessary to officially be married rather than simply being in the exact same committed relationship without the marriage paper and going to the alter?

No I don't think it is necessary, in fact to us, it was more of a commitment to each other rather than getting those papers..... but we already had all of that, we just made it stronger. I think that is something that is different for every couple, and each should make their own decisions on what they can live the best with. If you are strong enough without it and there isn't a need, then don't....... if you love each other so much that you want to make that move and be that commited, then that's your decision. What works for one isn't always going to work for another.

SpikeHeel · 10-24-2004, 10:46 PM

"Yes I Do."

Marcus Aurelius · 10-24-2004, 10:47 PM

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Originally posted by Mike33
But is it necessary to officially be married rather than simply being in the exact same committed relationship without the marriage paper and going to the alter?

I think the paperwork is just a technicality. If you love someone in your heart enough to spend your life with them then no piece of paper is gonna change that.

Rochard · 10-24-2004, 10:47 PM

My wife and I have been together for 11 years, and married for 5 of them.

Marriage is something that works best when your ready for it. When you are ready it's perfect ( this assumes you marry the right person).

I got married when I was very young. I don't regret it; It was a blast. But we were all over the place. We had no idea what the concept of marriage meant.

Now..... that I'm older I understand a lot more. It's owning a house together, not freaking out when she's on the title of the sports car you paid cash for, and having children.

Drake · 10-24-2004, 10:47 PM

Cool Tam

Drake · 10-24-2004, 10:48 PM

3 of us posted at the same time

KRL · 10-24-2004, 10:49 PM

The concept needs some serious tweaking.

SpikeHeel · 10-24-2004, 11:00 PM

no. i don't believe it. why attach to someone that in the end you will loose her/him.

reynold · 10-25-2004, 03:03 AM

the expense alone will set you back big time. whoever invented marriage??

palladin · 10-25-2004, 03:57 AM

I've been married and divorced twice. Once after 5 years (I married very young) and the second time after 20 years and two beautiful daughters. I believe in marriage, but not in some of the people who do it. Here's a tip how to save yourself a lot of time and grief: find a woman you dont like and give her all your money and your house.

Babagirls · 10-25-2004, 04:02 AM

ive been with my man for over 5 yrs
now. im really glad we didnt get married
yet. we actually seperated for a while
and worked out our problems. since
then, its been great

after living with him for years now, im
ready for marriage and kids now.

Jer · 10-25-2004, 04:14 AM

Yes, I do.

Tat2Jr · 10-25-2004, 04:15 AM

I only believe in Gay Marriage!

Manowar · 10-25-2004, 04:41 AM

yeah gay marriage is the way forward

radical · 10-25-2004, 05:20 AM

Some people think it's just a bit of paper nowadays, but I still believe in it

nikcho · 10-25-2004, 05:58 AM

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Originally posted by Manowar
yeah gay marriage is the way forward

Waiting for it to finally happen everywhere. Not that I have a partner one (lol - have two) but it will be much easier in terms of life and death arrangements.

Although my final theory is abolishing marriage altogether and relying on mutual commitment, understanding and shared love (dream on....)

Hehe.

Herb Kornfield · 10-25-2004, 06:30 AM

There is no greater adventure you can undertake than marriage. Being married the last 5 years has been the most rewarding experience for me in my travel thru life.

We did live together for a year before we got married. I DEFINATELY recommend living with someone first to get used to all the little quirks that they have and you'll notice as time goes.

DM4U · 10-25-2004, 06:37 AM

I do believe in marriage, but i also think you should live together before getting married, just to make sure the other person wont kill you to death with all the fights and little things that annoye me at least.

digifan · 10-25-2004, 06:44 AM

I don't believe in it anymore... but I am after my first divorce.

LadyMischief · 10-25-2004, 06:46 AM

I hope so, I'm married with three kids. And this IS my second marriage.. I got married at 18 when I was young and dumb. I wasn't ever going to get married again, but when that right person comes along, you just KNOW that's the one you want to be with. Marrying my husband is one of the truly wonderful things I've done in my life, and even when things get tough, I never regret it. It scared the shit out of me at first that I was getting married again, but life is too short to second-guess yourself every minute. It's about the journey, not the destination, and if bad things don't happen, how can you know and truly appreciate the good?

I feel sorry for people who feel that marriage is bad or evil. It's really what you make it.

wyldblyss · 10-25-2004, 07:01 AM

Hell ya, I believe in it. My husband is there for me whenever I need him. Works his ass off for the family and puts up with my bullshit. In return I do the very same thing. He is my best friend and one of the few people in this world I trust completly. I adore the guy, faults and all and he adores me. Life is good.

digifan · 10-25-2004, 07:08 AM

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Originally posted by LadyMischief
I hope so, I'm married with three kids. And this IS my second marriage.. I got married at 18 when I was young and dumb. I wasn't ever going to get married again, but when that right person comes along, you just KNOW that's the one you want to be with. Marrying my husband is one of the truly wonderful things I've done in my life, and even when things get tough, I never regret it. It scared the shit out of me at first that I was getting married again, but life is too short to second-guess yourself every minute. It's about the journey, not the destination, and if bad things don't happen, how can you know and truly appreciate the good?

