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Cheshire · 03-07-2003, 12:42 PM

How did you know 'The One' was 'The One'?

Did it happen the minute you met them? In that moment, did it feel like you'd known them already?
Did it slowly build and manifest, until you looked at them and saw your future children?
Maybe you turned around one day and realize that your significant other was your matched puzzle piece in every way?

How many of you were pessimists until your heart changed your mind?

I'm just curious...

sextoyking · 03-07-2003, 12:44 PM

Hi,

It was all in the "eyes"

DrewKole · 03-07-2003, 12:45 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Cheshire
How did you know 'The One' was 'The One'?

Did it happen the minute you met them? In that moment, did it feel like you'd known them already?
Did it slowly build and manifest, until you looked at them and saw your future children?
Maybe you turned around one day and realize that your significant other was your matched puzzle piece in every way?

How many of you were pessimists until your heart changed your mind?

I'm just curious...

When you said, hi drew, I'm cheshire...

dchottie · 03-07-2003, 12:46 PM

I told my husband that he needed to get laid . . . told him I knew someone to do that for him . . . he accepted the offer and we have been together 24 hours a day 7 days a week since (almost 3 years) and we never get tired of being together. I just knew when I looked at him that he was the one. We work our 9 to 5 together and come home and work the porn biz together. Neither of us goes ANYWHERE without the other. We don't even shower by ourselves. It's always everything together. If you can stand to be around someone that much they are probably the one.

klik · 03-07-2003, 12:48 PM

'The One'... ended up being a fake.

A very convincing one too.. I fell for it for a couple years.

^R3K^ · 03-07-2003, 12:48 PM

I went to an Ex-Girlfriends house after work one time to get a little nookie, right when we were about to do our thing my now wife pulled up. she was good friends whith my X. I saw her and knew right them i loved and wanted to marry her. Instantly..

Snazzy · 03-07-2003, 12:50 PM

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Originally posted by klik
'The One'... ended up being a fake.

A very convincing one too.. I fell for it for a couple years.

I agree.. Love can be very decieving. Just be very careful that you don't end up getting hurt.

Cheshire · 03-07-2003, 12:51 PM

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Originally posted by ^R3K^
I went to an Ex-Girlfriends house after work one time to get a little nookie, right when we were about to do our thing my now wife pulled up. she was good friends whith my X. I saw her and knew right them i loved and wanted to marry her. Instantly..

I'm curious if you ended up banging the X anyway.

-=HOAX=- · 03-07-2003, 12:52 PM

There was a little plus sign on the tab...

Totally kidding...The real indicator was the ability to walk comfortably around the house doing our own thing in silence. And the total feeling of peace that came when she said, "Yes"

FATPad · 03-07-2003, 12:54 PM

She was on sale at RussianBrides.com. 50% off.

Knew it right away. Nothing says THE ONE like 50% off.

nocostporn · 03-07-2003, 12:55 PM

"I'm pregnant"

Miss Novette · 03-07-2003, 12:56 PM

We have a mutual friend who, before I met my sweetie, mentioned his name. I asked, "Who is he?". Our friend replied, "No one that would interest you."

We met a couple months later at the same friend's house. My sweetie and I were 'just friends' for a couple of years. One day, from out of nowhere, he made a move. We've been together ever since (10 years now).

^R3K^ · 03-07-2003, 12:59 PM

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Originally posted by Cheshire
I'm curious if you ended up banging the X anyway.

Actually I slept with both of them in a twin bed that night.. no nookie but lots of naughty gropping ;-)

xdcdave · 03-07-2003, 01:02 PM

Being able to fart and burp without her making you feel like an asshole.. that's true love

Dildozer · 03-07-2003, 01:06 PM

When she dumped me i knew she was the one, so i went out and got her back

She's grown accustomed to the ropes and being in the basement now

KRL · 03-07-2003, 01:16 PM

My first wife, in my early 20's, we were working at the same company. Her first day on the job, I was walking down the office aisle, she looked up at me from her desk. I froze in place. Our eyes locked, and we both just got lost in each other for what seemed liked an eternity. She then gave me the most beautiful smile and my heart just started pounding and I knew we had a destiny together.

