neighbors?

AGREED!

Chase, you need to grow the fuck up and accept some responsibiity! Just because you chose not to practice safe sex, you're now responsible for 4 children...why did you wait so long to quit smoking pot!?!? :eek7

Grow the fuck up and raise your children in a responsible, loving home! Jesus, it's not that hard of a concept to grasp! I have no problem with single people with no children wasting their lives away smoking bud but once a child is introduced into the mix, your entire approach to life needs to change!

Sorry, I take this personal because I have known and still know people in very similar situations AND IT STILL PISSES ME THE FUCK OFF!!! A TOTAL LACK OF RESPONSIBILITY IN RAISING A CHILD IS AN ABOMINATION. PERIOD!!!

Depends who called child services. Kind of think there is more to the story than being told here. Most states would document the case and follow up then proceed with the courts to implement a rehabilitation plan to keep the family together.

A very good friend had child services visit their home a few years ago. Her daughter told the class that her stepfather drank and smoked pot outside. The teacher over reacted and thought the child was in harm. It turned out that step dad was rolling his tobacco and drinking a glass of wine.

It was an eye opener for my friend. They did get family counseling (on their own) to help the kids cope with the divorce and the remarriage.

Chase, no kid wants a drunk or a pothead as a parent. Sorry that the authorities had to make this decision for you or maybe they are just giving you and your husband a hard push in the right directions. Either way, good luck in quitting and being there for your children.
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I second that.

Just my personal opinion... when kids start to pop out, the partying needs to slow down. Little guys and girls take a lot of work and totally depend on their parents, mistakes happen when judgment is clouded by drugs and alcohol.

No drink or smoke is worth losing your kids over.

You should have known better, and I believe that you should have been bitch slapped for doing that shit with your own kids anywhere near.


However. There is no reason short of physical or mental abuse to take you kids away.


I just hope that you remember that they WILL take your kids from you and they will end up exactly as you described above if you get caught again.

Pothead parents suck. I believe pot should be as legal as alcohol, but once you have kids the time for substance abuse is over. When you have kids you must decide to do what's right for them, not just continue doing whatever the hell you feel like doing... When you have kids, the rules change, and you give up the right to be selfish or irresponsible. And if you were actually doing this around them , where they could be affected by inhaling your smoke, then yeah, you should have them taken away. Not just because of the pot, but because someone with judgment that poor can't be trusted to provide a proper upbringing.

i also agree with camchicks. how do you explain to your kids what pot is when they find your stash? oh, its great grandmoms secret pasta basil?

Although an occasional toke don't hurt nobody as long as it away from children.:2 cents:

You post personal stuff on GFY, expect to be flamed. 95% of the folks reading this board are a multi-millionaire, MENSA member, stunningly beautiful, with 2% body fat, who can kick your ass.

:glugglug More for me

If you keep it so hidden, in the safe, only after the kids are in bed etc, how did the neighbours even know to call the cops? I smell BS. :2 cents:

When you're under the influence, whether it's booze or drugs, you're not able to be the responsible guardian that your children deserve. What if one of your kids woke up with a fever? Fell off the top bunk and broke a leg? The house caught on fire? You can't tell me that you'd be able to properly deal.

It's too bad that it took the cops coming to your house for you to shut down the party, but I'm glad you're doing the right thing. Too many parents are too selfish to make the same decision.

Bah.

Your analogy is whacked. The position she is in is after the fact and is now cleaning up. Thats to be praised in my opinion, which is what I did.

Bashing someone after they've turned over the new leaf is useless and borderline cruel.

And my sarcasm about perfect judgemental people is born straight from let he who is without sin cast the first stone. Not exactly a new concept ;)

Thanks for sharing this with GFY! :thumbsup

It's like the People's Court and Cops all in one.

Technically he only mispelled one word.

I apologize for the late response...we have been busy with family issues.

Those of you that think I suck, well, I won't argue....it did suck. There is no BS....I'm not really sure who called and it doesn't really matter who did it. We never smoked in front of the kids, but my son did admit that he got up at night and spied on us through a crack when we were in here smoking, which is probably how the whole thing got out. Again, it doesn't really matter HOW they found out. The point is they did.

