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guy sleeps with 30 women = GO DAWG
girl sleeps with 10 guys = SLUTComment
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Some of the things I've found out have made me sick... seriously, sick. Nothing has ever made me feel sick before like that.Originally posted by bdjuf
its a dilemma I'm faced with...
I am always curious to know what my GF did in the past, but many times the information i recieve hurts me... I wish I didn't know
what about you? is it important for you to know your girlfriends past?
or do you not care? as long as she is good and loyal to you?
try to keep a blind eye, that sorta thing...
anyways, just a confused dude looking for enlightenment here
I feel I need to know these things, but still wish I didn't. I guess it's just that I wish it never happened at all.Comment
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If I'm serious about a girl then yes I want to know her past cos I wouldn't get into no serious relationship with a slut.
..if its just a casual sex thing then I really couldn't give a shit.
My current girl made me go for a STD test before she would let me hit it. She did the same.I don't endorse a god damn thing......
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I think all girls in there time have hoe'd out for a period of time and if not your asking for trouble.... Woman have that urge to do it at some point..... Would you rather it be before you or during your relationship. Just my
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Originally posted by sexyclicks
guy sleeps with 30 women = GO DAWG
girl sleeps with 10 guys = SLUT
nah nah more like this
Guy who sleeps with 30 women in high school = Go Dawg
Guy who sleeps with 30 women and is 30 years old = practically a virgin
So you have to switch it up.
Guy who sleeps with at least 12 different women a year = Go Dawg
Girl who sleeps with more than 1 man a year = Slut
See its a sliding scale. And you have to be fair to older chicks who aren't married.
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damn straight on that one KK... some self righteous hypocrites in this thread.Originally posted by Kimmykim
Might I also suggest you that rethink your classifications when deciding you are in a position to judge other people.
time to grow up boys and get over yourselves
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here's the bottom line. this is the answer to your question.
if you are curious, simply ask her. too many people play games and they aren't completely 100% open and honest with each other. too many people hold back feelings from each other and it ends up causing a lot of unneeded stress.
there is absolutely no reason you can't ask her something that is truly on your mind.
how do you expect something to work out in the long run if you can't be open w/ them?
sure - it is a sensitive issue "one's past" - and i assume that is in the sexual sense, but still - it IS their past, it IS what they have done, if this girl trusts you enough she'll at least set you on the right path.
the goal is to converse with her until your (curiosity, needs, emotions, mind) is satisfied. obviously an amount of respect and understanding is needed on your behalf though - as this is an issue that many people aren't comfortable talking about.
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Excellent post!Originally posted by irishfury
I think all girls in there time have hoe'd out for a period of time and if not your asking for trouble.... Woman have that urge to do it at some point..... Would you rather it be before you or during your relationship. Just my
I've said it before and I'll say it again.
DON'T marry a virgin!
No matter how much she howls and screams when she comes, she's ALWAYS gonna be curious to know if, "That's as good as it gets."
If they've sown their oats prior to you getting married, or together, whatever, and she sticks with you, THEN you know you've got a keeper. Plus, you'll probably never have to worry about her cheating on you.
As for the original post, sitting down and asking about her past? If you're secure, which it sounds like you're not, go for it. Over time, this stuff is gonna come out anyways.
When she talks about her time at "Band Camp" you have a frame of reference as to what it really means to her....she lost her virginity, she fucked all the camp counsellors or maybe she just liked the campfire songs. Either way, you'll know WHY those past memories are so fond.
You won't be in the dark wondering what that sly little smile on her face is about.Comment
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We don't have a past. I was her first boyfriend and she was my first girlfriend.Comment
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If you do care about her, you should hope she has a bit of a wild past. That way it is more likely you can stay with her for a while with out her wanting to expiriment and stuff.
Or you can expiriment with her, get a few of you friends to....
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a wise man once said...
Originally posted by EscortBiz
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thats a serious relationships? i've had fuck buddies more serious that that.Originally posted by bdjuf
never, I have only had 2 "relatively serious" relationships in the past and 1 lasted 2 weeks and the other lasted 3 weeks
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from personal experience.... leave it alone.Comment
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Well I think LadyMischief is right, everybody has a past behind,so people should just live what they are living NOW cuz PAST IS PAST and it can change...SO, if u get upset about it, then DON'T ASK!!!