I feel sorry for people who feel that marriage is bad or evil. It's really what you make it.

I'm in the "never going to get married again" phase.. thanks for encouraement

johnny1 · 10-25-2004, 08:32 AM

i think marriage is great.

loverboy · 10-25-2004, 08:35 AM

i have yet to experience the actual feeling of tying the not in the future. but i do believe that you have a soulmate in life that you have to spend with

Platinum Red · 10-25-2004, 09:14 AM

I think that I am a bit of a sit on the fence kind of person when it comes to marrage.

I personal dont belive in it! My mother was married twice and both are borken up. Every other married couple that I know is eaither going through a devorice or is seperated, or is in a unhappy marrage. I belive that marrige is a step that is not worth taking, I find that once that pice of paper is signed one of the partners belives that is now an ownership for the other.

Plus people change with time! I mean I am not the same person that I was 2 years ago and who is to say that my parter is going to like the person that I have merged into?

ok I'll stop now

collegegirlvids · 10-25-2004, 09:21 AM

I'm a hopeless romantic at heart..
still waiting to get swept off of my feet.

axelcat · 10-25-2004, 09:22 AM

yes I do believe

Alex From San Diego · 10-25-2004, 09:28 AM

I waited until I was 40 y/o to get married. I just celebrated my first year anniversary. I never intended to get married. It just happened. They say you will know when you meet the right person and I got lucky and did.

To me and my wife it is more than just a piece of paper. We never lived together prior to getting married and it is working out great. There was an adjustment of course but if you are truly committed to each other, you can work through those adjustments.

I think what ever works for a committed couple should be good enough regardless if they live together before getting married or even if marriage isn't an option for them. The most important thing is that you are happy.

PrincessWannaLaya · 10-25-2004, 09:50 AM

i believe in marriage even tho i have already been divorced , but i have to say that i agree with the idea of living with the other person first, becuz that is how you find out there pet peeves and other things that may come out that you dont know about yet ...

Irrum · 10-25-2004, 11:04 AM

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Originally posted by BRISK
I don't think there is anything wrong with marriage, but I do think there is something wrong with the way many people seem to go about entering into it.

Personally, I wouldn't marry someone unless we had been together for at least 2 years, preferrably more.

I agree

2XY · 10-25-2004, 11:27 AM

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Originally posted by BRISK
I don't think there is anything wrong with marriage, but I do think there is something wrong with the way many people seem to go about entering into it.

Personally, I wouldn't marry someone unless we had been together for at least 2 years, preferrably more.

I would have to disagree. I know several couples who married within months of dating and they are still married (15 and 25+ years).

Taking the time to get to know someone is always recommended before making the big step...but there are literally millions of couples that have been together for 2+ years, get married and still end up getting a divorce.

Being married takes a lot of work and it's all worth it for the right person.

Raven · 10-25-2004, 11:35 AM

That 'little piece of paper' is a contract. It's both a written declaration of loving intent and a business relationship, plus a promise of lifetime commitment, all rolled into one piece of paper, sanctified by the state or the church or whatever religious beliefs people have and share. More importantly, it's sanctified and agreed upon by the two people entering into the agreement in the first place.

The intangible side of marriage includes defining what the parameters are and agreeing to abide by them......year after year, as people change and grow....as children either enter the dynamic mobile or leave the nest....it's the ability to accomodate and compromise.

Personally, I think marriage is always about adjusting....and talking to find a commonality of language both can relate to and understand.

Never assume and never presume. Oh yeah...and never say never...

I believe that marriage is not outdated; but, people's expectations are unrealistic. After the honeymoon, women do fart and men don't shave. Vomit and diarrhea are a reality, as are clothes piled near the laundry basket and someone is never doing their job the fantasy set of expectations........Don't dream marriage. Live it.

One tip that always works. Don't force one to use a certain brand of toothpaste just because you do.

Lucy · 10-25-2004, 11:37 AM

yes, I beleive in marrige...