My second wife, I was 30. My girlfriend at the time and I were going through a downturn in our relationship. She was working at Saks Fifth Avenue in LA. One day I went in to see her at work and there was a girl with her back turned to me in the cosmetics counter waiting on a customer. She was one of those types where you sit there thinking damn turn around girl I want to see the front view. She turned saw me looking at her and smiled at me with such a piercing sexy look I felt like lightning had hit me. She turned back to the customer then turned and looked again at me with a little cute giggle knowing I had been totally taken by her.

I walked up to her introduced myself and we just hit it off instantly. We didn't start dating though til about 6 weeks later cause I saw a ring on her finger and said oh fuck me she's married. Turned out her marriage was on its last leg. Another girl at work came up to me and gave me the scoop and said she wants to go out with you even though she hasn't filed for divorce yet.

Our first date was at the store Christmas party. After the party we spent 2 hours talking and then kissing like crazy in her car in the parking lot. We were in total lust and love from then on.

Damn Cheshire now ya got me all hot and horny thinking about all those lusty moments. . .

eiht_98 · 03-07-2003, 01:19 PM

It was the moment when I saw this picture

joking

this is for real:
I thought it was the right person...I thought I would marry her and live with her for the rest of my life...been with here for 9 years and 1 month ago she said.: "I need more space"....bitch

....don't come crying back to me

Nasty D · 03-07-2003, 01:26 PM

your sig is hot Chesire! The one for me is the one for the moment....although I have great memories with all my X's, I am sure glad I did not marry one of em!

OzKaNoz · 03-07-2003, 01:27 PM

Cheshire
It's the eye's and having the feeling like you already know them.
You know they say you can see the soul by looking into someones eye's.

Oz

PersianKitty · 03-07-2003, 01:29 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by klik
'The One'... ended up being a fake.

A very convincing one too.. I fell for it for a couple years.

In my case, I had two "the one"s who turned out to both be "The zeros".

HS-Trixxxia · 03-07-2003, 01:47 PM

PK.....The cola just flew outta my nose!!! Somehow, reading this and thinking of all this *love* talk....I felt it in me you would mention your ex's hubbies. Needless to say, the girls at the office want to know why I sounded like I was choking and there's coke all over the place.

As for us, my hubby and I met in a chat room - I was irritating him - he threatened me - I laughed - but was intrigued what was pissing him off. I sent him a cutout clip of my eyes - he called his mother over to tell her he was going to marry the owner of those eyes. She told him he should seek professional help. He flew to Montreal after 5 months and after all the bad experiences (I have a little PK blood running inside of me) I just knew he was the man I would marry. He truly fits my life like a piece of a puzzle I was so eagerly trying to find! It's been 4 years, we are together 24hours a day, pretty much like dchottie, we work regular jobs together and then work on the net together, we have a beautiful daughter together and a smart-ass son from my previous marriage.

Oh I forgot to mention I had never seen a picture of him until he arrived at the airport.

Beastiepoo · 03-07-2003, 02:07 PM

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Originally posted by Trixxxia
Oh I forgot to mention I had never seen a picture of him until he arrived at the airport.

I met my hubby on the internet and was in the same boat when we met. I knew he was 'the one' when I looked at him and immediately I changed my mind about never wanting to have kids. I had spent 6 years (from puberty until I met him) convinced that I never wanted to have children. After 3 months getting to know each other on the internet and over the phone, it only took 3 hours in his presence and I knew that I wanted to marry and build a family with him.

4 years and one 6 week old daughter later, we are still blissful.

TDF · 03-07-2003, 02:09 PM

easy..i fucked her

dantheman · 03-07-2003, 02:15 PM

"it" happen the moment I saw you dancing on the stage at the house of blues

Cheshire · 03-07-2003, 03:04 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by dantheman
"it" happen the moment I saw you dancing on the stage at the house of blues

would that be softness of the heart, or stiffness of the staff?

MonkeyMan · 03-07-2003, 03:07 PM

I poked it and it was firm (the jelly didn't ooz out) so I kept it.

There is no "ONE" I'll stick to jelly doughnuts.... yum.