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Who cares about her!
You'll cheat on her when you go to CALI anyways.
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Originally posted by maxdaname
Who cares about her!
You'll cheat on her when you go to CALI anyways.
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If she sleeps with you right away, she's a slut and she's not sleeping with you just because you are all that. But there are ton's of other guys she would sleep with right away.
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Originally posted by ronaldo
Excellent post!
I've said it before and I'll say it again.
DON'T marry a virgin!
No matter how much she howls and screams when she comes, she's ALWAYS gonna be curious to know if, "That's as good as it gets."
If they've sown their oats prior to you getting married, or together, whatever, and she sticks with you, THEN you know you've got a keeper. Plus, you'll probably never have to worry about her cheating on you.
As for the original post, sitting down and asking about her past? If you're secure, which it sounds like you're not, go for it. Over time, this stuff is gonna come out anyways.
When she talks about her time at "Band Camp" you have a frame of reference as to what it really means to her....she lost her virginity, she fucked all the camp counsellors or maybe she just liked the campfire songs. Either way, you'll know WHY those past memories are so fond.
You won't be in the dark wondering what that sly little smile on her face is about.
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Beer good is right. 10 guys for a 30 year old girl doesnt = slut. for a 20 year old it does. And the girls that suck everyones dick in highschool and pretend like it doesnt count are the biggest sluts of allOriginally posted by sexyclicks
guy sleeps with 30 women = GO DAWG
girl sleeps with 10 guys = SLUT
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Um, riiiiiight.Originally posted by DatingGold
If she sleeps with you right away, she's a slut and she's not sleeping with you just because you are all that. But there are ton's of other guys she would sleep with right away.
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Originally posted by Kimmykim
Um, riiiiiight.
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If you really like her, Dont ask her about her past. What you dont know, wont hurt you.PornGuy skype me pornguy_epic
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Most women are shallow sluts. Most guys, too.
When you ask a woman about her sexual past, she will either tell you that she is in fact a slut (in other words ofcourse), or she will lie. If she tells the truth, she may be a slut but at least she's honest and might tell you after she cheats on you (which will happen, because your obvious insecurity will eventually drive her away). If she says she's not a slut, i.e. she lies, she'll not tell you when she cheats on you.
Choosing between asking or not asking about her past is like choosing between a kick in the balls or a brick in the face.
Basically, you can't win. Ask, don't ask - it doesn't matter. If you're stupid enough to get emotionally attached to a woman you're screwed anyway./(bb|[^b]{2})/Comment
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Puhleeze.Originally posted by Kard63
KimmyKim is the defender of all that is skanky.
I'd bet I'd have a hell of a project on my hands attempting to defend your past.Comment
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Aids, chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, genital warts and syfilis will hurt you, I think.Originally posted by pornguy
If you really like her, Dont ask her about her past. What you dont know, wont hurt you./(bb|[^b]{2})/Comment
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yes, i must know what makes the tramp tick, but that's me and my sick mind
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I have the same problem right now. My current bf told me went on a rampage and was with probably around 10-15 girls in the past 10 months or so and half of them were hookers...
I think it's disgusting and it bothers me, but it is my own fault because I already knew about it from the very beginning, so he wasn't trying to hide anything. The thing is that I am very obsessive compulsive and I keep questioning and bitching to him him about it non-stop and I think it is causing us to fight a lot. The thing is that, I feel it is ok for me to be judgmental because I haven't been with a lot of guys AT ALL, and he's been with just about 10x more people than I have, so it's not hypocritical of me to judge him because I haven't been with a lot of people myself.
Sometimes it really gnaws at me and it is really driving me crazy; I cannot stand it. I asked him what the girls look like, what he did with them, how hot they were, how much he paid ( for the ones that he did pay for), where he picked them up at... It's just that every answer he gives just makes me wonder about new things to question about, it's a never-ending cycle.