For the flamers...perhaps you should read my posts again. I AM taking responsibility for my actions..both good and bad, and I am taking this opportunity to fix what I broke....and I am grateful to have that opportunity.

The moving thing was a joke to lighten the tone. We are moving next April, but it looks like Savannah is the target, and it's just as illegal there.

I have been wanting things to change for a while, but just hadn't really started moving towards making them change......my husband has made an unbelievable amount of positive changes since we almost divorced a little over a year ago, and I guess I felt like if that was the only compromise I had to make, when he was doing everything else right....it seemed reasonable to me. At that point, it didn't affect our children. Now it does, so obviously changes must, and will be, made.

On a side note...one of these kids I had nothing to do with, as he's my step-son, and my son was a product of a non-consentual sex act. I hesitate to say rape because I don't want that to ever taint my son's opinion of his father, who died two years ago, but I did not consent to it whatsoever. And my two daughters were born after I was married. My husband and I wanted children together, as most couples in love do. I never so much as picked up a cigarette while pregnant or nursing my babies. I didn't even participate in the toast at my wedding because I was pregnant. So, the birth-control statement baffles me, but, whatever.

You're right, I should expect flaming, I suppose. But I felt that I was taking a negative thing and turning it into an opportunity for my family to be stronger and healthier, and if you, my peers and the closest thing I have to co-workers, can't support that, when you are the only adults I communicate with all day, well, then why even read or respond to my posts at all?

Those of you who aren't parents and are criticising me, I honestly hope that you find parenting as easy in practice as it is in theory. Mistakes WILL be made...it's unavoidable. Some are worse than other, and mine was one of the worse ones...BUT my children are thankfully safe, healthy, and still at home, and while some of that can be attributed to good luck and the willingness of the caseworker and deputy that were here to see that our kids really do mean the world to us, the rest is due to our parenting. We aren't shitty parents because of that one thing...we're good parents who made a shitty decision. If all our decisions, or even some of them, were along the same vein, then our kids would not be here still.

We don't have much, compared to some of you. But our kids aren't lacking the things they need, and some of what they want. They have a home big enough for us all, food to eat, clothes to wear, a warm bed, and more than enough toys for ten kids.....trust me, I know because I just cleaned their rooms. Yes, it's true that the cash being spent on weed could have gone to better things...but $40 a week isn't going to make or break us, thank God. Still, your point is taken, though it was before you made it, anyway.

In any case, I'm not a bad person, guys, and I think most of you know that, I just made a bad judgement. If you base your opinion on me on one mistake I made, well, that's your choice. There's nothing you guys can do or say to me that will drive the point home any more than it was the other day.

To those of you who simply offered support, it is much appreciated. That kind of rallying does mean a lot to me, because, as I said before, you guys are the closest thing I have to co-workers, and the only people I communicate with all day.

Oh Dio............For a second there I thought you were saying your leaving Chase :( Sorry to hear about what happened. Im pretty sure in Amsterdam marijuana is leagal and I agree with you when you say that people who smoke weed tend to be a lot more in control anger wise then people who are drunk :thumbsup Good luck Girl!

Thanks, babygirl! I'm not going anywhere...I fucked up, but I learned my lesson and thankfully, no one was hurt...my husband just has to go through drug treatment classes and we'll be under supervision by the state for six months or so......as long as we straighten out, and believe me, we are, lol......our family will be stronger in the long run. We took this as an opportunity to be an example to our kids of two things: 1-how to handle it when you screw up and get caught, and 2-how pot can cause major problems.
I asked which people would rather their parents be, drunks or potheads, and I think my point ws missed...I know it is best for neither....but my point was that it is amazing to me that the legal substance is more destructive socially. Of course, that's my opinion, but look at places like Amsterdam, where it is legal...they don't have a significant disadvantage socially due to that law....if they even have any disadvantage at all! But all that is moot, because we are now non-smokers in any case, lol.
Thanks again for the well wishes!