How do you go about "seeing" a girl withou "dating" her and having her fall in love?

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  • Paraskass
    Confirmed User
    • May 2002
    • 5829

    #1

    How do you go about "seeing" a girl withou "dating" her and having her fall in love?

    Situation:

    I am newly single.
    I want to see this girl I like. I do not want a girlfriend, I do not want a serious relationship. I want somebody to have fun with, hang out with, have sex with. I do not treat women like shit, and in no way do I want to use somebody. I want to make it clear to this person I am not ready to love or be loved. Telling her this will not be a problem, the bigger issue is how can I avoid her falling in love with me? I do not want to hurt her in the long run.

    Should I just stick to beeing friends? Should I make a move and tell her I want nothing serious after?

    Last edited by Paraskass; 01-05-2005, 10:35 AM.
  • TheMob
    Confirmed User
    • Jan 2003
    • 8584

    #2
    you just have to improve your sex style

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    • nofx
      Too lazy to set a custom title
      • Nov 2002
      • 16826

      #3
      just flat out tell her the truth, you want a fuck buddy, not a lover.

      Often times I wonder why
      There's love and hate, theres live or die.
      When sickness comes I must decide:
      When feelings go, theres suicide.

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      • Paraskass
        Confirmed User
        • May 2002
        • 5829

        #4
        Originally posted by TheMob
        you just have to improve your sex style

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        • titmowse
          Confirmed User
          • Jan 2001
          • 5320

          #5
          tell her all that stuff up front --- before you sleep with her
          I still love everybody

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          • dunefield
            www.barely18movies.com
            • Feb 2003
            • 10920

            #6
            get a hooker... simple as that...

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            • Paraskass
              Confirmed User
              • May 2002
              • 5829

              #7
              Originally posted by nofx
              just flat out tell her the truth, you want a fuck buddy, not a lover.
              I don't just want a fuck buddy.

              I only want sex if it comes to that. I am not looking for sex. I am looking for all the qualities a GF can provide, but without the relationship and commitment.

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              • TheMob
                Confirmed User
                • Jan 2003
                • 8584

                #8
                paraskass, you can't have everything

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                • nofx
                  Too lazy to set a custom title
                  • Nov 2002
                  • 16826

                  #9
                  Originally posted by Paraskass
                  I am looking for all the qualities a GF can provide, but without the relationship and commitment.
                  nearly impossible I say

                  Often times I wonder why
                  There's love and hate, theres live or die.
                  When sickness comes I must decide:
                  When feelings go, theres suicide.

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                  • robfantasy
                    Confirmed User
                    • Jun 2002
                    • 6445

                    #10
                    just hang out and have fun. no labels attached
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                    • PerfectionGirls
                      Too lazy to set a custom title
                      • Oct 2002
                      • 4484

                      #11
                      Originally posted by Paraskass
                      Situation:

                      I am newly single.
                      I want to see this girl I like. I do not want a girlfriend, I do not want a serious relationship. I want somebody to have fun with, hang out with, have sex with. I do not treat women like shit, and in no way do I want to use somebody. I want to make it clear to this person I am not ready to love or be loved. Telling her this will not be a problem, the bigger issue is how can I avoid her falling in love with me? I do not want to hurt her in the long run.

                      Should I just stick to beeing friends? Should I make a move and tell her I want nothing serious after?

                      Man... thats a tough one. Im in the same situation now. The more I hang out with her the more I am seeming to really like her and her me. I say give it some more time and see where things are in a month. Thats what I am doing.
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                      • Spud
                        Confirmed User
                        • Jul 2001
                        • 340

                        #12
                        in that situation right now. best thing is limit the amount of time you spend together. to keep it casual means YOU have to keep it that way, so every time you want to go see her or she wants to see you, you have to ask yourself, where's the line and am I crossing it. I would also keep the sex sporadic, don't do it every time you see her. It also helps if she wants the same thing and isn't too codependent...
                        good luck!

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                        • Herb Kornfield
                          Is on the 1
                          • Sep 2002
                          • 4996

                          #13
                          Just remember that you may get blown off for another guy later on since there is no commitments or anything.

                          Everyone says they are ok with it until they get that dropped on them and know that as they are home that night making galleries and the babe is out getting pounded like a dollar steak from the ghetto mart from some other guy

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                          • StacyCat
                            Confirmed User
                            • May 2002
                            • 1167

                            #14
                            Originally posted by Paraskass
                            Situation:
                            I do not want a girlfriend, I do not want a serious relationship. I want somebody to have fun with, hang out with, have sex with.

                            Im in love!

                            Just kidding.

                            but, im looking for the same thing, and cant get it through guys heads what I want. I want good friends that I can have a good friendship with, call and go do something with, and have good times in bed with :-) I dont need or want a boyfriend.

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                            • Rorschach
                              So Fucking Banned
                              • Aug 2002
                              • 5579

                              #15
                              give her a brutal ass fucking once you get sick of her, and then ask if it's ok for your friends to come and join in, she'll be out the door in no time.

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                              • Paraskass
                                Confirmed User
                                • May 2002
                                • 5829

                                #16
                                Originally posted by Herb Kornfield
                                Everyone says they are ok with it until they get that dropped on them and know that as they are home that night making galleries and the babe is out getting pounded like a dollar steak from the ghetto mart from some other guy
                                cliff notes

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