Oh, it's YOU Whitney..... color me clueless, I didn't recognize your nick at first... I thought you were one of the guys here..... ha ha.

So you spent some time with the guy and now he thinks he has a shot? Well, no need to be rude at least at first..... just answer one of his calls or message him back and say you're not interested, you've met someone else and won't be taking calls from anyone else. Period.

If he calls after that, the gloves come off. <img SRC="http://members.shaw.ca/billy1-99/pics/boxer.gif">

Some people can't take a hint.

see, you made the mistake of leaving him a glimmer of hope that maybe just maybe he still has a chance to get into your pants. Just be blunt with the next guy. No need to beat around the bushes when you know that you don't like him; no need to be mean when you tell him though either. :)

What color would clueless be? ;)

Yeah i'm gonna text him something today i needed to rant for abit... its really annoying and irritating and warped for him to call SO much!

Simply tell him you're not interested. Not returning calls is not a good way of telling people... some people are rather blind.

Jman can definitely influence people :winkwink:
WG

Hey Whit....we could send him a picture of my pregnant belly and your head with the caption... "Sorry I haven't been able to return your call...life has taken an unexpected turn!"

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh

OMG LOL AHAHAHAHA :1orglaugh :winkwink: Thats brilliant!

hints are gay. why can't women just say straight up that they are not interested?

Hey...anything I can do to help!

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

I agree hints are gay... and unfortunatly because of how mellow the situation was i figured drifing off would be the best solution. I didn't want to seem arrogant or high on myself by stating that " iwas not interested" so quickly.

hey Whitney...Best bet is to tell him it has got to the point where he is harrassing you and he should beat it.

if that doesn't work sic Jman on him..

:glugglug

Tell him you've been too busy to take his calls because you had to spend some time at the clinic getting that rash taken care of, but now you're all better (for awhile at least) and that you'd LOVE to hang out and REALLY get to know him...

That should do the trick without hurting anyone's feelings lol.

I am sorry I thaught we both knew I was just messing with you!!!
Fuck I am sorry

At least we all know where the rash came from now.

Return his call & give him an all-teeth blowjob.

He'll never call again.

LOL good one! :1orglaugh

You know i looooooooooove you!!! :winkwink:

Sorry but men are ten times worse for ignoring chicks and not returning calls, hoping they'll just "get the fucking hint" as it were. I really don't blame women for doing it back, people just need to realize that after you leave a few messages with no return call, LET IT GO and move on. If they call a week later with some excuse and an apology, great. If not, you've moved on already, right?


Right.

He becomes a stalker when you file the restraining order

Prego or VD are the ways to go. Sure they are lies, but fuck it. Not like you want to see or hear from the dude again. and if you use prego and he sees you out somewhere just tell him you lost it and are an emotional wreck.

Good point. ;)

Just a suggestion if the guy is really driving you crazy after a while. You shouldn't be made afraid to use your own phone.

Hey Whit,

Let me know if you want someone local to take care of this. Since I know you, it's free. :)

Number 1 rule do not call him back, this will only encourage him to call you more. Once he knows you could care less hopefully he will get tired and stop calling you and move on to someone else.

How did this all start anyway ?

hahahaha :)

Whitney, just tell him off.

ignoring him or returning his calls and leaving a message is not going to work


either never return a call again, or answer the phone next time, and politely tell him you are not interested. I'll get the hint then.

:winkwink:

Call me when you get it JMan.. We have a way of dealing with this. :Graucho

Whit,

When will CB get the picture that you only want to be friends...???

Honestly, I don't think you should have to call him back. There is an established code of communication that is developed among those that hardly know each other.

Falls into the same category of a guy telling a girl he is not interested in her because he has a girlfriend when she approaches him. The fact that he lied is ok. If she finds out different and gets upset with him, then she is an idiot.

A guy forcing direct rejection upon himself is out of whack. Common sense would tell him that you aren't interested via the unreturned calls. He obviously lacks that.

If you have to speak with him, I say be honest and tell him that the sheer volume of phone calls contributed to your distaste for him. Maybe it will help him in the future.

hahahaha DOPE thanks dude!

HELL NO!!!

I can deal with this one on my own... Can send you the residue if ya want ;-))

I usually stalk a chick till i get the ass

just give him some and then you won't have to worry about him calling anymore

Tell him you're madly and passionately in love with a very large and powerful man from New Jersey named Mike. Tell him how every time you kiss him you get weak in the knees. Tell him every morning you wake up you wake up excited you have another day with the man you love. And tell him that your Jersey Boy feels the same way you do.

And ask if he's ever seen the Sopranos.

It sounds like two different things have happened here that you are both responsible for.

You hung out with him twice. To you it may have been just that. To him they may have been dates. You seem like a really nice person and many are gonna take being nice and hanging out as girlfriend potential.

Where I think you were a little responsible is when you didn't call him and tell him you're not interested in him. From his point of view he met a great girl that likes him. You not returning his phone calls in his optimistic mind just mean you were or are too busy to get back to him. Expecting people to get the point in a situation like this is like asking them to read your mind. I'm not trying to say that you led him on or anything. I'm just saying that's how dating someone usually starts. You meet them, you hand out and you have fun.

However, if he did call repeated for days and you never called him back it should be common sense that you're not interested. But one, common sense isn't that common and two, common sense plays no part whatsoever in dating and liking someone.

I think you mentioned in one of your posts that you have now told him that you're not interested. That's good. If he keeps calling, write down the time he calls and what was said. If you have a voice mail or answering machine than save the tapes, call the police and make a report for "Annoying Phone Calls". I know in California its section 653m of the penal code and it's a misdemeanor unless he threatens you in some way and you believe that he has the ability to carry out the threat. Than it's called Terrorists threats and it's a felony.

Something similar happened to a girlfriend of mine. The cops took the report as a misdemeanor. The guy threatened to kill her. I went to the police station with her and a copy of the answering machine tapes. They changed it to terrorist threats and he was picked up in a day and arrested.

Remember if you can't prove it than in the eyes of the court, it never happened. So protect yourself.

Good luck and I hope it all works out well for you. I'm sure he just wasn't getting the hint and all will be well. :)

:winkwink: Your sweet!

you're in toronto right? Forward your phone number to the call number for 52 division. It'll get his attention REAL fast :) My mom did this to her stalker when I was young, he departed quick

I *did* tell you I was a big fan

Nope I'm in Vancouver.

Did? Meaning your not my fan anymore? :(