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As you can imagine, I'm not very popular among my girlfriends for having that opinion, but I don't base my opinions on what other people want me to think, so I don't care.

The fact is, we already had the most important job on the earth-taking care of our families; raising the next generation. Since women decided they needed careers more than their children needed a full-time parent, we have more crime, more violence, more deadbeat dads, more drug abuse, more diseases, more health issues, more relationship problems, blah blah blah. It's ignorant to not acknowledge the correlation.

Now, I *am* a working single mom, so I know how it is..I know how hard it is to support a two-parent family with four kids on one income, and I know how hard it is to support a one-parent, three child family on one income. That's why I got into this biz-I can work from home, I can arrange my schedule around my kids, and I can earn enough to live more comfortably then working at Walmart will let me. But if that feminist movement hadn't happened, it wouldn't be so hard, because everyone did it back then..it wasn't until families had two-incomes that the economy adjusted for the larger incomes.

I believe women are capable of pretty much anything men are. Of course there are things men are better suited for, as a general rule, and things women are better suited for. That's why we are different-so we can each tackle different jobs. We didn't have to prove anything, and because we felt we had to, our families, our society, or children, have suffered. I'd like to think that if women knew how selfish their actions would turn out to be, they would have chosen differently, but who knows. Women tend to feel oppressed at every turn, even when there is none.

I would have been very happy staying home, taking care of my family, my home, and my husband. He didn't feel the same, I guess, and again, that stems from him seeing his mother bust her ass while he was growing up. It's like a waterfall, everything trickles down and has an effect.

And, you know, video games and movies may very well have a negative affect on our kids-but if their mothers were home, taking care of them, I bet they wouldn't be exposed to nearly as much crap.

Now both parents work, they don't feel connected to the family because they spend so much time away from it, so they look for comfort from feeling unfulfilled in other directions: affairs, shopping, maybe even porn, lol. The kids resent their parents because they feel like they don't care, and they turn to their friends, drugs, sex, gangs, etc. for their self-worth. Parents feel guilty for working, so they give their kids material things instead of the attention they need, and kids learn not to appreciate anything, and the parents practice this wishy-washy parenting because they are afraid to be disciplinarians because they know their kids hate them, or because they are scared DCF will nose in. *sigh*

And now, at this point, how do you turn it around? What can I do to teach my son that the way he grew up-seeing his mom bust her ass, seeing the men in his life fall way short of their responsibilities, having just one parent, etc.-is NOT the way it is supposed to be? It's not an easy task, by any means. All I can do is talk to him, all the time, and I do, lol. Thank God I have a very smart and mature kid who grasps adult concepts like responsibility and so on easily.

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