The *F* word in business email - GoFuckYourself.com

Sarah - GTS · 01-22-2004, 08:24 AM

So I received this email this morning and the sender used the word "Fuck" in the text.
I was very offended!
Don't get me wrong: I use this word outloud and with my friends on a daily basis, but never do I swear in any business communication.
Am I out of line feeling this was rude and unprofessional?

Dirty F · 01-22-2004, 08:25 AM

Fuck him.

FrankWhite · 01-22-2004, 08:25 AM

very unprofessional, i would never answer that person.

xenigo · 01-22-2004, 08:26 AM

What was the context? Was it a business email promoting a porn site, with text that says "Girls Fuck on Camera!" or what?

Sarah - GTS · 01-22-2004, 08:27 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by xenigo
What was the context? Was it a business email promoting a porn site, with text that says "Girls Fuck on Camera!" or what?

No hehe, that would have been okay to me. It was in question form asking: what the fuck?

Stallion · 01-22-2004, 08:29 AM

just tell him shut the fuck up.. lol

Not very professional but we are in the adult entertainment industry, not the boyscouts.

Trax · 01-22-2004, 08:30 AM

fuck that
the fucking industry is fucking responsible for the fucking use of fuck every-fucking-where

i fucking hate that too
well
fuck it

Snowman · 01-22-2004, 08:30 AM

Oh please, It's 2004

Shut the fuck up

Values = Gone since Elvis, Quit being a freedom of speach holder backer

I wouldn't have a problem with the pope using curse words

THEY'RE JUST WORDS.

and even less meaningful and I'd assume less offensive online in the form of text, How can you post at goFUCKyourself.com and have a problem with "fuck"...

Professional, Personal, Let it be the same
We're all at the mercy of uncle sam gripping our balls in his palms of imprisionment

xenigo · 01-22-2004, 08:32 AM

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Originally posted by Stallion
just tell him shut the fuck up.. lol

Not very professional but we are in the adult entertainment industry, not the boyscouts.

Exactly, and he could have easily slipped. I have some pretty high-profile customers and it's not always formal conversation with everyone. After all, this is the adult entertainment industry.

Sarah - GTS · 01-22-2004, 08:35 AM

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Originally posted by Doomed
very unprofessional, i would never answer that person.

I was very reluctant to respond, but this person is a customer so I felt obligated.

gezzed · 01-22-2004, 08:36 AM

I think it depends on the context in which it was used, but it still does reflect poorly on the person using it.

But hey, this is a private communication between two individuals; not like it was posted in a memo and forwarded to 1000 employees.

ColBigBalls · 01-22-2004, 08:42 AM

THere is a certan lvl of conduct you should maintain when doing business... if your on GFY or at a bar or anything like that fucken swear all fuckity fucken day fucken long. But when you contucting busniess.. inho... keep it professional

ColBigBalls · 01-22-2004, 08:45 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by gezzed
I think it depends on the context in which it was used, but it still does reflect poorly on the person using it.

But hey, this is a private communication between two individuals; not like it was posted in a memo and forwarded to 1000 employees.

so if the hydro company sent you you bill and told you to "what the fuck?!?! why the fuck havent you paid your bill you dumb fuck!@" that would be ok cause it was a personal letter?

Libertine · 01-22-2004, 08:46 AM

You're posting on a board called gofuckyourself and making money of people fucking on camera. Unless it was an unwarranted "Fuck you!", you should just shut the fuck up about it.

MadCap · 01-22-2004, 08:48 AM

This board is called GOFUCKYOURSELF.COM and there is more adult business done here than anywhere else on the planet i would think. There is no stigma attached to the word FUCK in this business. I cant believe something like that would be posted here or that you would be offended by it yet visit this site.

ColBigBalls · 01-22-2004, 08:53 AM

Hey madcap

Fuck you!!

