but thats not fair to his kid(s)

sounds like you tried to speak with the principal to no avail. Definitely take it up with the school board or superintendant. Even if your ex did have a problem with this situation, the principal could in no way turn down the enrollment of any child. Sounds like she may be friends with your ex or all those rubber cement fumes have gone to her head.

There were a couple of valid suggestions given...

I'd take it to the next level.. her boss... Explain what she did/said.. and how she said it (if she was being a bitch about it) Ask them if they agree with these tactics and invasion of privacy, then demand that action be taken against this principal for such invasion and using her powers in an unprofessional manner..

Then let her boss know that if nothing is done, you will take it to the board.. the super.. the state.. and whomever else you need to take it to in order to make sure this type of nonsense doesn't happen again.. and your x should be with you the whole way in that the two of you are in harmony and no friction exists..

I'd be finding out when the next school board meeting was and be sitting in the front row when it took up with a real attitude going on. Maybe its ok in YOUR state but its not in this one and that principle would be walking egg shells as long as my kid was in her school. As well as having it in her permanent folder.

it is probably one of those things that you have to let go.

When people are mean spirited towards me or do something like stab me in the back. I usually tend to be overly nice to them..it confuses them. I believe it also tends to reverse their intent unless they are just pissed at the world...lol

The obvious question here is are you public about the nature of the business you are in? If you are, this (sadly) explains the principle's attitude toward you and your girlfriend. If you have children school age or younger, you have responsibility as their parent to keep your mouth shut about your business. Even though they may enjoy countless fruits of your labor and their life be greatly enhanced by the money you make (however you make it), they are children and other children (and adults) can be cruel. Your actions will be judged and they will be treated according to those judgements however unfair or amoral that may be. Rule number one for anyone in the adult business with kids ( or may one day have them) is to keep your work a secret. It is not a matter of being ashamed or embarrassed of what you do, but a matter of following the path of least resistance where our children are concerned. If you are public in any way about your business ( trusted friends and/or family never keep your secrets), then you need to drop this. Do not draw any more attention to yourself or your child. Be ever watchful of the people they are exposed to at school and out, but don't let YOUR emotions in this case or any other over-ride your common sense. If you are already talked about, going to the school board or making any trouble at all will result in more gossip/tongue wagging at your child's expense. Voices carry.

This is an addition to my last reply...


This lady will not lose her job over this even if you hire Johnnie Cochran and Alan Derschowitz. Her actions have already proven her to be an unfair and emotion-ruled nitwit. Why antagonize an unreasonable person in a position of authority in your children's lives? You have 2 choices, STFU and try to kill them with kindness or take those 2 kids to another school district far enough away for your business affairs not to follow you. If you ex-wife knows of your affairs, this will not even work because she will follow your child with her mouth.

that is bullshit i would b pissed, i hate stupid ass do gooders. these type of people cause problems for the world and think they are always correct. please march right down to the school and fuck the principal in the ass and stamp a big F on her forehead. i am sick of do gooders and the weight they bring to society for no reason, and same with moms in vans.

Fuck that, call the Super!

jDoG

Call up local news stations, Go the pubic school board.

Then Acquire a free scholarship to a private school that is being paid by the state and us taxpayers. Then have that principle resign with all the news hype.



:thumbsup

If you wanted to be an asshole about it.

Are you flipping kidding buddy? Do you think the news woud give a fuck about this? How ignorant of the world can you people be? :1orglaugh

Call the super, tell them you will not stop until she is as least suspended does not matter how high up the food chain you have to go or if the kid is fucking graduated high school by the time somethings done with it. also point out the fact that if your attitude right now is taken out in any way with your kid there will be lawsuits flying everywhere and you will ask her/him daily about school. If it doesnt seem they give a shit tell them you have no problem driving to the local paper and seeing if any reporters are up for an invasion of privacy at a public school story(even the super has people to answer to) and if your still not getting anywhere work in the word "lawsuit", simply saying that word changes peoples attitudes dramaticaly.

If you take it in the ass now you will be a target, if you grow a set of seeds, show them you will not back off they will do everything possible to stay the fuck out of your way in the future. Simple life lesson not to many people on this planet seem to understand, as this thread proves, alot of people will just bend the fuck over.

And don't worry about what they will do to your kid, they have very strict guidlines of how they can treat children. I know a public school teacher, she loves her job but actually wants to move on because they can be sued (and lose) for damn near everything.

Having gone thru this myself as you have here, its not fun.

I did call the school board, talked to the principals bosses, etc and got a load of shit from them about it at first then, each time there was a parent teacher meeting I saw the principal that caused me problems similar to yours and asked them why in fron of other parents there did they cause me these issues?

I embarrassed the hell outta them everytime I got the chance for that year. The teacher I called several times to talk to her, left messages, follow up calls on the messages until I got an apology in writing from her.

At the end of that year, she retired......

The principal was over the line and they need to remember they are just teachers and are human like the rest of us. My suitation with my wife, her ex and the school stirred alot of shit for all of us for while and really just made a difficult suitation worse and they told us " in the best interest of the child"......

I hate schools, I hate principals, I hate people that cant keep thier nose out of others business when it comes to extended families.....

media eats up parent/school system conflicts.

perhaps she thought it was irresponsible for you to shack up with your girlfriend and wondered what moral example you were setting for your 5 yr old kid.
perhaps she even wondered if your ex would have better sense.
she got her answer:thumbsup

What principal gets involved in new student registration? Another question, how did the principal know that the g/f?s child was even associated with another child in her school?

From the smallest public school system to the largest, principals don?t get involved with student registration and/or personal issues unless they want to be fired with grounds to keep their benefits and lawsuit or legal stuff to keep their job.

Something made her react. IMO, I would let another parent make the point. I doubt that any school board is going to side with a porn parent.

I see you're done with your daily stalking of abortion doctors :1orglaugh

I see your still looking for personal advice on a chatboard.:1orglaugh

I will never send my kids to public school for just this reason. I would demand a joint meeting with the principle and their supervisors and demand an appology.

But seeing as this is GFY, how about photo shopping some pictures and blackmailing them into quitting?

Hey, I have an idea...

How about a new forum here at GFY about parenting? Something like Fucking Around & What Comes After : How to Own Your Kids

Dear Thunderballs:

Let it go.

The principal is trying to run a "happy ship" and is doing her best to try to figure out your situation and see how it affects her school.

If I were a principal I would too.

The really smooth move you could make would be to tell the Principal that you understand her position, thank her for taking the time, and look forward to working with her in the future.

Your kids will all thank you for it.

:2 cents:

id be one pissed off mother fucker if some bitch did that to me.

id be very angered, you ought to get ont eh damned phone tomorrow and ruin someones day.