Advice: How To Get Over a Girl?

haha.. this reads like you followed a step by step guide on "how to turn a girl off by being a bitch".

the only true way to put it in the past as quick as possible and shut those chemicals down in your brain, is to start seeing more girls,... the more, the better.

Otherwise, just be honest with yourself. It is what it is. It will pass soon. She's telling you in every way that she's not interested without being mean. She doesn't want you. She won't want you and she will never be with you. Don't look for hope in texts, don't read into everything and just accept that it isn't going to happen and there are 10,000,000 more "very special and unique" girls out there just like her. You're young, one day you will laugh about these moments and how silly you are being and be embarrassed to even talk about how you acted/are acting right now. Man up.

In the future, don't act like such a bitch when pursuing a girl. Be an alpha male, not a bitch. Don't chase her. Don't shower her in gifts... think of your greatest masculine hero and ask "what would he do". You'll find better answers in that than in following your instincts which clearly suck. He definitely isn't acting like a twat. He's attracting women to him through his appearance, his character, his charm, his behavior, by being strong, by being interesting, by being a leader etc. He's not chasing them like a sad and lost puppy.

Women are biologically wired to find a strong mate. Strong character, strong personality, physical strength, style, intelligence, strong social skills etc. You've demonstrated yourself to be the opposite of everything she wants in a man (whether she consciously knows what she wants or not). Accept that you fucked it up, call it a learning experience and start over.


Oh... and Merry Christmas

Feelings?? Are you a woman?? She probably isn't a lesbian.

Never try to be what you think someone wants. Be yourself, a short lived relationship isn't a failure it's what was meant to be. Don't force anything, don't change. Smile, be courteous, move on.

The one person I guarantee you will wake up with every morning and need to be satisfied with is yourself.

Are you happy with yourself?

Regarding hero's, Harvey from the series Suits is a hero to me.

He doesn't take shit, he's never under pressure, he always has the answer and he is one of the best closers, in the show he can take any woman home.

I have in business said to myself, what would Harvey do - as on the show he finds creative ways to deal with issues and he is able to read people, able to handle situations tactfully etc.

Maybe I need to apply this Harvey attitude to more of my life, particularly dating.

Not being the nice guy is going to be an extreme change as that is the only approach I have ever used, and to be honest I haven't got far - not far at all.

Maybe its time for a change, maybe I should show some attitude, let them know I'm awesome and they would be lucky to be with me.

I see myself as always being a gentleman, from bringing her a chair to opening the door etc etc

I once nearly even asked a friend if he would rather let his girlfriend walk so he could give this girl a lift instead - she saw this and it didn't go down well.

Truth is, I could write a decent list of times that I think I've made mistakes with this girl that we're discussing now.

Never try to be what you think someone wants. Be yourself, a short lived relationship isn't a failure it's what was meant to be. Don't force anything, don't change. Smile, be courteous, move on.

The one person I guarantee you will wake up with every morning and need to be satisfied with is yourself.

Are you happy with yourself?

Do not "be yourself".

Never try to be what you think someone wants. Be yourself, a short lived relationship isn't a failure it's what was meant to be. Don't force anything, don't change. Smile, be courteous, move on.

The one person I guarantee you will wake up with every morning and need to be satisfied with is yourself.

Are you happy with yourself?

Right now she's sucking the cock of a guy who could care less about her birthday. What does this tell you?

It's important to understand that you don't have to be mean or a dick or get an attitude. It can be playful and fun. You have to be something thats congruent with your personality... you just need to stop doing some simple things that demonstrates weakness, lower social value etc.. It doesn't have to be a radical personality change. I mean, you can jokingly say "i'm shocked you haven't offered to buy me a drink yet" to a girl you just started talking to and have a funny reply to why you never buy women drinks or something or that disqualifies yourself as being interested in her like "you're not the type of girl i buy drinks for" .... where she obviously asks "what type of girl do you buy drinks for" and you have a funny reply ready,... or something that piques her interest, makes her ask more questions and leads into another funny conversation and keep the conversation moving with scripted stuff if you need to, until you don't need to.

If you want to treat a girl like a princess, that's fine, just figure out a better way to do it. You can read a million articles in like GQ or Details, you can get tons of advice from people on internet forums, or you can read dozens of books but what matters most is personal experience and that takes time.

Yeah, it's a good movie. It came out when I was in college. Here's another scene...

great troll, is this the same person all week doing these? I'm very impressed

but purely because I was being true to myself for the first time in years.

I wish this was a troll attempt to be honest. I've already wasted too many hours, too much money and too much emotion on this girl. I need to get over this so I can live my life again.

It's important to understand that you don't have to be mean or a dick or get an attitude. It can be playful and fun. You have to be something thats congruent with your personality... you just need to stop doing some simple things that demonstrates weakness, lower social value etc.. It doesn't have to be a radical personality change. I mean, you can jokingly say "i'm shocked you haven't offered to buy me a drink yet" to a girl you just started talking to and have a funny reply to why you never buy women drinks or something or that disqualifies yourself as being interested in her like "you're not the type of girl i buy drinks for" .... where she obviously asks "what type of girl do you buy drinks for" and you have a funny reply ready,... or something that piques her interest, makes her ask more questions and leads into another funny conversation and keep the conversation moving with scripted stuff if you need to, until you don't need to.