Advice: How To Get Over a Girl?

As a matter of fact, we had a conversation a couple of weeks ago about photos and videos and it was agreed that I could use photos/videos of her or us in any manner I deemed appropriate.

Now, I'm sure you won't believe that, or you'll have some cutting retort into how she was really coerced into making that decision, but I will say this and then be finished with this thread:

She makes me happy. I enjoy her company. There are no rules. I'm not giving her "x" amount to be here. Of course all living expenses and occasional gifts are provided by me. I'm happy because before she moved in I told her not to have any false expectations. She wasn't going to get a US Passport from me through a fiancé/marriage scheme. It could end at any time - at her instigation or mine. She's free to come and go as she pleases, as am I.

For what it's worth, she says she likes to be with me, because it gives her "status" that she could never attain otherwise. Everyone has there own agenda and everyone gets gratification in their own way.

It was not my intention to portray her as a whore, a word I never mentioned, but many of you here did. And I don't treat her that way.

I'm happy to be happy and not have anyone have any false expectations of what is expected from me. It works for her and it's liberating for me.

No matter what I say here, many of you have dug in and deemed me a predator or worse. You are all entitled to your opinions, just as much as I'm entitled to live my life on my terms.

I don't post much here anymore, because I haven't updated my Clips4Sale store in almost a year (though I still make a few sales every month) and I'm now in a very successful, but completed unrelated business. Last night, I worked overnight with our prep team and had time on my hands and decided to post here and respond and respond. Stupid waste of time on my part, but a very valuable lesson was learned: I got nothing for all the time and effort posting here, I'm no longer in the business, so better to focus on my current business instead of parrying with people I'll never meet and never have any real interaction with.

I hope everyone has a happy and healthy 2015, and much success in whatever it is that makes you happy.

Thank you, this sounds like school games when a guy would tease a girl that he likes, I've never really tried that - I've only been keeping it real, complimenting and talking about the most mundane, boring shit.

Looks like I need to make some changes, and get a little interesting

I don't think there's any salvage this. This discussion showed something important that I didn't realise - she is probably the first girl that I've had such strong feelings for, because she does have a great personality etc etc. I don't think I've never felt like this about anyone else, yet - which is fine with me, I'm young and this is a learning experience.

I'm getting there, I'm going to man up and carry on.

I think I do need to change how I see women. I've seen them as a prize, I have put them on a pedestal, maybe I should change that view and see them as common, not very rare and that there's many of them. This change in mindset will help to take pressure off and probably be a good thing, on my attitude and my psychology.

I think this is a great idea, changing the mindset.

This has been a huge learning curve, and I agree I do want to learn from the mistakes made so I don't make them again and incur that cost.


I've given her all the power and thinking about it now I probably have been chasing like a puppy dog, maybe even smothering her - but I'm definitely going to change that.

She sent me a nice Christmas wishes message, to which I replied: Thank you, same to you and your family.

I'm going to create some distance, I'm not going to message her first anymore and I'm not going to go into detail, send long messages, answer straight away - basically let the ship sail.


She's already had too much power, time for me to get some freedom

Thank you for providing that input Randy, you have a very pretty lady there

I'm a huge fan of brunette/black hair, I find that extremely attractive, something about it that gives the lady a elegant look.

If you're happy and she's happy then that's the most important thing. Thank you for the wishes and may 2015 be a great year for everyone.

You sound very young. We were all young once and made all of the same mistakes (at least I did).

You're not pathetic, void of balls or a whimp. You have to understand that this group is not real forgiving (man that's an understatement).

Don't beat yourself up over it.

It's obvious she just isn't into you.

Move on and don't be so forward in the future.

A trip here to Thailand wouldn't hurt either. After a day or two you'll forget she ever existed, let alone where you came from, your family, your school, your job or your home

Thanks, I'm actually in my early 20s and she recently entered her early 30s, which is around a 7 to 8 year difference in age, this could also be a reason things didn't develop as I think she saw me as more of a kid and not an adult.

Also I think she is at a different level in her life where she has travelled etc and I haven't done as much, but what ever her reasons are I'm not too worried anymore (thanks to this thread and a change in mindset ).

Thailand sounds wild! I wonder what sort of mischief I would be able to get up to there

I think I needed the tough approach because these feelings had been keeping me back, I was feeling down and I don't want to give her that much power. I would be fine and get over it, then I would send her a message or she would send me a message and I would get right back into that zone, thinking about her a lot etc, which would throw me off once I analyse things, and get me into a downward spiral of emotions and mind wondering.