Also, he did get tested for std's and everything came back clean. But his past still bothers me a lot. What to do?Last edited by phogirl69; 11-01-2004, 08:15 PM.Comment
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personally i like to know..
It takes a real man to handle it though. You have to get past the jealousy. Once you get past that, her former sexual excounters can be very erotic and interesting.
Just except the fact that there will be guys who are better lovers than you, have bigger dicks than you, etc.. Many guys cant get past that. Just be happy with yourself and you will find you can talk openly with her about her past and it can really bring you two closer together as well.. Word of advice, play down your past and tell her that she is the best and sexiest.. Or you're fucked..
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Every one have a past, one day your past might hurt your partner too in the future. So just think it opposite way & u might know how to handle it...
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Wellllll.... I waited and waited and waited for someone else to bring up a very important point.
I guess I'll do it myself.
bdjuf, what is it that attracts you to this girl? Is she bright, funny, witty, cynical, sarcastic, biting, happy, has a great sense of humor, likes the same movies you do?
Whatever it is, there's a reason for it.
And everything that she's done up to this point, that's what makes her what she is.
Just like everything that's happened to you makes you the guy she's interested in.
Everything, even seemingly minor incidents, shape us into the people that we are. If you took something away from the history, you'd have an entirely different scenario. For instance, WW2 without Poland wouldn't have been the same. Iraq with WMD wouldn't have been the same. Easter without the Easter Bunny wouldn't be the same.
Know what I'm saying...Comment
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Well said!Originally posted by DukeSkywalker
personally i like to know..
It takes a real man to handle it though. You have to get past the jealousy. Once you get past that, her former sexual excounters can be very erotic and interesting.
Just except the fact that there will be guys who are better lovers than you, have bigger dicks than you, etc.. Many guys cant get past that. Just be happy with yourself and you will find you can talk openly with her about her past and it can really bring you two closer together as well.. Word of advice, play down your past and tell her that she is the best and sexiest.. Or you're fucked..
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Originally posted by ronaldo
Excellent post!
I've said it before and I'll say it again.
DON'T marry a virgin!
No matter how much she howls and screams when she comes, she's ALWAYS gonna be curious to know if, "That's as good as it gets."
If they've sown their oats prior to you getting married, or together, whatever, and she sticks with you, THEN you know you've got a keeper. Plus, you'll probably never have to worry about her cheating on you.
The problem that I have is that my boyfriend told me the truth about everything in his past, because he wanted me to know who he really was. I suppose you can think of that if they have been through it all and they stick with you, that they are a keeper. But you can also think, that they know everything that is out there, and have been with all kinds of girls, even the best looking ones, so why would they stay with me? Or since they know what's out there, they are more likely to crave for it again?
I know everyone has a past, but the truth is that I haven't had many sexual partners in my life, while my guy has around 16 or 17. And I know that someone stated that you need to get over it, no matter how "sordid" it is, but my guy fucked around 7 or 8 hookers in the past. Now that to me is beyond sordid. I can't explain why, but it really gets to me, to the point where we argue about his past all the time, even though it was before me. I think about it ALL the time and it really really gets to me to the point where I can't enjoy myself with anymore.
Thus, I feel like I can be more judgmental, and that it's ok for me to judge, because I have been with 1 guy my whole entire life, while he went on a rampage and banged a shitload of girls.
And how do you get over someone's past like that? I tried but I really can't.
He got tested, so I know he is clean. But this is something that is eating away at me and bothering me so much. I don't know if it's the competition with the other girls in his past, or my ego, or the jealousy or everything all together... And this is superficial, but I know some of the girls were extremely hot and that bothers me a lot too, since they were hotter than me. It's just everything combined. I just wanted a good guy to settle down with, and now I know that hardly anyone is good. and it is making me really feel hopeless and lose faith in all men. He told me that perhaps 90% of his friends still fuck hookers even though they are in a relationship and or married. And it just makes me think of the diseases they could potentially give to their women, and obiously they just don't care. Everything is just really getting to me,Last edited by phogirl69; 11-12-2004, 05:23 PM.Comment
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if im serious about her, yeah. especially if im gonna be fucking her without protection. we've all done some things we might not be proud of but if you can't share your life's story with the person you are supposed to be closest with, there might be a problem. in my own opinion.you don't know you're wearing a leash if you sit by the peg all day..Comment
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Also, Just like how bdjuf wants a "good girl" I want a "good guy." Difference between him is that he whores it up tho, and i don't. I just want someone who is similar to me without too much of a past.
