1. The script I use is my own and it does 1 database call per page.
2. Its not on Windows
3. I asked the host to tweak the Mysql for spikes and they replied they did.
4. I think they lied to me about tweaking and I guess I get what I pay for.
5. Time to move to a serious host, then and only then will I expose this host that has lots me thousands of dollars. Sigh.
Thansk to whoever started that webhost poll, I think from reading it I got who I want to go with.