chase |
07-27-2004 10:34 PM |
I wish there was an easy answer to that...but I do have a similar story to tell..
Last year, my husband and I were a few signatures away from being divorced. he was irresponsible, lazy, dishonest, and basically made my life hell. To make matters worse, I was pregnant with our second daughter, and working full time and taking care of the house, the bills, the kids, and everything else all alone while he was rolling and doing things like missing our first daughter's first birthday party. One day I just had enough, and I told him to have a good long visit with our daughter, because after that day, he wasn't welcome at our house..he would have to visit her at her daycare. (because he kept not showing up) I worked my preggo ass off, and spent my time with my kids, and improving our home. I basically shut him out, and after a month or two...things started changing. He would call me to have me let the daycare people know he'd be coming...and they'd tell me he actually showed up. He started buying diapers and asking if he could come to my OB appts with me. By the time the baby was born, he had moved back in. The baby just turned a year old, and we've been happier than ever before.
I know it's a different situation, but I just wanted to share some hope that he will grow up...sometimes people do change...they just have to hit rock bottom. Tough love works sometimes, when all else fails, what do you have to lose?
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