I consider myself to be mature, definitely more mature for my age and I'm not looking to play games with a girl. If she's interested then that's great, lets do things and see where it goes.

For this reason I think I prefer slightly older girls, because then hopefully they are more mature, they know what they want and they aren't looking to play games.

I look at girls my age and most are running around wild, getting drunk, partying like crazy - where I'm looking to do those things occasionally, but I would prefer other activities as well, not having that being the main focus.

I'm not sure what you mean here? Forward as in?

Meaning

I wouldn't be so transparent with my feelings with someone you don't know that well. That's all.

Bottom line, turn the page.

As for Thailand, it's as wild as you'd like it to be

Wait's till page 4 to drop this nugget

That's the thing, I met her in January this year, we would chat regularly as we work together, almost daily and I had been out with her to movies, dinner, clubbing etc.

So I felt as if we had a connection, we enjoyed our time together but I just wasn't sure where or if it could go any where, so my plan was to use the card as an indirect way to see if it could be anything, which gave her an easy way to acknowledge it if she feels anything or brush it off.

Obviously she has chosen to not even acknowledge the meaningful card which is fine, because I see it as if I have my answer and now my freedom back (even if I was keeping myself prisoner).

Maybe this wasn't the best strategy? Maybe I could have done this better? I'm not sure, but as you say maybe with experience I'll improve on this with time.

Any ideas on how I would have been able to test this better?

Through this thread I have also learnt that I need to be more aware if there are any signs that she likes me, maybe I should have paid more attention - but this is where I had conflict as she is such a friendly person that I miscommunicated her friendly personality into possible attraction/flirting - which was obviously not the case.

This was actually posted yesterday: http://gfy.com/20338247-post114.html

I was surprised that it wasn't discussed, so I posted that part again when discussing age.

So you think this could also be a major factor?

I think it might be an issue for her.

And the way you deemed appropriate was to post her photos on an adult board followed by comments about her performance in bed?

I don't give a shit how you lead your life or who you fuck but like I said Malaysia at least on the surface is a very conservative country and posting her photo so you can brag to strangers is a cunt move

Be as cavalier about it as she is. The more you try the more foolish you may look. She has your number. She knows how to contact you. Leave it at that. Hang it up if you haven't made 3rd base by now.

reality: the #1 turn on to women is access to future resources...fact: what ever you are fucking now will stop loving you the moment you lose access to future resources...prostitution is extremely relative...so is "Attracion"...you seem like a smart guy, women are attracted to intelligence, intelligence makes $...I will hazard a guess that your girlfriend has attractive physical features? sounds like the old money-for-beauty trade to me...

you are completely false in your assumption that one can not be happy with a 3rd world live in whore...given the relativity of prositution, and accepting that 3rd world women are just as capable of "being attracted" to the old money-for-beauty as western women, the dude with the live in whore is just buying a HTC instead of an iphone

you are in fact, dissing the guy for having a pre paid phone, instead of a contract one...but the contract one is not supposed to expire and you get to keep one and the same phone ...dude is just in a pre-paid agreement with the option to switch to a bran new shiny phone, and butt fuck it

look you chose the pussy pedestal...you chose to talking yourself in to believing that you will be interested in fucking the same thing for 10 years...you seem to care about what ohter passers by think with their fat slob wives and their contract iphones...dont hate a dude for wanting his dick polished by a non i-product...

and you make a lot of assumptions about the live-in-whore dude, like the live in whore would be happy with some 3rd world asshole otherwise or that she is incapable of actually liking him...also your assumptions about people who like live-in-whores are wrong...Im handsome and come from a banking family who has money, I know lots of people like me, who basically have girls come over to polish their dicks...I agree that SOME people abuse the prositutes...but you are kinda sounding like a desperate feminist when you jump to all these conclustions about the live-in-whore-guy and the fate of the live-in-whore if she was not the live-in-whore guys live-in-whore

dude...you are pedestaling milf pussy...agreed that gilrs in their 20-s want to party and get wasted ect...but thats no reason to go milf...have some self esteem you door mat LOL...love is not something you order like a pizza "one perfect and meaningful relationship please" ...its not your fault and you do not try to "adapt" to it LOL...even then, most relatioships fail...do not put women and pussy on a pedestal, try to make your dick happy as much as you can, and true love will or will not come who gives a fuck

no, you are young therefore your access to future resrouces is not as guaranteed and somebody who is more experienced...you are not considered a serious partner...

People that think there can be a symmetrical relationship between the sexes it's either naive or never been laid...