Morgan · 03-07-2003, 03:15 PM

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Originally posted by Trixxxia
I was choking and there's coke all over the place.

Sounds kinky!~!

MrPopup · 03-07-2003, 03:26 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Cheshire
How did you know 'The One' was 'The One'?

When i woke up in a Mexican prison and Jésus called me his "esposa"

MrPopup · 03-07-2003, 03:28 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by ^R3K^
I went to an Ex-Girlfriends house after work one time to get a little nookie, right when we were about to do our thing my now wife pulled up. she was good friends whith my X. I saw her and knew right them i loved and wanted to marry her. Instantly..

Dont you mean "right when we were about to do our thing my now wife pulled OUT" ?

thatdykeliz · 03-07-2003, 05:27 PM

I knew my husband for about 3 years as "that really shy person." He hung around in the same group as me, went to the same parties and everything. And aside from being cripplingly shy, he was never able to speak directly to me or look me in the eyes...he could talk to some of the other girls I hung out with, but not me. And I always thought he was a little creepy. Big huge tall guy, never said a word, ignored me like I had the fucking plauge.

So fast forward 3 years...I had just broken up with my now-ex-husband, who had been my first lover and a complete disappointment in the sack, and I wanted to get laid. Wicked bad. I just wanted to fuck, man -- just find myself a booty call to keep around for getting my rocks off, byebye, don't hang around. Now, I knew that Sean (my present husband) would be pretty easy to get in the sack, because he had that "desperate guy" air about him...that "please fuck me because I haven't fucking seen pussy since I was BORN" kind of thing...so I called him up and asked him out, and he said yes. I know I said I thought he was a little creepy, but he's physically my type, and at that point I was like, fuck, I can deal with a little creepiness as long as he'll fuck me till I can't walk.

He comes over to my place, I ask him if he wants to fuck -- no niceities, just "Wanna fuck?" -- and he coughed and choked and stuttered out yes. He was great, no lie...I was happy, I'd been well-fucked, and I was about to ask him to leave when he said he had something to confess. He told me that the reason he'd never spoken to me very much or anything was that he'd been head-over-heels in love with me since the day he met me, and he was afraid I would find out...but now that we'd slept together, he just needed to tell me.

Now, this *could* have been a line...but I could tell, just looking into his eyes, that it wasn't. This guy was into me something fierce. And it...fuck, I don't know, *melted* that hard-as-nails part of me that wanted to kick him to the curb now that I'd gotten what I wanted. So we started dating.

And it was about 2 weeks later when I looked at him and realized...I was falling in love with him. It wasn't just about fucking anymore, I was falling in love with this guy, that he could potentially be the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

In June, that'll be 8 years ago that we started dating. He's my best friend, my partner, my everything, in so many ways. There has never been a time since we started a relationship that I haven't liked him...and to me, that's important. You can love someone even though you don't really *like* who they are. and I like him. He's keen.

So I can't really pinpoint when that "moment" was, with him, or with my girlfriend, either. For me it's a long, slow, easy movement toward realizing that this person is an integral part of my life and my happiness.

TheGoldenChild · 03-07-2003, 05:48 PM

I think you may be "THE ONE"

Get down here already and quit flirting and let's do this!

hahahaha!

Ya never know

G Sharp · 03-07-2003, 05:56 PM

I Interpret your question as "Does True Love exist?"

Depends on how you define "true"

I don't think it's 'true' in the Platonic "essentialist" term of the word--ie., there's no ABSOLUTE TRUTH to love. Absolute love would mean 1 perfect love for a person. This is not true because people can fall in "love" many times in their lives. PROOF = If a person was married and love his/her spouse then the spouse dies. The person meets another person and falls in love. If the first spouse lived and the person still met the person they would have fallen in love with in an "alternative universe" would he/she still fall in love? Probably NOT. The SITUATION of love is not there--he/she was not letting him/herself be OPEN to love.

Love, in its practical form, probably is situational. It depends on whether the person who wishes to love is opening her/himself to love. There are also differing levels to love... is it "fun" love or is it "practical" [ie., commitment] love?

Just my

Cheshire · 03-07-2003, 06:02 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by G Sharp
I Interpret your question as "Does True Love exist?"

