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What the Bible says
The Bible is absolutely clear about virginity. A person needs to maintain their virginity until they are married. There is no other choice given!

Why the tough standard in the Bible?
A spiritual union as well as a physical union occurs when two people have sex together. It is like a unique bonding between the two people that nothing else on earth can duplicate.

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. from the Bible in Mark 10:7 - Jesus speaking
In the ultimate plan of God (as revealed in the Bible) two virgins will marry and become solidly "bonded" to each other through their first sexual experience together. This bond is intended to continually be strengthened and last for the rest of the couple's lives. The long term relationship is clearly more than just satisfying each others physical, sexual, and emotional needs. An invisible and tangible bond is formed between the two people.

When you lose your virginity to someone other than your marriage partner, you create a bond with one or more other people, that robs you of the one close union which God had in mind for you to enjoy throughout your life with your marriage partner. You become "bonded" to several people (if you have multiple sex partners) all of which rob you of the bonding and closeness that you could have had with one partner.

Multiple bonds with several people does not compensate for the original plan of one close bond with one person for life. All of the relationships end up less than what was originally possible.

Illustration of the Bible principle
Most guys could drive a car from about 10 years old, so why aren't you allowed to drive on the road? Is it just a rule to stop you from enjoying the full potential of your life? Or is it a rule to protect you and other people on the road?

It is exactly the same with your sexuality. Physically you are able to have sex with another person from a quite young age. Emotionally and spiritually you aren't yet able to handle the consequences of such an act. Someone will get hurt and it will be you. Others will get hurt too.


God's rules are there to protect you and provide you with the maximum enjoyment of this gift He has given you.








Big Picture - Little Picture
For the short term gain of moments of sexual pleasure (little picture), the best possibility for a successful long term relationship is being sacrificed (big picture).







I've already lost my virginity
If you've already lost your virginity - there is hope! God is ready to forgive you provided you are willing to ask His forgiveness and repent (turn around and go God's way from now on). Begin a new start. You will never be a virgin again, but you can stop any further damage to the relationship with your future life long partner. God is a god who will restore when you turn to Him.








Other factors - Disease
The only 100% method of avoiding sexually transmitted diseases is abstinence! Condoms have a known failure rate for protection against virus transmission from person to person and so are not completely safe. Some sources claim that some viruses are actually smaller than the pore holes in the condom material. Sexually transmitted diseases are at epidemic proportions and are becoming more resistant to treatments. You are at more risk than ever before of catching a disease even with "safe sex".

In 1993, every day, 30,000 Americans became infected with a sexually transmitted disease. 200,000 die each year from a sexually transmitted disease in the USA - often the disease doesn't show up until years later. People can have a sexually transmitted disease and not know it! Some are incurable (Aids and Gonorrhea) (17)








What about oral sex?
To the letter of the law, having oral sex with another person doesn't cause you to lose your virginity since virginity technically deals with the issue of sexual intercourse (penetration) between a man and a woman. In the spirit of the law however, the definition of virginity can include "unused" and "unexplored" which rules out any oral sex as it relates to "exploring" another person's body.

Any sexual activity between two people rapidly forms those spiritual soul ties that work at making the two of you into one flesh, whether you want it or not. Technically, you might engage in oral sex and still be a virgin, but you will form those same bonds that form between people who actually have sex together. For this reason, I believe that oral sex is not a way around the Bible standard.








Character
To remain a virgin may attract some short term ridicule although things are beginning to change. A recent poll indicated over half the students at high schools are still virgins.

Saying 'yes' to premarital sex does nothing for one's character. It weakens ones resolve, unleashes adult passions in a child's body and destroys self esteem through guilt. Young people who say 'no' to premarital sex tend to feel good about themselves and are prone to become winners in life. (17)








Finally
The best lovemaking in the world is not limited to beautiful people or two with perfectly sculpted bodies. It is at its best when two healthy lovers, more interested in satisfying their partner's needs than their own, approach the marriage bed without guilt.

That is why virtue [virginity] is the best preparation for marriage... . God's plan was for one man and one woman to share the ecstasy of that experience only with each other. (8)

Nothing worthwhile in life ever comes without sacrifice. Virtue is no exception. At some time in every child's growing up years, they will be faced with the tremendous temptation to engage in premarital sex. The path of least resistance always seems appealing at such a time. For many young people, only their strong moral and religious values, their commitment to staying a virgin until their wedding night, or the fear of pregnancy or disease provides them with the courage to say 'no' when their body and mind (and people around them) are screaming 'yes'. (17)

In a recent survey, two-thirds of the people who had sex before marriage wish they had waited.

Every young man must make up his mind now, before the opportunity arises, on how he is going to handle the issue of sex before marriage.

MarcS

the US has to be the only country in the western world where people even think about that crap. I don't know a single person my age who did not have sex yet or who would even remotely think about not having sex until they are married.

BRISK

Right or wrong

Black or white

1 or 0

Stupid question

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pussyluver

This is another one of those posts by a 15 year old. Go read that bible untill your old enough to post here.

Paul Waters

Just another example of that fundie christian/republican thinking.....

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Tom_PMs

I was a virgin until I was 21 anyway. Am I more religious than 2 people who marry at 16 in alabama and fuck everynight in every hole?

Thanks.

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MarcS

condoms only fail if they rip which almost never happens


Are you on drugs?

lexr

I'm still a virgin baby! I've always used condoms in my personal life, so no skin to skin contact there! And content? Well that's just acting. It's not real, right?

A virgin am I!

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FlyingIguana

so if i keep using a condom it doesnt count? bonus!

reynold

depends on the person...it doesn't matter to me if the girl is virgin or not anyway...it's just sex

kahloz

Aha!

I knew I had seen this stupid ass thread yesterday! fuckball's back as Cyprus or something real world ghetto name