MadCap · 01-22-2004, 08:53 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by ColBigBalls
Hey madcap

Fuck you!!

RATBOY · 01-22-2004, 08:54 AM

If a customer of mine started asking me WTF I would be less concerned about his ettiquite than keeping my customers satisfied. You bet if I was paying for something and wasn't satisfied and as pissed off as I can get you would get an e-mail with a lot worse than WTF in it.

Brad Xtremepay · 01-22-2004, 09:21 AM

I would never swear in a professional business communication.
I save that for GFY.

BobChezule · 01-22-2004, 09:25 AM

I think if he/she had said that to you in person it would have been something to take offense at, but to me email is an impersonal form of communication and you need not take offense.

Rorschach · 01-22-2004, 09:31 AM

What a fucking cu<b></b>nt!

myjah · 01-22-2004, 09:37 AM

freedom of speech is alot of the time abused, but legal

NBDesign · 01-22-2004, 09:37 AM

I was going to say something... but fuck it.

stocktrader23 · 01-22-2004, 09:38 AM

Lighten the fuck up.

eroswebmaster · 01-22-2004, 09:42 AM

Just because we are in the porn business does not mean morals, or etiquette go out the window.

I personally wouldn't have sweat it, but that would have depended upon who sent it and the perceived tone.

If it were a WTF YOU IDIOT! Type email it would be handled much more differently than a..."Hey how's it going here is that order request for your services...I got up this morning and realized what the fuck? I never sent it to you."

Sly_RJ · 01-22-2004, 09:45 AM

What the fuck?

ColBigBalls · 01-22-2004, 09:48 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by stocktrader23
Lighten the fuck up.

Hey... Fuck you

Sly_RJ · 01-22-2004, 09:49 AM

I'm glad my clients don't get upset about stuff like that, I wouldn't have any! I like getting on a personal level with my clients and I like them to do the same to me. Asking me how my day is, mentioning a hot fucking chick, etc is all part of building a good solid relationship even if that means using less than savory words.

Furthermore, I'm sitting around building sites all day where every other word is "fuck", "blow job", "anal sex", and "midget butt fucking". Saying "what the fuck?" is almost second nature. It's not even thought of, it just happens.

Trent Edison · 01-22-2004, 09:59 AM

Does "WTF" in my title offend anyone?

playa · 01-22-2004, 10:04 AM

LOL, it really depends on what context the word "FUCK" was used.

As you know the word can mean lots of things

if someone is pissed "FUCK YOU"
when you give up "Fuck it"
to have sex "I fucked her"

etc. etc. etc.

don't be so damn sensitive

com · 01-22-2004, 10:06 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Trent Edison
Does "WTF" in my title offend anyone?

im mortified

edit: im fucking clusterfucked at your o-fuckin-dasity, i mean the motherfucking nerve of it all... for fuck's sake, absofuckinglutely im ofuckinfended

axelcat · 01-22-2004, 10:10 AM

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Originally posted by Battuss
Fuck him.

I agree

GTS Mark · 01-22-2004, 11:19 AM

FUCKERS! FUCKERS! FUCKERS!!

DH

sickkittens · 01-22-2004, 11:22 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by MadCap
This board is called GOFUCKYOURSELF.COM and there is more adult business done here than anywhere else on the planet i would think. There is no stigma attached to the word FUCK in this business. I cant believe something like that would be posted here or that you would be offended by it yet visit this site.

That's pretty ignorant.

MetaMan · 01-22-2004, 11:23 AM

this is for you.

Mr. Jim · 01-22-2004, 11:25 AM

I'm glad someone has had the courage to stand up on this matter....

In Fact, i think the name of this place should be changed to

Go THANK yourself.com

dedicated to the development of a morally heightend community standard

so....Go ThankYourself

iFliPcEss · 01-22-2004, 11:30 AM

http://www.funlol.com/content3/conte...oryoffword.txt

guess, you gotta check out this site

media · 01-22-2004, 11:32 AM

I've got a potty mouth, comes from working in a tattoo shop for 4 years, and from working in this biz.. I cant help it.. And if me saying fuck to someone affects the money we make together, they need to sell fucking bibles or something...

