Reason for a guy to hit me?

I posted this in the wrong thread so I'll repost it here again:

Before I even say anything, I just want to say that the guy in question DID NOT hit me HARD, I don't have any bruises or anything! I don't want people to think that I get beaten on, or that my bf abuses me, or ANYTHING alike. I only got a little bit red and that was all, and it's the first time this has happened. But I am almost afraid to state what the reason was for the fight happened between me and my bf and I am hesitant that you all will think it is my fault.

What happened was that my bf was on the laptop on the pc, and I came outside to see what he was doing, and I kept on bugging him and reading over his shoulder, so he told me to go back into the bedroom. I didn't feel like going inside so I kept by his side and according to him I was annyoing him really badly (which is probably true) . So eventually he told me 5 times to go in the room, but he said it in a mean tone "Go in the room now." But the thing is that if he said it in a nice way, I probably wouldn't have gone inside anyways, because I'm stubborn. So instead I said
"Why do I have to always listen to YOU. You can't tell me what to do."

So he got really pissed off, and when we went into the room he was extremly pissed, like almost shaking and hyperventilating. He says that he does always listen to me (which is mostly true btw) and that he listens the first time whenever I tell him something, and that I am exaggerating and making it seem like he is always forcing me to obey him. And then he told me to get out of his house, and I wouldn't, so after he said it a few times, he got pissed and hit me on my thighs and slapped me (not too hard though) and threw my wallet me. It was hard enough that I could feel it, and I turned red, but i's not abuse I think, because I did not even get bruises or anything.

Even after the fight he still doesn't think he is wrong because he claims that I provoked him because I didn't listen to him when he told me to go inside 5x. And then he said that if I was a guy he would have punched me for "fucking with him in his house". And he says that sometimes that's why people kill their mates, because they get "pushed" emotionally.

And then he said that women these days really push it when it's the "man that goes to war." WTF, he never even joined the military, which I told him. But he said that if the troops in Iraq died and USA got invaded, the first line of defense would be the MEN, and that would include him, so therefore the women (I) should show more respect because the men fight for the women and children.

He is trying to say that I am being a hypocrite for thinking that it's not ok for him to hit me, just because I'm a girl, because it's the MEN who go to war. And the he asked why it's ok for me to hit him, but not vice versa? The thing is that I hit him playfully, and not with as much force as he did me, and I NEVER did it during a fight. Plus he was choking me too (not hard to the point where I am even close to dying, but just enough that I felt tingling). and then he STILL says that it's my fault because I was annoying
him while he was on the laptop.

He says that he was looking to order something for Valentines day for us, and he was mad because I was just bugging him non-stop. It's true that I can be very very very annoying sometimes, but I don't feel that's enough reason for him to hit me! He still will not admit that he is wrong and he still thinks that I deserve it, and I don't know what to do.

you know, there is NO reason for a man to hit and choke a woman, unless she is somehow a threat (knife, guns, etc.) and his life was threatened.

I couldn't ever see myself hitting a girl like that.

Reading your post, almost seems like you are accepting of abuse somehow. Dont turn into one of those women who defend their abusive husband...

I'd say you've picked a real loser and you should just leave.... his going to war bullshit is some weird fucked up shit.

Sounds to me like you actually wanted to get hit. What were u hoping to achieve from bugging him?

Start a new topic (post your pic) called: "would you hit it?"

Excuse me? He could have simply said - "It's a damn surprise, GTF out of the here or you'll ruin it!" Then she would have mozzied on down back to the bedroom & they could have fucked for a few hours in orgasmic peace. There is definitely something flawed with your thought if any of you think that an annoyance is a good enough reason to hit or choke someone - girl or otherwise. Screw up and hit a vital spot and that person dies and go to jail explaining you killed someone because 'they annoyed you'.

Lots of double standards in the world today thanks to people like you - spousal abuse of husbands is actually quite common but no-one does a fucking thing about it 'cos it a woman belting a man. I don't think its ever OK to hit a person - doesn't make much dif if its a woman hitting a guy or viceversa

Double-standards? Where did I say beating up a husband/boyfriend is acceptable? The moment you have to resort to hands to get your point across is the moment you have lost the battle cuz your brains find nothing else to justify your thoughts - that goes for man, woman, child.

I'd suggest you read it again cuz I never said a woman should/could beat up her boyfriend.

Suggest u read my thread cos I never said you said hitting a guy was acceptable - was simply making a point. Totally agree that hitting anyone isn't acceptable (except that Bush guy - grrrrrr)

Lots of double standards in the world today thanks to people like you

I posted this in the wrong thread so I'll repost it here again:

Before I even say anything, I just want to say that the guy in question DID NOT hit me HARD, I don't have any bruises or anything! I don't want people to think that I get beaten on, or that my bf abuses me, or ANYTHING alike. I only got a little bit red and that was all, and it's the first time this has happened. But I am almost afraid to state what the reason was for the fight happened between me and my bf and I am hesitant that you all will think it is my fault.

What happened was that my bf was on the laptop on the pc, and I came outside to see what he was doing, and I kept on bugging him and reading over his shoulder, so he told me to go back into the bedroom. I didn't feel like going inside so I kept by his side and according to him I was annyoing him really badly (which is probably true) . So eventually he told me 5 times to go in the room, but he said it in a mean tone "Go in the room now." But the thing is that if he said it in a nice way, I probably wouldn't have gone inside anyways, because I'm stubborn. So instead I said
"Why do I have to always listen to YOU. You can't tell me what to do."

So he got really pissed off, and when we went into the room he was extremly pissed, like almost shaking and hyperventilating. He says that he does always listen to me (which is mostly true btw) and that he listens the first time whenever I tell him something, and that I am exaggerating and making it seem like he is always forcing me to obey him. And then he told me to get out of his house, and I wouldn't, so after he said it a few times, he got pissed and hit me on my thighs and slapped me (not too hard though) and threw my wallet me. It was hard enough that I could feel it, and I turned red, but i's not abuse I think, because I did not even get bruises or anything.

Even after the fight he still doesn't think he is wrong because he claims that I provoked him because I didn't listen to him when he told me to go inside 5x. And then he said that if I was a guy he would have punched me for "fucking with him in his house". And he says that sometimes that's why people kill their mates, because they get "pushed" emotionally.

And then he said that women these days really push it when it's the "man that goes to war." WTF, he never even joined the military, which I told him. But he said that if the troops in Iraq died and USA got invaded, the first line of defense would be the MEN, and that would include him, so therefore the women (I) should show more respect because the men fight for the women and children.

He is trying to say that I am being a hypocrite for thinking that it's not ok for him to hit me, just because I'm a girl, because it's the MEN who go to war. And the he asked why it's ok for me to hit him, but not vice versa? The thing is that I hit him playfully, and not with as much force as he did me, and I NEVER did it during a fight. Plus he was choking me too (not hard to the point where I am even close to dying, but just enough that I felt tingling). and then he STILL says that it's my fault because I was annoying
him while he was on the laptop.

He says that he was looking to order something for Valentines day for us, and he was mad because I was just bugging him non-stop. It's true that I can be very very very annoying sometimes, but I don't feel that's enough reason for him to hit me! He still will not admit that he is wrong and he still thinks that I deserve it, and I don't know what to do.

The fact that you spent the time writing that mini-novel instead of dumping his ass makes me want to hit you.

You don't seriously think anybody in here cares enough about you to read this ridiculously long post, do you?

You sound like an annoying bitch. I wouldn't hit you though. But I hate annoying girls.

Plus he was choking me too (not hard to the point where I am even close to dying, but just enough that I felt tingling). .