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Originally Posted by Skillz Unlimited
Do you ever find yourself being mean for no reason? Guys you know how we will say something to our lady and then realize that it was a bit harsh later and try to make up for it? Well I find myself doing that sometimes and it hurts her feelings. I'm not like a complete dick but sometimes i am a bit of an ass. I dont cuss or yell at her but on occasion i'll say something mean. Maybe it's because i have no patience for dumb things. Maybe it's because i expect a certain level on intellegence from people so it frustrates me when i get anything less? Maybe it's because I really dont trust people (women especially because they are sneaky) until i am given a reason to trust so sometimes i am thinking 'what is she really up to' which will then put me in a bad mood. I'm working on the whole trust issue but as far as just mean comments I am working on being nice as well. I would like to be able to chill and just be nice to my woman but when i start being to nice she starts to take my kindness for weakness. Then when i am a some what of a dick she wonders what's wrong and becomes more humble. Not sure what to do but i dont want to be a scrooge. Any advice?
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This is so close to what I do from time to time that I could have made this post. It's a struggle, man. Like you mentioned, I have no patience for "dumb things" and I expect a certain level of intelligence as well as simply thinking of things through.
This part of what you wrote is true over here too: "I would like to be able to chill and just be nice to my woman but when i start being to nice she starts to take my kindness for weakness. Then when i am a some what of a dick she wonders what's wrong and becomes more humble."
Ain't that the truth? I don't understand that part either. If I kiss ass and tell her how beautiful she is (which I truly believe) and how lucky I am to have her (which I also truly believe) she seems to start seeing weakness, just like you say. But if I have an attitude like I really don't care she is trying to please me. Women!
We've been together for 5 years. But I have learned so much over the last 6 months it would be impossible to share it all here, especially since I have to leave to take my dogs to the vet in just a few minutes. Hopefully I'll remember this post later. There's a bit of a balance I've found that works well.