Depends on how you define "true"

I don't think it's 'true' in the Platonic "essentialist" term of the word--ie., there's no ABSOLUTE TRUTH to love. Absolute love would mean 1 perfect love for a person. This is not true because people can fall in "love" many times in their lives. PROOF = If a person was married and love his/her spouse then the spouse dies. The person meets another person and falls in love. If the first spouse lived and the person still met the person they would have fallen in love with in an "alternative universe" would he/she still fall in love? Probably NOT. The SITUATION of love is not there--he/she was not letting him/herself be OPEN to love.

Love, in its practical form, probably is situational. It depends on whether the person who wishes to love is opening her/himself to love. There are also differing levels to love... is it "fun" love or is it "practical" [ie., commitment] love?

Just my

No, I asked when people knew their partner was the one for them. But thanks for playing.

jimmy3way · 03-07-2003, 06:11 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Cheshire

Maybe you turned around one day and realize that your significant other was your matched puzzle piece in every way?

Actually I have used this exact analogy with a friend of mine. Tho she isn't My One, she is my puzzle piece.

gripcash · 03-07-2003, 06:13 PM

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Originally posted by -=HOAX=-
Totally kidding...The real indicator was the ability to walk comfortably around the house doing our own thing in silence.[/B]

I have that with my dog. She must be the one.

Jak · 03-07-2003, 06:33 PM

I kept telling her I didn't want anything to do with girls for a while, since I had just come out of a crap relationship. She finally said "cool" and went away. When I missed her I realized she might be the one. She was. 8 years later and she's still my best friend.

a1ka1ine · 03-07-2003, 06:35 PM

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Originally posted by dchottie
I told my husband that he needed to get laid . . . told him I knew someone to do that for him . . . he accepted the offer and we have been together 24 hours a day 7 days a week since (almost 3 years) and we never get tired of being together. I just knew when I looked at him that he was the one. We work our 9 to 5 together and come home and work the porn biz together. Neither of us goes ANYWHERE without the other. We don't even shower by ourselves. It's always everything together. If you can stand to be around someone that much they are probably the one.

omg

Probono · 03-07-2003, 06:37 PM

Cheshire I can only share my experience. I met my wife at a business dinner in San Francisco. I though she was my host's girlfriend and spent the night talking to her. I feel head over heels. When she invited me to go with her to a friends house that evening I discovered she was not with my host but was engaged to someone else. It was a weekend in heaven and I talked her into visiting Tucson, we have been married 27 years.

Wilbo · 03-07-2003, 07:51 PM

I knew I was going to marry my wife after my father-in-law showed me the business end of his shotgun

G Sharp · 03-07-2003, 10:48 PM

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Originally posted by Cheshire
No, I asked when people knew their partner was the one for them. But thanks for playing.

You're welcome. But sometimes underlying assumptions need to be questioned. You just never know what you'd turn up or turn out

03-07-2003, 12:42 PM	#1
Cheshire Confirmed User Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Rosen-Villin Posts: 5,738	How did you know? How did you know 'The One' was 'The One'? Did it happen the minute you met them? In that moment, did it feel like you'd known them already? Did it slowly build and manifest, until you looked at them and saw your future children? Maybe you turned around one day and realize that your significant other was your matched puzzle piece in every way? How many of you were pessimists until your heart changed your mind? I'm just curious... __________________ just a little bit naughty

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dchottie Confirmed User Join Date: Feb 2003 Posts: 894	I told my husband that he needed to get laid . . . told him I knew someone to do that for him . . . he accepted the offer and we have been together 24 hours a day 7 days a week since (almost 3 years) and we never get tired of being together. I just knew when I looked at him that he was the one. We work our 9 to 5 together and come home and work the porn biz together. Neither of us goes ANYWHERE without the other. We don't even shower by ourselves. It's always everything together. If you can stand to be around someone that much they are probably the one. __________________

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-=HOAX=- Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: CrackYaMental Posts: 4,365	There was a little plus sign on the tab... Totally kidding...The real indicator was the ability to walk comfortably around the house doing our own thing in silence. And the total feeling of peace that came when she said, "Yes" __________________ Insert Value Here.

