Advice: How To Get Over a Girl?

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  • WannabeMiddleMan
    Registered User
    • Dec 2011
    • 42

    #1

    Advice: How To Get Over a Girl?

    Hi GFY,

    I've been a webmaster for a while, but in this post I'm looking for some advice on life please.

    This year I met an incredible lady, she's amazing!

    We chatted, I got her number and invited her out for coffee (which she postponed) and then we spoke more etc and eventually went out on a few occasions.

    I've been developing feelings for her, and I do feel we have a chemistry, so I would flirt a little etc but nothing crazy

    Recently we arranged to go for dinner and on the message I said, "It's a date" to which she replied "Looking forward to hanging out" with a smiley face.

    From what I can tell that isn't a great reply, but I didn't take it that seriously.

    It was her birthday recently, so I bought her chocolates, a voucher and a very romantic card that basically called her someone very special to me, and I ended the message with Love, (my name).

    I had given her the gift 10 days before her birthday, she said she will only open it on her birthday, so I waited.

    On her birthday I thought she would phone me to say thank you, but she didn't. So I phoned her that afternoon and she didn't answer. That night she phoned me to return my call and I wished her for her birthday, we chatted and she mentioned she hadn't opened the gift, which was disappointing to me as I was really looking forward to mentioning the card, and saying how grateful I am to have met her etc etc and to feel out how she felt about me basically putting myself out there.

    3 days later she sent me a text thanking me for the gift, that's it - no acknowledgement of the very romantic card at all.

    So, I think that's a clear message that this isn't going anywhere, and here I am stuck.

    I think about her a lot, I get excited when I see a message from her, but this is depressing me knowing that this isn't going to go anywhere and I really need to get over her.

    I have a major exam coming up and I can't let these feelings screw up my future (I've already had a few days of feeling extremely depressed and sad thinking about her and what it would have been like with us together etc).

    Any ideas or advice will be greatly appreciated.

    Thank you.
  • beerptrol
    Confirmed Asshole
    • Feb 2003
    • 12722

    #2
    Grow a pair
    “If we are to have another contest in the near future of our national existence, I predict that the dividing line will not be Mason and Dixon's but between patriotism and intelligence on the one side, and superstition, ambition and ignorance on the other.”
    -- Ulysses S. Grant

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    • seeandsee
      Check SIG!
      • Mar 2006
      • 50945

      #3
      Give it some time, you will forget her, just hang out with other girls
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      • SuckOnThis
        So Fucking Banned
        • Oct 2003
        • 6844

        #4
        Burn her house down.

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        • mineistaken
          See signature :)
          • Apr 2007
          • 29656

          #5
          be a man and not some whimp

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          • WarChild
            Let slip the dogs of war.
            • Jan 2003
            • 17263

            #6
            Sounds like a job for hookers and blow.
            .

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            • Spunky
              I need a beer
              • Jun 2002
              • 133986

              #7
              Find one who will appreciate it

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              • Darkcrni
                Confirmed User
                • Jun 2007
                • 1704

                #8
                It's real simple, if she like you give her some time!

                If she don't like you give her all the time in the world and still she won't be yours!

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                • _Lush_
                  Confirmed User
                  • Jul 2005
                  • 536

                  #9
                  lose 1 get 2 new ones

                  its always worked for me. Then the old one gets really pissed thats the best part..


                  ok i just re read your post. you sound pathetic the girl has put you in the friend category clearly. You need to draw her attencion and the only way you are going to do that is by appearing confident. you need to get your confidence back first as someone above said hookers might be a good option for you. Nothing builds confidence in a guy better then fucking a fine hooker who makes you feel like the man. Thats there job. After you have fucked a few fine bitches you will have the confidence to get a normal girl do this and let her see you doing it. then she will change her ways with you. but byh then you might be over her and not even want her.
                  IcQ 50611033

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                  • CurrentlySober
                    Too lazy to wipe my ass
                    • Aug 2002
                    • 38938

                    #10
                    Originally posted by mineistaken
                    be a man and not some whimp


                    👁️ 👍️ 💩

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                    • L-Pink
                      working on my tan
                      • Mar 2005
                      • 39151

                      #11
                      Right now she's sucking the cock of a guy who could care less about her birthday. What does this tell you?

