beat his ass down

give him an ultimatum:

- go to college with my support or
- do whatever you want without getting a cent from me, you are on your own.

Amp. He has to struggle. It's the mother of survival. We all have to go through it and scrape our knees, make decisions that might not be smooth or even safe....

Sometimes I wonder how I got to be this old..with some of the things I've done...

Your son has to find his road....you can't protect him from everything, much as you'd like to.

Amp, my folks made my brother take a full golf scholarship and go to college, 2 months later he was thrown out and had a shitload of parking tickets. All he did was party and never went to class.

I took time off at 18, and went to college at 30, my folks told me if I did not go in their time line they would not pay for it later.

I decided to go to college at age 30, graduated at 37 with my BS in Business, and now deal with 30K in school loans, but I am glad I did it this way.

College is something you have to want to do, otherwise your gonna spend money and he will eventually drop out or have such a low GPA he will never want to return once he regrets what he did to get that low GPA.

Give him some time off, and re-visit this college thing in a year.

Good Luck Amp :) My oldest daughter is 17 and already doing her own thing, Nothing I say really means much:( SHe thinks shes got it all figured out already, man is she going to be disappointed. BUT I've used up all my options and it's on her for a while. If she needs me she better hurry before I disappear to the coast:))

i know a lot of people who are happy to have kids. they even want more...

let him do what he wants and do NOT save him from the consequences. THAT'S how he'll learn.

It's not wrong at all. But you can't start when they're 18. It's too late.

Help him find out what he really wants to do with his life and then go from there.

My dad never wanted me to go to college because he knew I could do much better on my own. I insisted on going, so I went. One year of school was enough, I dropped out. I'd like to go back some day, but not out of necessity.

Sly I did the same thing kinda, did a year of college because that was what was expected of me, dropped out and went back for the hell of it at 30 until I got that damn degree.

I kinda got into porn as a result of a college class when the Doctorate proclaimed there was nothing recession proof, and I contested this remark and said, "Porn was".

Released my first world-wide XXX CD-ROM while I was still in college, and have worked for myself ever since.

The kid needs to go out and fail, get rejected, be turned down because he is not qualified etc.....when he gets sick of it he will do something about it.

Some kids are happy with a nice car, smokes and beer and want for nothing else, hence not motivated to make big bucks, so being a non college person at that point is fine too.

What is your son's hobby / passion that he is pursuing? I got pushed into going to college by my parents; I got the degree, plus 60k in student loans and no job! College does not guarantee anyone anything, in fact our generation is the first that won't do better than their parents.

he wants to start another TGP :Graucho ?

Show him this list...

10 Reason Why College is Better Than the Real World

10. You only go to class when you want!
9. Keg parties!
8. Hot girls that like to party!
7. Hot girls that like to put out!
6. Keg Parties!
5. A sense of accomplishment.
4. Hot girls that like to party!
3. Hot girls that like to put out!
2. Keg parties!
1. Hot girls getting drunk and keg parties and putting out!

lol.... how many of you offering advice on this are old enough to have an 18 year old son? :winkwink:

Regards,

Amp

not me but i can tell you college is the promised land... but only if you are in a college town. Send him to Gainesville, FL.. TheFLY will take good care of him :thumbsup

http://www.swamp.tec.ufl.edu/images/swamp.GIF

hey... is that Aaron in the bottom of that pic?

Regards,

Amp