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KRL Entrepreneur Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: USA Posts: 31,429	My first wife, in my early 20's, we were working at the same company. Her first day on the job, I was walking down the office aisle, she looked up at me from her desk. I froze in place. Our eyes locked, and we both just got lost in each other for what seemed liked an eternity. She then gave me the most beautiful smile and my heart just started pounding and I knew we had a destiny together. My second wife, I was 30. My girlfriend at the time and I were going through a downturn in our relationship. She was working at Saks Fifth Avenue in LA. One day I went in to see her at work and there was a girl with her back turned to me in the cosmetics counter waiting on a customer. She was one of those types where you sit there thinking damn turn around girl I want to see the front view. She turned saw me looking at her and smiled at me with such a piercing sexy look I felt like lightning had hit me. She turned back to the customer then turned and looked again at me with a little cute giggle knowing I had been totally taken by her. I walked up to her introduced myself and we just hit it off instantly. We didn't start dating though til about 6 weeks later cause I saw a ring on her finger and said oh fuck me she's married. Turned out her marriage was on its last leg. Another girl at work came up to me and gave me the scoop and said she wants to go out with you even though she hasn't filed for divorce yet. Our first date was at the store Christmas party. After the party we spent 2 hours talking and then kissing like crazy in her car in the parking lot. We were in total lust and love from then on. Damn Cheshire now ya got me all hot and horny thinking about all those lusty moments. . . __________________ If you would like to develop your domains, you can lease inexpensive foreign labor from the leaders in the field at iWebmasters.com TO LOWER YOUR COSTS AND INCREASE YOUR PRODUCTION! * * * * * * * * * * * * Domains Adult News KRL's Newsletter Biz Tips Just Listed Domains Last edited by KRL; 03-07-2003 at 01:21 PM..

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eiht_98 Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: EU Posts: 6,103	It was the moment when I saw this picture joking this is for real: I thought it was the right person...I thought I would marry her and live with her for the rest of my life...been with here for 9 years and 1 month ago she said.: "I need more space"....bitch ....don't come crying back to me

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Nasty D Confirmed User Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: P-Town Posts: 2,563	your sig is hot Chesire! The one for me is the one for the moment....although I have great memories with all my X's, I am sure glad I did not marry one of em! __________________ Pimp Mandy Mayhem, Tabatha Sweet, Kristi Montana and Lexy Lohan @ Hawt Money

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OzKaNoz Confirmed User Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Deep With In Your Mind Posts: 1,834	Cheshire It's the eye's and having the feeling like you already know them. You know they say you can see the soul by looking into someones eye's. Oz __________________ Techie Media Web Hosting

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HS-Trixxxia Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Montreal Canada Posts: 2,946	PK.....The cola just flew outta my nose!!! Somehow, reading this and thinking of all this love talk....I felt it in me you would mention your ex's hubbies. Needless to say, the girls at the office want to know why I sounded like I was choking and there's coke all over the place. As for us, my hubby and I met in a chat room - I was irritating him - he threatened me - I laughed - but was intrigued what was pissing him off. I sent him a cutout clip of my eyes - he called his mother over to tell her he was going to marry the owner of those eyes. She told him he should seek professional help. He flew to Montreal after 5 months and after all the bad experiences (I have a little PK blood running inside of me) I just knew he was the man I would marry. He truly fits my life like a piece of a puzzle I was so eagerly trying to find! It's been 4 years, we are together 24hours a day, pretty much like dchottie, we work regular jobs together and then work on the net together, we have a beautiful daughter together and a smart-ass son from my previous marriage. Oh I forgot to mention I had never seen a picture of him until he arrived at the airport.