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                      • TheSquealer
                        Mayor of Thneedville
                        • Oct 2004
                        • 26172

                        #12
                        haha.. this reads like you followed a step by step guide on "how to turn a girl off by being a bitch".

                        the only true way to put it in the past as quick as possible and shut those chemicals down in your brain, is to start seeing more girls,... the more, the better.

                        Otherwise, just be honest with yourself. It is what it is. It will pass soon. She's telling you in every way that she's not interested without being mean. She doesn't want you. She won't want you and she will never be with you. Don't look for hope in texts, don't read into everything and just accept that it isn't going to happen and there are 10,000,000 more "very special and unique" girls out there just like her. You're young, one day you will laugh about these moments and how silly you are being and be embarrassed to even talk about how you acted/are acting right now. Man up.

                        In the future, don't act like such a bitch when pursuing a girl. Be an alpha male, not a bitch. Don't chase her. Don't shower her in gifts... think of your greatest masculine hero and ask "what would he do". You'll find better answers in that than in following your instincts which clearly suck. He definitely isn't acting like a twat. He's attracting women to him through his appearance, his character, his charm, his behavior, by being strong, by being interesting, by being a leader etc. He's not chasing them like a sad and lost puppy.

                        Women are biologically wired to find a strong mate. Strong character, strong personality, physical strength, style, intelligence, strong social skills etc. You've demonstrated yourself to be the opposite of everything she wants in a man (whether she consciously knows what she wants or not). Accept that you fucked it up, call it a learning experience and start over.


                        Oh... and Merry Christmas
                        .
                        Yes, fewer illegal immigrants working equates to more job opportunities for American citizens.

                        Rochard

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                        • WannabeMiddleMan
                          Registered User
                          • Dec 2011
                          • 42

                          #13
                          Originally posted by beerptrol
                          Grow a pair
                          Thank you, I need to hear that in this case

                          Originally posted by seeandsee
                          Give it some time, you will forget her, just hang out with other girls
                          Good advice, I'm going to try and organise this.

                          Originally posted by SuckOnThis
                          Burn her house down.
                          That's a little extreme, but I like your energy.

                          Originally posted by mineistaken
                          be a man and not some whimp
                          Thank you, I need to hear that in this case

                          Originally posted by WarChild
                          Sounds like a job for hookers and blow.
                          Now that's a great suggestion Maybe I'll go as far as a strip club, just to get over these dam feelings

                          Originally posted by Spunky
                          Find one who will appreciate it
                          I 100% agree, I also needed to hear this - gives me hope

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                          • WannabeMiddleMan
                            Registered User
                            • Dec 2011
                            • 42

                            #14
                            Originally posted by L-Pink
                            Right now she's sucking the cock of a guy who could care less about her birthday. What does this tell you?
                            Nicely put, it tells me that I've got to get over her and move onto better things?

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                            • WannabeMiddleMan
                              Registered User
                              • Dec 2011
                              • 42

                              #15
                              Originally posted by _Lush_
                              ok i just re read your post. you sound pathetic the girl has put you in the friend category clearly. You need to draw her attencion and the only way you are going to do that is by appearing confident. you need to get your confidence back first as someone above said hookers might be a good option for you. Nothing builds confidence in a guy better then fucking a fine hooker who makes you feel like the man. Thats there job. After you have fucked a few fine bitches you will have the confidence to get a normal girl do this and let her see you doing it. then she will change her ways with you. but byh then you might be over her and not even want her.
                              Yeah, I'm definitely in the friendzone. She doesn't see me as anything other than a friend from what I can tell.

                              I've never tried the hooker route, I've only ever gone as far as a strip club and dam did it have an impact on my confidence and how I treated women! You're right, maybe its time for another visit there.

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