Wow -- he must be a complete dumb-ass! :1orglaugh

women want everything equal, so they say. yet they still want the little things that make them feel like women. i'll be a gent and pick up the tab most of the time, however the longer you get into a relationship, the more casual things become and who picks up the tab doesn't really matter in my opinion. tho unless ive forgotten my wallet, i don't see myself letting her pick the whole thing up herself.

Everyone I know splits it down the middle. If he picks up the tab tonight, she'll pick it up tomorrow. It's just fair that way. THe only exception is if they have joint bank accounts.

That's pretty much how I see things too.

if they arn't married and she's putting out that night he should pay.

if she's on the rag or won't be fuckign him that night for one reason or another she should be paying half or all of the bill. why the fuck should he have to listen to her crap if she's not going to be putting out?

Me and my woman switch off, if I buy the dinner and a movie one night, she'll pick it up the next time, we've never even had a discussion about it, we just fell into it like that.

Interesting. This implies that the woman doesn't WANT to have sex after the date. But she'll be willing to part with it for a little bit since he bought the meal.

What if the woman wants the sex and the guy just wants to watch a movie after the meal? Should she pick up the tab, then?

Or are we so old fashioned that we don't believe in the female orgasm? :)

name me ONE guy that doesn't want to have sex after a DATE.

ONE


JUST ONE

i always have the chick chip in on something during our date for the reason that i make more money than any of the guys they previously dated and i want to make sure thats not the reason she even goes out with me lol...
probably dumb... but its the truth :P

That is another reason why I like to pay for myself, so the guy can know that I really like him and want to spend time with him, not use him for $$$. But my ex had such a big ego because he said I "made a scene in public" and embarassed him by paying in front of everyone. What a loser

Awh.... shit. She got pussy... I got dinner.

Even if it is my last money I still pay..but I borrow money sometimes too..from girls

Fuck I feel stupid those times!

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Oh shit! haha, if its a weekly thing where mom, bf and gf go for lunch then fine she should chip in....but shit, if its the one time they go out to eat during the year, gf and bf should pay!

not necessarily just him...but both!

Simple answer to a tough question.

When I was younger (dinosaur times) and my boyfriend asked me out I expected him to pay. However if I wanted to go somewhere (like the movies) I paid.

If a decision is made jointly (like a cruise) and the money is a bit more than 20 bucks than me and my than boyfriend sat down and discussed the expenses and what each of us is going to pay.

Now putting this in reality could be more difficult

xoxoxo

when i used to date, i expected the guy to pick up the first tab. after that, if we kept seeing each other, we could take turns but not split the check. that is nasty.

on the other hand, if one is in a relationship, it's not unreasonable that if one person makes a lot more money, they could pay for the more expensive dinners.

Every girl has a different way of looking at it...

Just use common sense... if you are taking her out someplace special to make her feel nice -- obviously it makes no sense to have her pay unless she offers to throw in some money for the tip... I think it's best to not make a big deal about money -- at all costs... going out for a nice evening should never be about money anyway... I think it's sad if a guy has to blow a wad of cash just to get some pussy...

Also here's another situation... Let's say that you make more than her -- she might consider $10 to be her limit for spending on a meal at a restuarant -- and you take her out to a place that has $20 plates... obviously that's not cool to expect her to split 50/50... but I do the same with my friends too.

In general once I'm past the first date I could really give a fuck who pays what and when... Uh but it all depends on how much you like her... my last serious girlfriend had expensive taste in food and we lived in a pricey area (Pasadena) but she was very careful about her diet and cooked very healthy so I was cool with it... Some chicks don't mind Wendy's -- others want to throw down a huge tip because the waitress brought water for the fancy dog... uuuugh...

The way I see it -- having arguments about money is fucking immature...

yep, i don't want sex just because im paying for whatever, i want sex because she wants me!

I always pay... and when I don't, he digs in my purse. Bastard...

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godamn your drinking blood again

My fiancee and I have a pretty simple system for normal living expenses - she pays one week, I pay the next. There was a time when I was flat broke and she had money, now I make more than her so I can return the favour. We're a couple so even though we still have separate bank accounts we are effectively pooling our money, it doesn't seem unusual to me to be sharing expenses. The only thing we don't split equally is the home loan.

I always like to pay, but my girl doesnt like feeling as if she leeching off me, so I usually pick up dinner and she buys the coffee afterwards... or I pay for the movie and she gets parking...

We went to cirque du soleil, I paid for the tix, she bought dinner before the show... etc etc etc.

I make a lot more money then she does - although she has a good job and bought her own car and pays her own bills - and I feel better knowing I paid the larger share and she can use the savings for something else.

Although a lot of guys dont pay shit anymore... I find that just strange.

ahahahahahaha.

Yep, that's the way my man and I do it. it's good. He usually likes to be the one on the right side of the ledger... so he offers the most expensive.

I'm old school-the man supplies the money in the relationship

OK but what about after dinner? Are you suppose to pay for the lube too?

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women lie and steal

If 'either' party in a relationship 'expects' things to be 50/50, the relationship is doomed...


You both do what you do... If you know that she would rather you foot the bill.. so be it...

There are.. or will be times that you think she should be the one to do certain things.. that she won't mind doing..

This 50/50 stuff just ends up being a, "You're half of the candy bar is bigger than mine" thing and it escalates...

Damn a bunch of ... old fashioned.. equal rights..

This isn't a business deal.. If ya both do things that you know makes the other happy, then the rest will take care of itself..

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You HAVE to pay for everything, that's the difference. You wouldn't get any dinner dates if you didn't.

Women gladly pay half just to be able to enjoy my sparkling personality and razor sharp wit.

before I even read the rest of the thread....DH is correct...that's the best way to do it. It lets each person get a chance to "treat" and "be treated" to dinner - which both feel good.


splitting a tab in half is shit you do with your buddies....

edit: I mean this for couples who have been going out for awhile...I always pay for everything with new girls.

This was a truly informative thread. I guess I am old fashioned on this topic. Really a lot of diverse opinions on the way it is with younger couples now.

Thanks everyone!! I'll relay the input you gave here to him.

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this depends on the couple or partners but most of the time , it's guys who pay.:(