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DarkJedi · 05-28-2003, 06:30 AM

beat his ass down

DarkJedi · 05-28-2003, 06:34 AM

give him an ultimatum:

- go to college with my support or
- do whatever you want without getting a cent from me, you are on your own.

Raven · 05-28-2003, 06:36 AM

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Originally posted by Amputate Your Head

nah, he's really a very smart kid. He actually finished school way ahead of his class, but they won't officially "graduate" him until the rest of the class does. He's been done for a while now though, and basically just been waiting.
He's running his own shop.... has been for a while. He's got the brains to do anything he wants.... I just feel he's using it inappropriately. He's following a passion/interest/hobby instead of more lucrative avenues.

And I gotta respect that I guess.... I just don't want to see him struggle when he doesn't have to.

Amp. He has to struggle. It's the mother of survival. We all have to go through it and scrape our knees, make decisions that might not be smooth or even safe....

Sometimes I wonder how I got to be this old..with some of the things I've done...

Your son has to find his road....you can't protect him from everything, much as you'd like to.

LeeNoga · 05-28-2003, 06:42 AM

Amp, my folks made my brother take a full golf scholarship and go to college, 2 months later he was thrown out and had a shitload of parking tickets. All he did was party and never went to class.

I took time off at 18, and went to college at 30, my folks told me if I did not go in their time line they would not pay for it later.

I decided to go to college at age 30, graduated at 37 with my BS in Business, and now deal with 30K in school loans, but I am glad I did it this way.

College is something you have to want to do, otherwise your gonna spend money and he will eventually drop out or have such a low GPA he will never want to return once he regrets what he did to get that low GPA.

Give him some time off, and re-visit this college thing in a year.

dantheman · 05-28-2003, 06:46 AM

Good Luck Amp

My oldest daughter is 17 and already doing her own thing, Nothing I say really means much

SHe thinks shes got it all figured out already, man is she going to be disappointed. BUT I've used up all my options and it's on her for a while. If she needs me she better hurry before I disappear to the coast

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FlyingIguana · 05-28-2003, 07:33 AM

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Originally posted by Joe Sixpack
Let this be a lesson to you all: DO NOT BREED!

The most unhappy people I know are parents. Live life for yourself and live it well... only suckers have kids.

i know a lot of people who are happy to have kids. they even want more...

wimpy · 05-28-2003, 12:18 PM

let him do what he wants and do NOT save him from the consequences. THAT'S how he'll learn.

Sly_RJ · 05-28-2003, 12:28 PM

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Originally posted by Amputate Your Head

Is it really wrong (as the parent) to lay down the law, so to speak, and tell them what they need to do in order to not be a fuckup?

It's not wrong at all. But you can't start when they're 18. It's too late.

Help him find out what he really wants to do with his life and then go from there.

My dad never wanted me to go to college because he knew I could do much better on my own. I insisted on going, so I went. One year of school was enough, I dropped out. I'd like to go back some day, but not out of necessity.

LeeNoga · 05-28-2003, 12:52 PM

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Originally posted by Sly_RJ
My dad never wanted me to go to college because he knew I could do much better on my own. I insisted on going, so I went. One year of school was enough, I dropped out. I'd like to go back some day, but not out of necessity.

Sly I did the same thing kinda, did a year of college because that was what was expected of me, dropped out and went back for the hell of it at 30 until I got that damn degree.

I kinda got into porn as a result of a college class when the Doctorate proclaimed there was nothing recession proof, and I contested this remark and said, "Porn was".

Released my first world-wide XXX CD-ROM while I was still in college, and have worked for myself ever since.

The kid needs to go out and fail, get rejected, be turned down because he is not qualified etc.....when he gets sick of it he will do something about it.

Some kids are happy with a nice car, smokes and beer and want for nothing else, hence not motivated to make big bucks, so being a non college person at that point is fine too.

inthestars · 05-29-2003, 12:18 AM

What is your son's hobby / passion that he is pursuing? I got pushed into going to college by my parents; I got the degree, plus 60k in student loans and no job! College does not guarantee anyone anything, in fact our generation is the first that won't do better than their parents.

polish_aristocrat · 05-29-2003, 01:40 AM

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Originally posted by Amputate Your Head
Even though what he wants to do is a bad decision?

he wants to start another TGP

?

pornJester · 05-29-2003, 01:47 AM

Show him this list...