Media

KC · 01-22-2004, 11:43 AM

It's all about the context. For example, if someone from GFY or the tradeshows included the phrase "What the fuck?" in an email to me. I wouldn't think twice about it.

If my Banker, Lawyer, Accountant, Doctor, etc.. wrote it I would be pissed off.

So I'd say, if it's someone from the industry that you know well, then let it slide. If not, just don't do business with them.

media · 01-22-2004, 11:51 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by KC
It's all about the context. For example, if someone from GFY or the tradeshows included the phrase "What the fuck?" in an email to me. I wouldn't think twice about it.

If my Banker, Lawyer, Accountant, Doctor, etc.. wrote it I would be pissed off.

So I'd say, if it's someone from the industry that you know well, then let it slide. If not, just don't do business with them.

My doctor (personal/family doc) is like 28 or something.. He looked at my tattoos the second time I saw him.. He said "those are some cool fuckin tattoos!!" I about spit my mocha all over his office..

Then later, he took some nitrogen and tried to freeze my mocha with it.. it worked, and he said "this is the coolest shit"... Will I go back to see him? You bet.. cuz he's a cool motherfucker who can get down and talk on my level without feeling insecure about it..

I respect that..

Chong · 01-22-2004, 11:54 AM

you've got to be fucking kidding.

KC · 01-22-2004, 11:58 AM

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Originally posted by Chong
you've got to be fucking kidding.

un-fucking-believable.

the Shemp · 01-22-2004, 11:59 AM

email is less formal than a traditonal business letter.
people tend to type what they think, rather than worry about protocol.

MadCap · 01-22-2004, 12:03 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by sickkittens

That's pretty ignorant.

Why??
its the truth

HeadPimp · 01-22-2004, 12:14 PM

I have to say that for informal chatting on boards or at shows then say what ever you want.

To say fuck in a professional setting is tacky and will eventually lose you money.

tranza · 01-22-2004, 12:15 PM

If he didn't say: fuck you or fuck him, then I think it's ok....

If he just wrote wtf, like you said, why the fuck would you be offended??

tbabe · 01-22-2004, 12:16 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by ColBigBalls

so if the hydro company sent you you bill and told you to "what the fuck?!?! why the fuck havent you paid your bill you dumb fuck!@" that would be ok cause it was a personal letter?

That would be funny

Gabriel · 01-22-2004, 12:18 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by media

My doctor (personal/family doc) is like 28 or something.. He looked at my tattoos the second time I saw him.. He said "those are some cool fuckin tattoos!!" I about spit my mocha all over his office..

Then later, he took some nitrogen and tried to freeze my mocha with it.. it worked, and he said "this is the coolest shit"... Will I go back to see him? You bet.. cuz he's a cool motherfucker who can get down and talk on my level without feeling insecure about it..

I respect that..

Why the Fuck you drinkn' mocha's???

Rictor · 01-22-2004, 12:18 PM

The customer is always right (and an asshole, but don't let on).

DotComPorn · 01-22-2004, 12:48 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Sarah - GSS
So I received this email this morning and the sender used the word "Fuck" in the text.
I was very offended!
Don't get me wrong: I use this word outloud and with my friends on a daily basis, but never do I swear in any business communication.
Am I out of line feeling this was rude and unprofessional?

Are you 12?

Grow the fuck up. What a dumb ass thread.

01-22-2004, 08:24 AM	#1
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01-22-2004, 08:29 AM	#6
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01-22-2004, 08:46 AM	#14
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01-22-2004, 09:37 AM	#22
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01-22-2004, 09:37 AM	#23
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01-22-2004, 08:25 AM	#2
Dirty F Too lazy to set a custom title Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 59,204	Fuck him.

