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Originally Posted by sperbonzo
It sounds like you guys are already locked into a game playing pattern whereby you need to be mean in order for her to respect you. That is a bad pattern, and she WILL end up cheating on you. Sorry to sound so adamant, but I'm 43 years old and I've been through a lot with women, and I've watched a lot of friends go through stuff.
My advice to guys is to never get into a long term relationship with a woman under 27. From the ages of 22 to 28 women go through a HUGE amount of changes and the girl that you love at 23 will be a totally different person by 28. I have watched so many friends go through this.
Just date around, don't put all your eggs in one basket until you are in your 30s, then start looking at girls in their late twenties.... THAT's when you can really look at relationships.
Find one where you can be yourself ALL THE TIME. If you find that you have to be mean to get respect, or buy her love with gifts, or act any certain way in order to keep her with you, then that is the wrong women. The ONLY way that a relationship will be truely long lasting is that you can always be yourself, and she can always be herself, all the time, 24/7, and you still accept, respect and love each other. Any other situation is simply based on sexual chemistry alone, or insecurity, or something else, and is ultimately doomed.
Here endeth the lesson.
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Excellent post Michael and I agree 100%.
Also, if she is being open and honest with you, you cannot begrudge her that. And if you continue to treat her poorly from time to time she may in fact go out and do the very thing that you are afraid of. Perhaps the other guys she cheated on were horrible to her...And if you think that she is of lesser intelligence than yourself, you are doing yourself and her a disservice because if it irritates you now, it will irritate you later on. Maybe you need to get over your insecurities before you get involved in a series relationship or you are always going to be where you are right now imo. Good luck!