10 Reason Why College is Better Than the Real World

10. You only go to class when you want!
9. Keg parties!
8. Hot girls that like to party!
7. Hot girls that like to put out!
6. Keg Parties!
5. A sense of accomplishment.
4. Hot girls that like to party!
3. Hot girls that like to put out!
2. Keg parties!
1. Hot girls getting drunk and keg parties and putting out!

Amputate Your Head · 05-29-2003, 01:49 AM

lol.... how many of you offering advice on this are old enough to have an 18 year old son?

Regards,

Amp

pornJester · 05-29-2003, 01:55 AM

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Originally posted by Amputate Your Head
lol.... how many of you offering advice on this are old enough to have an 18 year old son?

Regards,

Amp

not me but i can tell you college is the promised land... but only if you are in a college town. Send him to Gainesville, FL.. TheFLY will take good care of him

Amputate Your Head · 05-29-2003, 01:56 AM

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Originally posted by pornJester

not me but i can tell you college is the promised land... but only if you are in a college town. Send him to Gainesville, FL.. TheFLY will take good care of him

hey... is that Aaron in the bottom of that pic?

Regards,

Amp

05-28-2003, 06:46 AM	#55
dantheman OG Industry Role: Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 3,308	Good Luck Amp My oldest daughter is 17 and already doing her own thing, Nothing I say really means much SHe thinks shes got it all figured out already, man is she going to be disappointed. BUT I've used up all my options and it's on her for a while. If she needs me she better hurry before I disappear to the coast) __________________ M3server.com VPS>Get your 2nd month free Ded>$100 off your 2nd month since 1996 icq-25135623 dannyh at~m3server DOT com

05-28-2003, 12:18 PM	#57
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05-29-2003, 01:47 AM	#62
pornJester Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Florida Posts: 6,138	Show him this list... 10 Reason Why College is Better Than the Real World 10. You only go to class when you want! 9. Keg parties! 8. Hot girls that like to party! 7. Hot girls that like to put out! 6. Keg Parties! 5. A sense of accomplishment. 4. Hot girls that like to party! 3. Hot girls that like to put out! 2. Keg parties! 1. Hot girls getting drunk and keg parties and putting out! __________________ FreshBucks \| Webmaster Vault \| GayAW Trusted Names in Adult. ICQ 9157.3698

05-29-2003, 01:49 AM	#63
Amputate Your Head There can be only one Industry Role: Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Somewhere else Posts: 39,075	lol.... how many of you offering advice on this are old enough to have an 18 year old son? Regards, Amp __________________ SIG TOO BIG

05-28-2003, 06:30 AM	#51
DarkJedi No Refunds Issued. Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: GFY Posts: 28,300	beat his ass down

05-28-2003, 06:34 AM	#52
DarkJedi No Refunds Issued. Industry Role: Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: GFY Posts: 28,300	give him an ultimatum: - go to college with my support or - do whatever you want without getting a cent from me, you are on your own.

05-28-2003, 06:42 AM	#54
LeeNoga Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Egg & Sperm Mutation Posts: 3,043	Amp, my folks made my brother take a full golf scholarship and go to college, 2 months later he was thrown out and had a shitload of parking tickets. All he did was party and never went to class. I took time off at 18, and went to college at 30, my folks told me if I did not go in their time line they would not pay for it later. I decided to go to college at age 30, graduated at 37 with my BS in Business, and now deal with 30K in school loans, but I am glad I did it this way. College is something you have to want to do, otherwise your gonna spend money and he will eventually drop out or have such a low GPA he will never want to return once he regrets what he did to get that low GPA. Give him some time off, and re-visit this college thing in a year.

05-29-2003, 12:18 AM	#60
inthestars Registered User Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: California Posts: 2,021	What is your son's hobby / passion that he is pursuing? I got pushed into going to college by my parents; I got the degree, plus 60k in student loans and no job! College does not guarantee anyone anything, in fact our generation is the first that won't do better than their parents.