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Rochard Jägermeister Test Pilot Industry Role: Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: NORCAL Posts: 74,082	My wife and I have been together for 11 years, and married for 5 of them. Marriage is something that works best when your ready for it. When you are ready it's perfect ( this assumes you marry the right person). I got married when I was very young. I don't regret it; It was a blast. But we were all over the place. We had no idea what the concept of marriage meant. Now..... that I'm older I understand a lot more. It's owning a house together, not freaking out when she's on the title of the sports car you paid cash for, and having children. __________________ “The choice is no longer between right or left. The choice is between normal and crazy.” - Sarah Huckabee Sanders YNOT MAIL \| THE BEST ADULT MAILING SOLUTION

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SpikeHeel Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Venus Posts: 1,531	no. i don't believe it. why attach to someone that in the end you will loose her/him. __________________ 100% exclusive fetish content - 60% recurring CCBill program No pop-ups – No traffic leaks – No cross sells – Hosted galleries – Promo content - Free Hosting - ICQ: 228585136

10-25-2004, 03:03 AM	#16
reynold Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Global Traveler Posts: 51,271	the expense alone will set you back big time. whoever invented marriage??

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palladin Registered User Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 97	I've been married and divorced twice. Once after 5 years (I married very young) and the second time after 20 years and two beautiful daughters. I believe in marriage, but not in some of the people who do it. Here's a tip how to save yourself a lot of time and grief: find a woman you dont like and give her all your money and your house. __________________ Get yer Tits out for the boys www.kuntzinternational.com

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Jer God is Brazilian Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Brazil Posts: 10,601	Yes, I do.

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Herb Kornfield Is on the 1 Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Philly Burbs Posts: 4,996	There is no greater adventure you can undertake than marriage. Being married the last 5 years has been the most rewarding experience for me in my travel thru life. We did live together for a year before we got married. I DEFINATELY recommend living with someone first to get used to all the little quirks that they have and you'll notice as time goes.

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LadyMischief Orgasms N Such! Industry Role: Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Oakville, Ontario Posts: 18,135	I hope so, I'm married with three kids. And this IS my second marriage.. I got married at 18 when I was young and dumb. I wasn't ever going to get married again, but when that right person comes along, you just KNOW that's the one you want to be with. Marrying my husband is one of the truly wonderful things I've done in my life, and even when things get tough, I never regret it. It scared the shit out of me at first that I was getting married again, but life is too short to second-guess yourself every minute. It's about the journey, not the destination, and if bad things don't happen, how can you know and truly appreciate the good? I feel sorry for people who feel that marriage is bad or evil. It's really what you make it. __________________ ICQ 3522039 Content Manager - orgasm.com [email protected]

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wyldblyss Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The Buck Starts Here Posts: 5,779	Hell ya, I believe in it. My husband is there for me whenever I need him. Works his ass off for the family and puts up with my bullshit. In return I do the very same thing. He is my best friend and one of the few people in this world I trust completly. I adore the guy, faults and all and he adores me. Life is good.

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Platinum Red Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: In heart of Toronto Posts: 517	I think that I am a bit of a sit on the fence kind of person when it comes to marrage. I personal dont belive in it! My mother was married twice and both are borken up. Every other married couple that I know is eaither going through a devorice or is seperated, or is in a unhappy marrage. I belive that marrige is a step that is not worth taking, I find that once that pice of paper is signed one of the partners belives that is now an ownership for the other. Plus people change with time! I mean I am not the same person that I was 2 years ago and who is to say that my parter is going to like the person that I have merged into? ok I'll stop now __________________ Platinum Red any questions - [email protected] ICQ # 167818595

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Alex From San Diego Confirmed User Join Date: May 2001 Location: San Diego Posts: 1,642	I waited until I was 40 y/o to get married. I just celebrated my first year anniversary. I never intended to get married. It just happened. They say you will know when you meet the right person and I got lucky and did. To me and my wife it is more than just a piece of paper. We never lived together prior to getting married and it is working out great. There was an adjustment of course but if you are truly committed to each other, you can work through those adjustments. I think what ever works for a committed couple should be good enough regardless if they live together before getting married or even if marriage isn't an option for them. The most important thing is that you are happy. __________________ We are what we repeatedly do.-Aristotle

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10-25-2004, 11:35 AM	#39
Raven Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 6,874	That 'little piece of paper' is a contract. It's both a written declaration of loving intent and a business relationship, plus a promise of lifetime commitment, all rolled into one piece of paper, sanctified by the state or the church or whatever religious beliefs people have and share. More importantly, it's sanctified and agreed upon by the two people entering into the agreement in the first place. The intangible side of marriage includes defining what the parameters are and agreeing to abide by them......year after year, as people change and grow....as children either enter the dynamic mobile or leave the nest....it's the ability to accomodate and compromise. Personally, I think marriage is always about adjusting....and talking to find a commonality of language both can relate to and understand. Never assume and never presume. Oh yeah...and never say never... I believe that marriage is not outdated; but, people's expectations are unrealistic. After the honeymoon, women do fart and men don't shave. Vomit and diarrhea are a reality, as are clothes piled near the laundry basket and someone is never doing their job the fantasy set of expectations........Don't dream marriage. Live it. One tip that always works. Don't force one to use a certain brand of toothpaste just because you do. __________________ Raven ~RETIRED~

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