I see.. and I think you'd let her go. Remember the wise words of an old man?

Alas it's true, I was gone here and there
and made myself a motley to the view,
gored my own mind, sold cheap what is most dear
and made old objections of affections new.

:)

It'd certainly be the easy thing to do! :)

her ex-dick! :winkwink:
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buy something nice for yourself man.Trust me its a good advice:glugglug

No.. on the contrary. What's your sign? Leo or Scorpion?

Wow, that's pretty deep for GFY. :thumbsup

When I originally told her we couldn't be friends anymore...it was so we could both heal, because I doubted things would be better between us. Since then, I changed my mentality: Instead of keeping the philosophy I've always had: "things are going bad, how do I get out?", I for once want to be "things are going bad, how do we fix it?"

She came over not too long ago...she missed me and she was upset I had dating other girls...it gave me a glimmer that maybe we have a chance...

...dammit

Some great sets from you, huh? That would make a nice gift for sure.

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Taurus...very stubborn.

call her, wish her a Happy Birthday and move on

Oh my.. I am a taurus also but my ascendent is Libra. This explains a lot.

:Graucho

Maybe I should give HER some great sets...like of Candy...one of the girls I dated after breaking up with her?

...baaaaaaaaaad....

I am sure she would fall in love with you in a second again:1orglaugh

cyanide....

Deez nutz...

I don't know.. but if she is a webmaster and does not know this girl? nah, it's bad, I agree.

I think you should make a trip or something, new environment, experience, etc., etc. and busy yourself.

Yeah, we're screwed; aren't we? :glugglug

InterNext, here I come, baby!!!!!:thumbsup

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nothing at all

Is Vegas far enough?

Well, I gotta run. I'm supposed to be somewhere soon...

Thanks, everyone, and it was great talking... :thumbsup

Well, considering the far East is after that...yeah, it'll probably do... :)

...talk to you later!

The best gift:thumbsup :1orglaugh

Put a bow around the boot you kicked her out with :1orglaugh

how bout a phone call to say happy birthday?????
dont get a gift>>>shes an ex>>>and u want to keep it that way right????

i definitely wouldnt get her anything

nothing, whole point of an "ex" is you dont have to spend money on her anymore

Don't get her anything too expensive or she'll think you're trying to buy her back.

A nice bottle of wine would be cool, then make sure she invites you over to drink it ;)

It would have to be something that only she could enjoy by herself. I'm not buying her a bottle of wine so she can enjoy it with someone else. Good thought, though. Probably flowers and and taking her out for sushi...

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So basically you cheated on her??

sounds like you're one of those many men who aren't happy with what they have, but miss it when it's gone and wish they had it when they don't.

otherwise maybe you should offer to go to couples counseling with her. people need to communicate and trust each other - and after there have been problems, having a third party moderate can really help keep blame from being pointed.

my actual opinion - you are who you are, and that wasn't someone who wanted to settle for her. she was unhappy with the way you undervalued her. not a good relationship.

i'm friends with my first husband, but it took YEARS before we were on good enough terms to handle that - and more years before he's stop mooning over me.

if you like her, send her something from amazon.com.

Where you just "flirtatious" or did you actually cheat on her, as in have sexual contact with someone else? If someone cheated on me I wouldn't want anything from them for my birthday or EVER.

Give her the video tape of you and your new and improved girlfriend going at it.

Well, sounds like love to me. Welcome to the club, I'm in a similar jam except we've been married for 13 years with 2 kids, been separated for over a year, still waiting for the other to file the papers lol. Tried to make up a few times in this year only to fight even harder.

She dropped off the kids today and I wanted to just give her a hug, that became painfully impossible and her smell drove me crazy. Fucking women..

Good luck bro :thumbsup

Sorry I didn't reply sooner...been away from my computer.

No, I never cheated on her. Ever. For whatever reason, girls would come up to me, even when I was with my gf, and flirt with me. I would respond to it, I guess, and flirt back, although I looked at it like I was just being polite continuing the conversation. In reality, it was flirting. I dated a girl after my ex who did the same thing...that made me realize how it can be taken...not cool when you're in a relationship.

I feel ya', dude. I've been trying to avoid giving my ex a hug, but sometimes can't... Then it's those full minute hugs that just kill me.

Good luck to you too, buddy. :thumbsup

A turkey baster and some jumper cables.

It's more complicated than that, but yeah...the grass is always greener... And I had a commitment problem. Now, I realize the grass was pretty green before, and I'm not as afraid to commit. Too little, too late, I suppose.

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