Japan's huge number of sexless marriages

[uriyohand]

This is an interesting article that I got from

http://mdn.mainichi.co.jp/waiwai/0406/0614diddling.html

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Couples reckon diddling together
better than sex


By Ryann Connell
Staff Writer
June 14, 2004


Japan's huge number of sexless marriages would suggest that when it comes to being amorous, couples are doing diddlysquat. Well, if what's being said in Shukan Jitsuwa (6/24) is correct, the "diddle" part, at least, is right.

Japan is, according to the men's weekly, quickly being filled by pairs who shun connubials in favor of putting on a show of their own in front of a partner who's more than likely doing the same thing.

And most of these "masturbation mates" are apparently young couples in their 20s and 30s.

"It's been about two years since my marriage went sexless. It started when my wife got a job and we were both working. I didn't come home till late and my wife left early. Whenever she tried to initiate anything, I'd always be too tired and she'd get mad at me. I had no choice but to start taking my own sexual frustrations into hand, so to speak. While I was continuing with my self-employment, I was surprised to learn that my wife had been doing the same thing," a 25-year-old real estate agent tells Shukan Jitsuwa. "My wife would wait for me to go to sleep, then whip out her little pink vibrator and complete her deed. When we both realized what we were doing, we started to Onanize together so we could 'ascend to Heaven' at the same time."

A 30-year-old housewife admits her marriage is at a similar stage.

"My husband suffers from stress-induced impotence, so I used a catalog order to buy myself a pinch hitter in the form of a insertable vibrator. It didn't bring me anywhere near the problems that sex with my husband did. I never had to worry about my vibrator going soft and, as long as I had batteries, it was available 24 hours a day," she says. "But, when my husband saw me using the vibrator, he suddenly went ramrod. Yet, whenever we tried to do something together, he'd just wilt again. We figured that rather than try and continue with something that wasn't obviously working, we'd settle for what was working well and do it together."

Modern demands are contributing to the proliferation of partners packing their palms. Layoffs have become common in the Japanese workforce. The more middle-age workers axed, the greater the burdens of companies have fallen on the shoulders of younger generations. Lower wages have also led to an increase in working couples, leaving the country packed with people who're too tired mentally and physically to be bothered with bonking. But, rather than leading to divorce, sexless marriages appear to be opening the door for mutual masturbation to become a stimulant.

"'Happening bars,' where you go and get drunk then have sex with other willing customers, are popping up all over the country. It's really common to see masturbating men and women in these places having climactic battles. You'll get young salarymen boast of their prowess to young women, who'll willingly watch while he wanks," a writer on the adult entertainment industry says. "At 'happening bars' that attract a considerable regular female clientele, it's not uncommon to see a sloshed young woman playing the banjo in front of a group of male onlookers."

While the proponents of the practice may be pleased, experts aren't quite so sure.

"What we're seeing is undoubtedly an adverse effect of the virtual reality world," doctor and writer Mitsugu Shiga says. "Thanks to personal computers, young people nowadays can get whatever they want in a sexual context. Personal computers give them access to photos with the genitals fully exposed, as well as to hardcore movies. If they want a love doll or masturbation goods, they only need to access a site that sells them online. They can satisfy their sexual desires entirely through the Internet. But, being caught up in the two-dimensional world can also create techno-stress and weaken emotions. That can weaken relations with real women and make sex too much of a hassle."

It's not just guys who're at fault. Excessive demands are making women turn to themselves to relieve sexual frustrations, too.

"Sex is something the brain feels, so living in today's society can destroy a woman's mental and physical balance and make it difficult for them to achieve orgasm. Catalog sales of vibrators are currently selling like hotcakes because so many women can't find a guy to satisfy them. If a woman becomes used to a vibrator, they can provide feelings far more intense than any real man is capable of and lead the woman to decide that masturbation is a far more attractive alternative," pshrink Shiga tells Shukan Jitsuwa. "Women today are also more selfish than their predecessors. They don't want to have kids. If that's the case, masturbation is also more attractive than sex because there's no risk of pregnancy. Japan is the only country in the world where you see this phenomenon of couples shunning sex in favor of jacking off together."

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Uri

[riosluts]

dont people like sex?

[Rictor]

Sounds like my marriage...only sexier.

[EmporerEJ]

Well, I'm proud to be contributing to the problem!!!!