Somehow I just fell into this dude and now I am this damn mess with his sordid past.Comment
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Yet another poster child for the school of don't ask, don't volunteer.Originally posted by phogirl69
The problem that I have is that my boyfriend told me the truth about everything in his past, because he wanted me to know who he really was. I suppose you can think of that if they have been through it all and they stick with you, that they are a keeper. But you can also think, that they know everything that is out there, and have been with all kinds of girls, even the best looking ones, so why would they stay with me? Or since they know what's out there, they are more likely to crave for it again?
I know everyone has a past, but the truth is that I haven't had many sexual partners in my life, while my guy has around 16 or 17. And I know that someone stated that you need to get over it, no matter how "sordid" it is, but my guy fucked around 7 or 8 hookers in the past. Now that to me is beyond sordid. I can't explain why, but it really gets to me, to the point where we argue about his past all the time, even though it was before me. I think about it ALL the time and it really really gets to me to the point where I can't enjoy myself with anymore.
Thus, I feel like I can be more judgmental, and that it's ok for me to judge, because I have been with 1 guy my whole entire life, while he went on a rampage and banged a shitload of girls.
And how do you get over someone's past like that? I tried but I really can't.
He got tested, so I know he is clean. But this is something that is eating away at me and bothering me so much. I don't know if it's the competition with the other girls in his past, or my ego, or the jealousy or everything all together... And this is superficial, but I know some of the girls were extremely hot and that bothers me a lot too, since they were hotter than me. It's just everything combined. I just wanted a good guy to settle down with, and now I know that hardly anyone is good. and it is making me really feel hopeless and lose faith in all men. He told me that perhaps 90% of his friends still fuck hookers even though they are in a relationship and or married. And it just makes me think of the diseases they could potentially give to their women, and obiously they just don't care. Everything is just really getting to me,Comment
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I think this is really an age issue. When I was younger I was totally hung up on the "I want a good girl not a slut" issue just like Bjuf explains. Since I wasn't very sexually experienced I didn't want a girl that was sooooo much more experienced than me that I wouldn't "live up" to her best times and it made me insecure.
Now that I'm a bit older (29) and have had my share of "experiences" I'm a lot more comfortable & secure about myself.... A LOT MORE.
Now I could really give a shit about her past cause I know I'm bad ass and being with me is awesome. No matter what's she's done in the past doesn't matter cause I'm better obviously or she'd still be with them. Plus a sexually experience women is just more fun.
Ya I know the part about "me being bad ass" sounds cocky... but that's the point. If you are secure with yourself then what she's done shouldn't matter.
Just my 2
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This is true, but the difference between me and Bdjuf is that he is a hypocrite. He thinks it's ok for him to whore around but not for the girl. But I am not like that, I don't have a double standard, I just wanted someone who is similar to me. Also, even though I have a cow when I find out the truth, I am still one of thoseOriginally posted by Kimmykim
Yet another poster child for the school of don't ask, don't volunteer.
people that insist on knowing the whole entire truth. I don't want to hear white lies in order to spare my feelings, but I admit it is still hard for me to deal with the truth. But I feel as if I HAVE to know the truth because I don't want to live in a lie.
I know that the past makes you who you are, but hookers?! To me it is beyond sordid, and I just can't seem to get over it, I don't know why.Comment
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About the age issue, I'm only 3 years younger than you, so I don't think it's that. And it's easy for you to say you are a "bad ass" but as for me, to be honest, there are always going to be girls who are better looking than me, I know I am not a perfect 10, how do I compete with that?Originally posted by Meloman
I think this is really an age issue. When I was younger I was totally hung up on the "I want a good girl not a slut" issue just like Bjuf explains. Since I wasn't very sexually experienced I didn't want a girl that was sooooo much more experienced than me that I wouldn't "live up" to her best times and it made me insecure.
