| Taboo |
09-06-2004 11:40 PM |
simple. you're not gay and you're not alone. just stop masturbating. not forever, not for a day, but for at least a week or a month if you can resist temptation. then ask your girlfriend for a blowjob. The anticipation alone will drive you insane. The second her mouth touches you, it'll all be worth it because you won't last a minute. once you've physically & mentally accomplished this, you should have no more problems after that. usually this problem is a combination of psychological pressure and the fact that you're masturbating so much that only you know how to please yourself. yes, I know you say you can still cum from fucking her, but that's still you "pleasing yourself". You need to "un-learn" your favorite self-pleasure techniques and let your girlfriend takeover. And if you think that you still won't be able to "finish" because you're craving to fuck her, then get the blowjob at a location where your only/easiest/best option is the blowjob... movie theater, while driving, nightclub, dressing room, etc. - risk factor will help out a lot. The problem could also be that you're afraid or worried about cumming in her mouth. Perhaps afraid she'll gag, be pissed off, hate your "flavor", etc. Talk to her and find out what she's willing to do: spit, facial, tit, swallow, etc. You might be surprised at the answer. get that mental roadblock out of the way asap. do a google search for food/herbs/pills/etc that will sweeten your semen in the meantime. and make sure to stay away from the foods you're advised to avoid.
The last thing you want to do is search for another girl, hoping girl#2 gives you a "better" bj, because you're mentally branding your girlfriend as incapable and you'll never be able to "finish" with your girlfriend... ever. Make sure to tell your gf that you figured out the problem and she'll be more than happy to play this game with you. don't forget to please her in the meantime while you're waiting for your turn. this wil only heighten your need to cum. Most of the girls I know would be insulted and/or disappointed if they couldn't make their men cum from a blowjob, in fact they may doubt themselves and need to find out if the problem is you or them. The last thing you want is your girlfriend thinking she can't please you, because sooner or later, she'll lose the desire to try, or "reach out" to other guys for "support". Then all you'll be stuck with is masturbation. I met one of my girl friends because she was looking for a guy she could satisfy. she said her (ex)boyfriend didn't like her enough to cum from a blowjob, she doubted herself and even thought she turned him gay. so she broke up with him. sooner or later, this could be what your girlfriend is thinking about you. So, save the masturbation for when you don't have a girlfriend. Why give yourself a handjob when you've got a girlfriend willing to give you a blowjob? If you're better than she is, that's a HUGE problem to overcome. You might be your own worst enemy.
Good luck.
(Use at your own risk. YMMV.)
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