01-22-2004, 08:25 AM	#3
FrankWhite Confirmed User Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: nyc Posts: 3,540	very unprofessional, i would never answer that person.

01-22-2004, 08:26 AM	#4
xenigo Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Oakland, CA Posts: 8,067	What was the context? Was it a business email promoting a porn site, with text that says "Girls Fuck on Camera!" or what?

01-22-2004, 08:30 AM	#7
Trax [----------------------] Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 14,486	fuck that the fucking industry is fucking responsible for the fucking use of fuck every-fucking-where i fucking hate that too well fuck it

01-22-2004, 08:30 AM	#8
Snowman So Fucking Banned Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 235	Oh please, It's 2004 Shut the fuck up Values = Gone since Elvis, Quit being a freedom of speach holder backer I wouldn't have a problem with the pope using curse words THEY'RE JUST WORDS. and even less meaningful and I'd assume less offensive online in the form of text, How can you post at goFUCKyourself.com and have a problem with "fuck"... Professional, Personal, Let it be the same We're all at the mercy of uncle sam gripping our balls in his palms of imprisionment

01-22-2004, 08:36 AM	#11
gezzed Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 317	I think it depends on the context in which it was used, but it still does reflect poorly on the person using it. But hey, this is a private communication between two individuals; not like it was posted in a memo and forwarded to 1000 employees.

01-22-2004, 08:42 AM	#12
ColBigBalls Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,733	THere is a certan lvl of conduct you should maintain when doing business... if your on GFY or at a bar or anything like that fucken swear all fuckity fucken day fucken long. But when you contucting busniess.. inho... keep it professional

01-22-2004, 08:48 AM	#15
MadCap Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: 137771650 Minneapolis MN Posts: 2,357	This board is called GOFUCKYOURSELF.COM and there is more adult business done here than anywhere else on the planet i would think. There is no stigma attached to the word FUCK in this business. I cant believe something like that would be posted here or that you would be offended by it yet visit this site.

01-22-2004, 08:53 AM	#16
ColBigBalls Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 1,733	Hey madcap Fuck you!!

01-22-2004, 08:54 AM	#18
RATBOY Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 1,592	If a customer of mine started asking me WTF I would be less concerned about his ettiquite than keeping my customers satisfied. You bet if I was paying for something and wasn't satisfied and as pissed off as I can get you would get an e-mail with a lot worse than WTF in it.

01-22-2004, 09:21 AM	#19
Brad Xtremepay So Fucking Banned Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Canada Posts: 2,000	I would never swear in a professional business communication. I save that for GFY.

01-22-2004, 09:25 AM	#20
BobChezule Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: New York Posts: 779	I think if he/she had said that to you in person it would have been something to take offense at, but to me email is an impersonal form of communication and you need not take offense.

01-22-2004, 09:31 AM	#21
Rorschach So Fucking Banned Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 5,579	What a fucking cu<b></b>nt!

01-22-2004, 09:38 AM	#24
stocktrader23 Let's do some business. Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: The dirty south. Posts: 18,781	Lighten the fuck up. __________________ Hands Free Adult - Join Once, Earn For Life "I try to make a habit of bouncing my eyes up to the face of a beautiful woman, and often repeat “not mine” in my head or even verbally. She’s not mine. God has her set aside. She’s not mine. She’s His little girl, and she needs me to fight for her by keeping my eyes where they should be."

