http://www.monsterlinkswap.com/
i am not making a dime off that link...just informing
kickass link exchange program, they track and check your links for you...i have 3 sites in there now, and I am getting about 5-10 solid hard link exchanges a day
takes a huge load off my back for sure for these new sites I am getting going....no adult section though, sorry....targetted more for the mainstream