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03-07-2003, 03:07 PM	#26
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03-07-2003, 05:27 PM	#30
thatdykeliz Confirmed User Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: talkin dirty on the phone Posts: 1,026	I knew my husband for about 3 years as "that really shy person." He hung around in the same group as me, went to the same parties and everything. And aside from being cripplingly shy, he was never able to speak directly to me or look me in the eyes...he could talk to some of the other girls I hung out with, but not me. And I always thought he was a little creepy. Big huge tall guy, never said a word, ignored me like I had the fucking plauge. So fast forward 3 years...I had just broken up with my now-ex-husband, who had been my first lover and a complete disappointment in the sack, and I wanted to get laid. Wicked bad. I just wanted to fuck, man -- just find myself a booty call to keep around for getting my rocks off, byebye, don't hang around. Now, I knew that Sean (my present husband) would be pretty easy to get in the sack, because he had that "desperate guy" air about him...that "please fuck me because I haven't fucking seen pussy since I was BORN" kind of thing...so I called him up and asked him out, and he said yes. I know I said I thought he was a little creepy, but he's physically my type, and at that point I was like, fuck, I can deal with a little creepiness as long as he'll fuck me till I can't walk. He comes over to my place, I ask him if he wants to fuck -- no niceities, just "Wanna fuck?" -- and he coughed and choked and stuttered out yes. He was great, no lie...I was happy, I'd been well-fucked, and I was about to ask him to leave when he said he had something to confess. He told me that the reason he'd never spoken to me very much or anything was that he'd been head-over-heels in love with me since the day he met me, and he was afraid I would find out...but now that we'd slept together, he just needed to tell me. Now, this could have been a line...but I could tell, just looking into his eyes, that it wasn't. This guy was into me something fierce. And it...fuck, I don't know, melted that hard-as-nails part of me that wanted to kick him to the curb now that I'd gotten what I wanted. So we started dating. And it was about 2 weeks later when I looked at him and realized...I was falling in love with him. It wasn't just about fucking anymore, I was falling in love with this guy, that he could potentially be the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. In June, that'll be 8 years ago that we started dating. He's my best friend, my partner, my everything, in so many ways. There has never been a time since we started a relationship that I haven't liked him...and to me, that's important. You can love someone even though you don't really like who they are. and I like him. He's keen. So I can't really pinpoint when that "moment" was, with him, or with my girlfriend, either. For me it's a long, slow, easy movement toward realizing that this person is an integral part of my life and my happiness. __________________ <font size="1" font color="black"><i><b>"No pleasure, no rapture, no exquisite sin greater...than central air."</i> -- Dogma</b> ICQ#169.839.131</font>

03-07-2003, 05:48 PM	#31
TheGoldenChild Confirmed User Join Date: May 2002 Location: Pacific Palisades Posts: 6,940	I think you may be "THE ONE" Get down here already and quit flirting and let's do this! hahahaha! Ya never know

03-07-2003, 05:56 PM	#32
G Sharp So Fucking Banned Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,343	I Interpret your question as "Does True Love exist?" Depends on how you define "true" I don't think it's 'true' in the Platonic "essentialist" term of the word--ie., there's no ABSOLUTE TRUTH to love. Absolute love would mean 1 perfect love for a person. This is not true because people can fall in "love" many times in their lives. PROOF = If a person was married and love his/her spouse then the spouse dies. The person meets another person and falls in love. If the first spouse lived and the person still met the person they would have fallen in love with in an "alternative universe" would he/she still fall in love? Probably NOT. The SITUATION of love is not there--he/she was not letting him/herself be OPEN to love. Love, in its practical form, probably is situational. It depends on whether the person who wishes to love is opening her/himself to love. There are also differing levels to love... is it "fun" love or is it "practical" [ie., commitment] love? Just my

03-07-2003, 06:33 PM	#36
Jak So Fucking Banned Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: ripenedpeach.com Posts: 1,143	I kept telling her I didn't want anything to do with girls for a while, since I had just come out of a crap relationship. She finally said "cool" and went away. When I missed her I realized she might be the one. She was. 8 years later and she's still my best friend.

03-07-2003, 06:37 PM	#38
Probono Confirmed User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Under the Rainbow Posts: 2,731	Cheshire I can only share my experience. I met my wife at a business dinner in San Francisco. I though she was my host's girlfriend and spent the night talking to her. I feel head over heels. When she invited me to go with her to a friends house that evening I discovered she was not with my host but was engaged to someone else. It was a weekend in heaven and I talked her into visiting Tucson, we have been married 27 years.

03-07-2003, 07:51 PM	#39
Wilbo Confirmed User Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Baltimore Posts: 2,082	I knew I was going to marry my wife after my father-in-law showed me the business end of his shotgun