01-22-2004, 09:42 AM	#25
eroswebmaster March 1st, 2003 Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Seat 4 @ Venetian Poker Room Posts: 20,295	Just because we are in the porn business does not mean morals, or etiquette go out the window. I personally wouldn't have sweat it, but that would have depended upon who sent it and the perceived tone. If it were a WTF YOU IDIOT! Type email it would be handled much more differently than a..."Hey how's it going here is that order request for your services...I got up this morning and realized what the fuck? I never sent it to you." __________________ For rent - ICQ 127-027-910 Click here for more details

01-22-2004, 09:45 AM	#26
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01-22-2004, 09:49 AM	#28
Sly_RJ Live Hard - Die Hard Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Ready to leave... Posts: 17,042	I'm glad my clients don't get upset about stuff like that, I wouldn't have any! I like getting on a personal level with my clients and I like them to do the same to me. Asking me how my day is, mentioning a hot fucking chick, etc is all part of building a good solid relationship even if that means using less than savory words. Furthermore, I'm sitting around building sites all day where every other word is "fuck", "blow job", "anal sex", and "midget butt fucking". Saying "what the fuck?" is almost second nature. It's not even thought of, it just happens. __________________ PHAT SERVERS - Quality dedicated hosting at a quality price! sly AT phatservers DOT com - 147479144

01-22-2004, 09:59 AM	#29
Trent Edison Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Freeport 7 Posts: 6,132	Does "WTF" in my title offend anyone? __________________

01-22-2004, 10:04 AM	#30
playa Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: atlanta, GA Posts: 6,432	LOL, it really depends on what context the word "FUCK" was used. As you know the word can mean lots of things if someone is pissed "FUCK YOU" when you give up "Fuck it" to have sex "I fucked her" etc. etc. etc. don't be so damn sensitive

01-22-2004, 11:19 AM	#33
GTS Mark Vrume Mark Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 20,912	FUCKERS! FUCKERS! FUCKERS!! DH

01-22-2004, 11:23 AM	#35
MetaMan I AM WEB 2.0 Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 28,682	this is for you.

01-22-2004, 11:25 AM	#36
Mr. Jim Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 4,372	I'm glad someone has had the courage to stand up on this matter.... In Fact, i think the name of this place should be changed to Go THANK yourself.com dedicated to the development of a morally heightend community standard so....Go ThankYourself

01-22-2004, 11:30 AM	#37
iFliPcEss Registered User Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 3,087	http://www.funlol.com/content3/conte...oryoffword.txt guess, you gotta check out this site

01-22-2004, 11:32 AM	#38
media Confirmed Moneymaker Industry Role: Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Eugene, OR It's Like Jail, Only with Trees! Posts: 9,852	I've got a potty mouth, comes from working in a tattoo shop for 4 years, and from working in this biz.. I cant help it.. And if me saying fuck to someone affects the money we make together, they need to sell fucking bibles or something... Media __________________ I'm here for the violence!

01-22-2004, 11:43 AM	#39
KC Confirmed User Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 1995 Posts: 2,417	It's all about the context. For example, if someone from GFY or the tradeshows included the phrase "What the fuck?" in an email to me. I wouldn't think twice about it. If my Banker, Lawyer, Accountant, Doctor, etc.. wrote it I would be pissed off. So I'd say, if it's someone from the industry that you know well, then let it slide. If not, just don't do business with them. __________________ Jupiter Hosting, Inc. Vice President, Business Development kc (AT) jupiterhosting.com

01-22-2004, 11:54 AM	#41
Chong Confirmed User Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Vegas Posts: 1,584	you've got to be fucking kidding.

01-22-2004, 11:59 AM	#43
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01-22-2004, 12:14 PM	#45
HeadPimp Bad Mo-Fo Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 2,772	I have to say that for informal chatting on boards or at shows then say what ever you want. To say fuck in a professional setting is tacky and will eventually lose you money.

01-22-2004, 12:15 PM	#46
tranza ICQ: 197-556-237 Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: BRASIL !!! Posts: 57,559	If he didn't say: fuck you or fuck him, then I think it's ok.... If he just wrote wtf, like you said, why the fuck would you be offended?? __________________ I'm just a newbie.

01-22-2004, 12:18 PM	#49
Rictor Old Timer Industry Role: Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Indianapolis Posts: 12,208	The customer is always right (and an asshole, but don't let on).