Now that I'm a bit older (29) and have had my share of "experiences" I'm a lot more comfortable & secure about myself.... A LOT MORE.
Now I could really give a shit about her past cause I know I'm bad ass and being with me is awesome. No matter what's she's done in the past doesn't matter cause I'm better obviously or she'd still be with them. Plus a sexually experience women is just more fun.
Ya I know the part about "me being bad ass" sounds cocky... but that's the point. If you are secure with yourself then what she's done shouldn't matter.
Just my 2
And also, I am not "completely" naive, I always read up on tips on how to please you man (I think I've read about almost everything there is to read about that) and watch tons of porn, but it's hard to compete with a professional hooker who's goal and livelihood is revolved around fucking. I don't know why but I suppose I am intimidated by them in a twisted way. Even though I haven't had a lof of partners, I've had a long term relationship so I do have a lot of experience, although with one person. But I don't know if I am good enough to compete with those hookers. He told me the ones he was with were street walkers and not even high class escorts, but still, I am sure that some of them were hot. Isn't this great? Now I find myself having to compete with a fuckin' damn hooker.Last edited by phogirl69; 11-12-2004, 06:25 PM.Comment
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I'm of the opinion that the past is nobody's business unless the actions of the past can have a negative effect on the present.. or the future.. or unless an individual chooses to discuss their past...
Then again.. I like chocolate chip celery..
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They aren't all virgins. I say if you can handle knowing it, find out, if not, don't ask.AKA - ClubsexyComment
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I'd call it some sort of deep seated desire for self-flagellation. Why, I wouldn't even attempt to guess, but it's not healthy.Originally posted by phogirl69
This is true, but the difference between me and Bdjuf is that he is a hypocrite. He thinks it's ok for him to whore around but not for the girl. But I am not like that, I don't have a double standard, I just wanted someone who is similar to me. Also, even though I have a cow when I find out the truth, I am still one of those
people that insist on knowing the whole entire truth. I don't want to hear white lies in order to spare my feelings, but I admit it is still hard for me to deal with the truth. But I feel as if I HAVE to know the truth because I don't want to live in a lie.
I know that the past makes you who you are, but hookers?! To me it is beyond sordid, and I just can't seem to get over it, I don't know why.
You seem like a nice girl, this is a major stumbling block for you, and you're probably not going to ever find a man that hasn't done something you'd consider worse than sordid on some level under your current values system.
Am I saying that I'm in favor of hookers and whatever else bugs you? Not at all -- I'm just trying to suggest that you might want to talk this out with someone that can help you figure out why it bothers you so much and try to help you figure out how to deal with things.Last edited by Kimmykim; 11-12-2004, 07:05 PM.Comment
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Watch the movie "Chasing Amy", it'll answer your question more thoroughly then you want.Originally posted by bdjuf
its a dilemma I'm faced with...
I am gay
what about you? is it important for you to know your boyfriends past?
or do you not care? as long as he is good and loyal to you?
try to keep a blind eye, that sorta thing...
anyways, just a confused dude looking for enlightenment here
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nice editOriginally posted by bdjuf
its a dilemma I'm faced with...
I am gay
what about you? is it important for you to know your boyfriends past?
or do you not care? as long as he is good and loyal to you?
try to keep a blind eye, that sorta thing...
anyways, just a confused dude looking for enlightenment here
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damn... that wasnt cool, bdjuf isnt gay. may look it to you, but that kid is a fucking pimp.Comment
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Better to find out now then later when your really deep in the relationship
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The last thing I want to discuss is the past. With my past it's not a door I want to open.
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she told me i was her first!!!!!!!Originally posted by media
I already know about my wifes sexual past.. I was her first.. Everything from there is new writing in the book....This dog, is dog, a dog, good dog, way dog, to dog, keep dog, an dog, idiot dog, busy dog, for dog, 20 dog, seconds dog!
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