move to Vegas.. duh

page two of the heart to heart chat with PD

I'd kick his ass to the curb. Family or not, if he's a lazy sack of shit that needs to be bribed to do things, he's not worth it. Family has to earn respect just like anyone else.

why dont you just have him buy your share out? if he cant afford it, give him a little dough and let him free. im sure someone already said that... oh well..

Trey,

There are some details that make the mess a bit hard to deal with.

Walking away) If there is a mortgage, you have first deed of trust responsibilities. You did say, he took 50K out.

He owns half) Kinda hard to enforce rent payments.

Kick his ass) Legal problems for openers.

So what do ya do. Really for you to decide, but sounds like some tuff love is in order. You could quick claim it to him and walk away. Hire an attorney to do that in this situation.
You could also file a suite in partition. That would let the court decide and would cost a bit and cause some family ill will.

From what little you?ve shared, I?d quick claim it to him and take the hit. Ask the lawyer about indemnification and other issues. That would be a hit emotionally and financially.

Don?t see him for a while and hope that he grows up a bit and you can have a family relationship sometime down the road.

Not an attorney or Dear Abbey. Good luck with it.

PL

If i was a heartless prick(which alot of you think i am because you really dont know me) I would.. but im not a heartless prick. despite how much he has used me and caused so many problems for me, I still cant do that to someone. I am a lover not a fighter believe it or not..

besides, he is on the note i cant kick him out anyways

damn that is some good advice.. can you hit me up? i have some questions?

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thank you, i mean that

Tough situation... Have you talked to him about this yet?

That would be my advice to you, if he doesn't want to talk about it. Let your lawyer talk to him....

He will probably listen then. :)

DH

seems rather ironic . . . hard to believe anyone with your genes would be like that

you can't just split, because as long as there is money owed on it, your credit is at risk . . .if it is foreclosed on, you will suffer for several years as a result

50 lousy relations

yea i have pulled him aside atleast 3 times now over the past 6 months.. and it doesnt help, its good for a few days then slowly it goes back to normal

yea i know, thats why im having such a hard time with it. I dont trust anyone that has the ability to fuck with my credit.. its a tuyff cookie to swallow

don't lend money to friends or family

cool, hey..can I borrow some money?:2 cents:

I wish there was an easy answer to that...but I do have a similar story to tell..
Last year, my husband and I were a few signatures away from being divorced. he was irresponsible, lazy, dishonest, and basically made my life hell. To make matters worse, I was pregnant with our second daughter, and working full time and taking care of the house, the bills, the kids, and everything else all alone while he was rolling and doing things like missing our first daughter's first birthday party. One day I just had enough, and I told him to have a good long visit with our daughter, because after that day, he wasn't welcome at our house..he would have to visit her at her daycare. (because he kept not showing up) I worked my preggo ass off, and spent my time with my kids, and improving our home. I basically shut him out, and after a month or two...things started changing. He would call me to have me let the daycare people know he'd be coming...and they'd tell me he actually showed up. He started buying diapers and asking if he could come to my OB appts with me. By the time the baby was born, he had moved back in. The baby just turned a year old, and we've been happier than ever before.
I know it's a different situation, but I just wanted to share some hope that he will grow up...sometimes people do change...they just have to hit rock bottom. Tough love works sometimes, when all else fails, what do you have to lose?

you are exactly right.. so damn true

You come stay with my crazy family for a few days and your brother probably won't seem so bad, lol...
A 10yo who thinks he's 18, a 9yo with bi-polar disorder, an almost 3yo who thinks she's the long lost Princess of Florida, lol, and a one year old with only one top tooth....a dog in heat, and two abandoned kittens we took in. Oh, and a fish.

holy shit lol

you got your hands full.. nice job on keeping your sanity...

:eyecrazy who said i was sane <insert evil cackle here> lol